Posted: 15 May 2011 at 8:40am | IP Logged
@ Arwenish: About Geet and Maan behaving, sans any inhibitions, with Dev, I can actually offer an explanation. It started off with the Holi episode, where Geet allowed Dev to apply the colour on her and applied colour to Dev herself, right?
Below is the relevant extract of my explanation for that episode.
Why did Geet allow Dev to apply colour to her? Why did Geet apply colour on Dev's forehead?
I understand from posts that this was a last-minute call while the
shoot was on and not a part of the original script. I, too, am unhappy
with what was portrayed. Nonetheless, I will attempt to justify this on
the basis of the past episodes.]
We were shown that Geet has forgiven Dev. We are willing to live with that.
when we saw Geet smile at Dev and allow him to apply colour, we were
livid. Our anger knew no boundaries when Geet went ahead and applied
colour to Dev on his forehead (tilak). She could forgive, we said, but
not forget. She ought to have shown discomfort when Dev attempted to
apply colour on her, and she ought not to have applied colour to him.
then I asked myself to look at it from another perspective. Let's go
back to the episode at the farmhouse, the one where Geet forgave Dev.
Let's bear in mind here that, from Geet's point of view, Dev is truly
repentant for what he did. Now, one of the reasons Geet gave for
forgiving Dev was that she did not want anyone to be burdened on account
of her. She did not want Dev to be weighed down by the burden of his
guilt. I referred to this earlier and cited Geet's own first-hand
experience of living a life laden with guilt or some other sorrow. She
has always expressed her reluctance for anyone else to be burdened on
account of her. A case in point is when she refused MSK's offer to be
his fake fiancee telling him that she did not want his life to be
weighed under the burdens of her life. Another instance is her decision
to move out of the Manchandas' house, lest her pregnant status bring
disrepute to the Manchandas.
So, what did we see? Dev applied
colour to Grandma and instinctively moved to the next person, who
happened to be Geet. Dev hesitated and lowered his eyes in what could
be construed as remnants of the burden of guilt that continued to plague
him. This was seen by Geet, who truly does not want anyone else to be
burdened on account of her. If she were to show any displeasure, it
would indicate that she had merely mouthed the words of forgiveness, but
not truly meant it. By smiling at Dev, Geet indicated that she had
truly forgiven him and sought to release Dev from the last vestiges of
his guilt. By applying colour to him (and the forehead was the only
available respectable place) and wishing him a happy holi, she
conveyed her wishes of a new start for the repentant man. A new start
free of the burden of guilt. A new start on the morning of Holi, the evil having been consigned to flames in the fire of holi during the preceding night.
Subsequently, after Geet left the house, we were shown that Maan too forgave Dev. This was signified by him placing his hand on Dev's shoulder before he left for Amritsar.
So, if Dev is truly forgiven and that is to be conveyed, how can it be conveyed if Maan or Geet changed their expressions when he was around? How can it be conveyed if they talk brusquely to him? What is true forgiveness? We let go completely of the past. We let it go in such a way that the object that is the wrong done to us casts no shadow as we walk along -- no shadow behind us and no shadow ahead of us.
Edited by hegdemedha - 15 May 2011 at 8:57am