Originally posted by radha_bilahari
It was convenient for Padma to allow people to pamper her son. A child without the influence of the father in his life and coupled with her insecurities only led to the spoilt behaviour of the child. a mother has to take things to hand especially in the life of her child and mould it to ensure that the child has positive and proper guidance during the growing years. she also happens to be a person to pass the buck on others rather than take responsibilities for the action. yes, a poetic justice for Padma too.
Although having both parents is best for the development of a child but people do die and there are many kids in this world who have lost either of their parents in whatever circumstance but have themselves grown up to be well balanced individuals. I have known two people in my life whose fathers have died before they were born...and both have developed in different ways and the reason was their mothers and the family environment...one's mother was very insecure, did not know how to stand up for her daughter, the mother was blamed for the untimely death of her husband, the daughter was blamed for the untimely death of her father, the daughter grew up to be manipulative, attention seeking insecure person who later on clung on to her own sons, spoilt her own daughters. The other child was also born after her fathers death, but her and her mother were never blamed for this death, the mother was very mature and has always stood up for her daughter...has scolded her daughter when the daughter used to play up...requested her family members to love her daughter but not to spoil her...and as a result that child grew up to be a well balanced and responsibe individual.Both the girls grew up in conservative families in India. Its difficult for the single parent but thee are parents who rise above themselves to do it. Unfortunately Rohan did not have that.
I do agree that the surviving parent has to stand up for the sake of their children rather than getting lost in their own grief. I too know of such circumstances in my family where the mother has fought against her grief and concentrated on the matter at hand, which is prioritising the welfare of her children. Very sad that Rohan did not have this guidance during his growing years and the result is there to be seen.
Dev was trained to sacrifice if need be even his life for the sake of his brother. I really wish he gets to understand that this teaching and the effect of following this has only led to a major catastrophe for which he is likely to be blamed by one and all when the whole situation comes to lime light. Will there be anyone to realise that he was doing it as a sacrifice? Well, this only time will tell.
Well he will be blamed but does he have the right to sacrifice Radikas happiness for his obligation. What right does he have to spoil someones elses life? At some level he is doing this to Radhika because he considers Radhika as his own... since he has no sense of identity he is doing the same to Radhika...but Radhika is not an object, she is a human being. So if someone asks Dev this question will he have any answer? Also he could have been upfront to Rohan regarding Radhika and then left the decision to Rohan. Now if someone asks Dev that why did he do this to Rohan then will he have any answer. So I really hope that someone makes Dev understand that one cannot play with others life to fulfill their personal duties...will the creatives show this as his personal growth, I have no clue.
Personally I do not want Dev to think even in any corner of his heart that Radhika is his. If he entertains such thoughts, then he is trespassing into dangerous waters. for me, he will almost become like Yudhishtir who in his weakness for the game of dice gambled his wife. For Dev his weakness is the PB family and his personal obligations and therefore sacrificed his wife (assuming that he considers her his wife rather than love) The reason why I feel this way is, had he not known that he was married to Radhika, then the benefit of doubt goes to him that he is sacrificing his love, but here he knows that she thinks they are married, that will be there in his mind though he is in denial, which means he is in dangerous territory.
Radhika was clinging on to KK, because this was forced on her. Otherwise, she would have been more bubbly and cheerful during her growing years as rightly put in by her father. Her father also lived this truth with her. apart from the fact that she was married to KK which was her strongest belief she also did not want her father to get the sin of marrying her off to another person when she was already a married girl. But a mistake once committed cannot escape punishment, that I do agree.
yes thats why I mentioned about her young age and as part of her growth.
for her to be doing a selfless dedicated service without expectations may not be in tune with her age But to understand this teaching of Gita, she has to go through different stages in life and by realisation understand the depth of this teaching to have the desired effect.
She is educated in scriptures so she should know this but again due to her one track mind she might be ignoring it or not realising its effect.. Will like her to leave after she has done her work in the Purohits house.
Again I have no clue as to whether the creatives will show this as her character growth.