I have been thinking about posting a topic that I am sure a lot of you would disagree but again I wanted to vent this out of my system or I might just keep thinking about this over and over again.
A well known phrase came to my mind when I was watching old CCBM epi. And it goes- "Friends can be lovers but lovers can never be friends as the spark of their past can ignite the present and future". I think this is still relevant in today's times as it was yesterday. The fact that I think is wrong was Nivi's act of confiding in Sid about Yash-Bhaiji deal. Why I think it was wrong?? because Viren was involved in this matter already and was handling the situation really well until Nivi-Sid convo and Sid's decision to file the complaint (which I thought was stupid coz Nivi didn't even call Viren or tell Sid that Viren is with me so you need not worry..Urrgghh). I don't doubt Nivi-Sid's intentions but it's practically difficult to take someone as your friend if you had a scene with them in the past and especially if it ended up in an ugly break up. When couples split up with mutual consent it's still easy to deal but not when there is sacrifice involved or the relationship ends with love being in either of the partner's hearts. Here they both had love and yet chose different paths. There were times when Nivi would ask Sid to stay away from her or say "please don't talk to me or else Di will get upset" which to me was somewhat wrong. If you really don't want to talk to someone or want to avoid them then you simply don't communicate or reciprocate their act but instead Nivi began singing her tune that due to "Di" she didn't want to be on talking terms with Sid. In reality such statements could create rifts b/w couples and Nivi should have known this better given that she is mature enough. Her statement could have meant for Sid that she herself didn't want to stay away from him but doing it for Divya. Don't you think that was wrong? If I were in the same situation, I wouldn't have let my ex-lover know that I am avoiding him because of my sis or my hubby because the last thing you want to know is you are the reason for someone's fights and insecurities. I would have stayed away from my ex-lover especially if my Hubby knew about my fling or others had a hint even if my heart was clean because you may have clean intentions don't mean the other one feels the same. You can never judge people no matter how close you are to them and no matter how nice your hubby is the past can come haunting if not buried well enough. This is the reality folks (I can say that coz I have seen my best friend go thru this). Just because Viren trusts her doesn't give her the right to keep chanting the Sid name. Nivi should have either sat down with Divya to clear the air of what's between her and Sid or she should have simply got off Divya's case meaning not running after her changing her diapers or spoon feeding at every step. If Nivi is now being blamed for what happened with Divya then either she should say that Sid was the one to persuade her to file the complaint or she should simply take the blame because she doesn't want Sid to get into any trouble (yeah yeah the same old stuff "He is really nice and my best friend and blah blah). Nivi might not have any feelings for Sid (which I find it very difficult coz in order to have someone out of your mind they first need to be out of site but anywho) but she confided in him, cared for him (like the adrak wali chai scene where Div gets upset, Kheer mein "X" cheez mat dalna Sid ko nahi pasand) which she did not have to do. Sid has a wife now and Nivi doesn't have to go that extra mile with doing what Sid likes.. that's Div's responsibility. There were times when I felt that Nivi was just being over the top with Sid stuff and neglecting Viren (this is exactly what I feel). She has the guts to yell at Viren, give me him lecture about family and other peoples feeling but for once Nivi why don't you look at yourself? Do you know what your own husband likes, do you know his fav color? No right??? Why would you because you can't think beyond family and Sid. And if you come to think about Nivi knowing Sid's like's and dislikes is very dumb. How can a 7-8 years old (I believe that was her age when Sood's moved out of Simla) remember what her friend likes considering that she didn't remember one single thing about Viren or that he even existed? Huh seriously Nivi?? I find this very stupid but alas only if CT's of CCBM had brains 😡
Again, only if Nivi knew how to handle situations and relationships especially with Sid and Divya then things would have been different. After all it takes only one sensible person to straighten up things which the CT's should have shown Nivi doing that. This serial is telling people that it's ok to ignore the wrong doings and torture the one that cannot rebel against you. I am sure now Nivi will want to make a big sacrifice (which I hope not) knowing the fact that Divya lost her life because of her. The fate of this show depends on how they shape up the story and Nivi's character which audience will either cherish (if they do justice) or praise with rotten eggs if they decide to go otherwise (I don't want to use those words..eeekks).
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