Originally posted by Wafah
"Kahe hatey hum. Arre tum humri dharampatni ho na? Hum kaahe hate bhaiyya? Kya hua? Dar lag raha hai humse?"
"Why shall I move? You're my wife, right? then why should I move? What happened? Are you scared of me?"
I like this exchange because Runjhun is again trying to push Guddu away in her hurt. She is disgusted by his actions but for most part she is hurt by his actions. I think Guddu's insecurities come out in this statement the first. It's like questioning Runjhun, why she keeps him at a distance always. Guddu has always sensed the distance Runjhun seems to place between him and herself, and in some way it has always bothered him. So subconsciously I think this voices his insecurity based on if she is his wife, why is there still a emotional distance. He doesn't asks if she's disgusted by him? He instead asks if she fears him, and I think either of them bothers him, which is why he tries to get a rise out of Runjhun rather than her be quiet, because he rather have her fight him, then be disappointed or afraid of him, or disgusted of him. Also when Runjhun responds her voice is full of emotion.
"Inhi haatho se, us sharaab khaane mein, us ladki ko chooa. Aur phir unhi haathon se humein choo rahe hain."
"With these hands, at the drinking bar, you touched that girl. Now with those same hands you're touching me."
Here the fact that Guddu touched another female seems to bother Runjhun the most. I think at some level Runjhun is disgusted, but on a different level the fact that Guddu touched another female (I'm not saying he can't touch females), especially considering the fact that Runjhun has just gotten comfortable to Guddu's touches, emotionally hurts her. Runjhun had said when Guddu touched her that because of Guddu she wouldn't be able to let any man touch her because he'd created an emotional scar on her with his touch. This in parallel to Guddu telling her later that if anyone else but Abhi touches it becomes impure. Of course he's referring to himself but to me it matters to both of them...whether it is a touch of respect, a touch of understanding or a touch of trust...those touches matter Great post!
I'm going to zero in on the distance and touching part.
Guddu really is putting his selective memory to work when he asks Runjhun,
"Kahe hatey hum. Arre tum humri dharampatni ho na? Hum kaahe hate bhaiyya? Kya hua? Dar lag raha hai humse?"
"Why shall I move? You're my wife, right? then why should I move? What happened? Are you scared of me?"
Can he really not think of a single reason Runjhun does not want to be close to him (besides the whole touching the dancer thing that she says later)?!?
Its both understandable and obvious (to us viewers) that Runjhun still has not forgotten their touches in the past, pre-marriage, however Guddu seems to ignore this part of their history, and this is clearly affecting the rightful evolution of their relationship.
Another related point, is the fact that Runjhun once again repeated that she is
disgusted by him (ghin=???). Now imagine, if somebody like a stranger said that they were disgusted by you, most of us would probably be shocked and suffer at least a tiny bit of self-doubt. Now imagine, if it were by somebody you knew, like say a friend, teacher, or neighbour, you would probably be a lot more effected and very introspective and hurt by this statement. Now, Guddu and Runjhun's relationship is much closer than that, imagine how it would feel when somebody you're supposed to spend your entire life with (and seven junums (spelling???) with) says something like that to you. That they are disgusted by you and can't bear to have you touch them or even near them, imagine at best the frustration and at worst the hurt and the anger and the self-doubt (now compounded by how Guddu remembers Abhigyan and Runjhun's interactions, and how
his touch
didn't disgust her) that Guddu must now feel.
When it comes to nearness and touches, Guddu and Runjhun now have to solve
two inter-related issues when it comes to closeness between them:
1) The first issue, is their past history of how they interacted with each other pre-marriage, and they must heal Runjhun's fear from being locked in a room together, Runjhun has still not forgotten how this made her feel and the consequences of it.
2) The second issue, is that part of Runjhun's hurt from the locked room incident comes from the fact that she feels that he is "impure" and she still feels this way tbh. Basically she has to stop feeling disgusted by him. She still feels that he is a gunda, and thus, a bad person, morally and ethically, Guddu must find a way to convey to her that while yes, he is rough around the edges, he is not a bad person, after all she still finds a way to accept her dear relatives even for all of the evil they've done. We can see a quick peak into this revelation of Guddu not being that bad of a person, from the incident with the kid and the accident, how heroic and righteous he seemed to Runjhun after that and how she defended him because of it.
Okay, yeah, I'm just going to stop now, please forgive my run-on sentences😆.
Edit: formatting
Edited by Pleiades - 12 years ago
