Originally posted by: Moontide
I agree that AS had part fault in her kids feeling less "cared for" or "special" compared to Dutta. But I also feel that, in the end, she did love them and care for them as much as she could - considering her situation (losing her husband, adopting the killer's son) and those issues with Kala, Leela, and Roops didn't get as bad as it did until Dutta became bhau, so yeah - abandonment issues, but also greediness played a huge part in their going astray. However, as much as AS and Dutta could've handled things better, in the end Kala, Leela, and Roops had a well-functioning intellect and could most definitely tell right from wrong. That they decided to throttle the voices of their zameer (minus Kala who doesn't even have one), it was a choice they made and thus they should suffer the consequences. I feel that Leela has paid. But Roops, despite being young and immature, still knew that she'd done him wrong and so I believe that she should have a consequence as well. But oh well, we've moved on and really, I am just thrilled about this Leela-Dutta moment, to be honest. Yes, Aayisaab did try to evently distribute her love and attention, but guess, subconsciously more of it went to Dutta. You can just see that "special" love and affection in her eyes for Dutta, which I havent noticed much for the others. But even I've always maintained, Kala, Leela and Roops are big ENOUGH to distinguish between right and wrong, they need not be told at this age as to what to do and what not (especially, Leela is a married woman, and a mother herself!). But I guess the reason to this is, maybe Kala has been influencing Leela and Roops since a tender age, thus even as grown ups, they carried the same mentality. I think Roops has been punished less considering she is younger and more immature, she only knew one positive thing back then - "so cute na" 😆 But I guess, even she suffered a lot in that store room playing "LTL Big Boss", and she was the one who was really crying and cosying up to Aayisaab like a hurt child! So guess thats Roop's redemption.
Its a common, involuntary/unintentional thing with many mothers I think. They tend to give that special attention to the Boy child. And in Dutta's case AS probably made that extra effort because he was in fact more an orphan than anything else. He had lost his mother and that had made AS significantly more protective towards him than the others. DP being a monster of a Dad, she felt he needed her protection, care and love more than her own two daughters. Kala being the eldest then must have been entrusted with responsibilities way beyond her age and grasping power. May be she felt other than her father and mother, Dutta had taken away her childhood from her as well. AS thought she was the eldest so she would be the most understanding and least in need of emotional support. AS herself was truing to cope with a world that had turned upside down for her. But may be where Kala is concerned she was wrong in a way. This happens in life. People take it for granted that if you are the eldest, you are in a better position to cope and provide support to the rest. Which isn't always necessarily true. And if at a tender age you grow sour the way Kala did, coping becomes the biggest strain.
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