Posted: 13 May 2011 at 9:45am | IP Logged
Friends, today I have noticed many topics coming up with Viren's insecurities and rift between NiVren due to Dwita. I will bring my points out because of my own experience of being a parent. I am sure this will benefit you all and you will be able to understand the track more easily.
Today we saw a new level of trust, faith,love and understanding between NiVren. These 2 are real soulmates, life partners. Being a life partner does not mean that you will be there only when times are good and life is like roses. Instead it means that you will be there in times of sadness, pain and when life is not good. That is what a true life partner will do. And till now we have seen that they both have fulfilled this responsibility with true heart. Yes, you all will say that Viren was the stalker and he hurt Nivi. But won't you admit that yes he was stalker but he was still there for her. He always made sure that he is there close to her during those times and support her and make her more strong. The strong and confident Nivi that we see today is because of those hard times. Hard times make you strong mentally. Yes when she was attacked, Viren did not stop that attack but he was the one who brought her back and ignored his pain and sat there with Nivi till she regained conciousness. He ignored his pain. So he repented in that way. And then when he lost her he again repented and realized what a gem of person Nivi is and did all to get her back. He succeeded as Nivi forgave him for his sins because she also realized that Viren has changed and he truly loves her. In this journey they both understood each other at a totally different level.
That is why Viren knew that Nivi will break and will not be able to bear this pain and iljaam. And he knew how to stop her and he used the tactic that will stop her from ending her life. So, we saw the different level of communication between them.
But now we will see another aspect of married life when a couple becomes parents. The baby changes the whole situation and equation between husband wife. There is now a 3rd person in their life that is fully dependent on them. Initially baby is fully dependent on mom and hence needs undivided attention. And those initial months are very crucial for the marriage too as a husband feels ignored. This is the time when mom needs more help from others so that she can give time to her hubby too. That is why there are like million of articles which tell how a new mom should ask for support and how she should spend some quality time with her hubby so that he does not feel ignored. This is the time when hubby's do get haywire...as they look for love. And now if Viren feels neglected then it is right too. Males are a very emotionally weak gender and they cannot tolerate if their other partner neglects them. It takes time for them to understand the situation. So, it is upto female to keep the balance. And once husband sees that even though baby is here but she is giving time to him too then he is fine. And then he does not care. That is why I said initial months are crucial.
I had a smile seeing the condition of their room and closet in the precap. This is what happens when a baby arrives. But this condition will only make their marriage more strong as when their own baby comes, they both will be ready and well prepared. I am glad CTs are showing the real-life situation in this show but they need to also show that Viren does not come in the talks of his mom. As MIL's (CC kind of) try to take advantage of such delicate situation. I hope Nivi takes help from VD and YD to raise the baby and not take the full responsibility on herelf.
Hope I did not bore you.
Edited by anjubala - 13 May 2011 at 10:36am