DOTW: Unrequited Love

 

🤗Hello People!! 🤗

I am back again, with yet another DOTW 😲 ... this time based on Love 😳 .. or rather 'Unrequited Love' 

We have heard several stories and songs about love gone bad .. about people who are not loved back by those they love dearly ' 

why is that so?

Could it be that the person is not actually in love but it could just be an infatuation?

They say "Love conquers all" if that is true then how come we have sooo many cases of unrequited love? Why don't all lovers get to be with their beloved? Is it ONLY the circumstances / fate / destiny that is to blame?

Lets take KAM for example ..

(OK please don't jump on me for saying this '😲 😆)

Hammad loves Imaan truly and deeply ' but Imaan doesn't reciprocate .. sure she feels bad for the condition he is in.. but that's just sympathy .. which any good natured human being would feel for another fellow being's suffering ..

Is it fair to force someone to love you back, by constantly pursuing them?  Imaan did say in her letter to Hammad, that Mohabbat mein zid nahi hoti' but then again, everything's fair in love and war !! or is it?

On the other hand, Love knows no bounds .. it cannot be controlled' you don't think when in love .. it's not conditional ' Hammad is doing just that ' one cannot really control such a strong overwhelming feeling ' so he is right in his own way ' his intentions are pure .. but yet he fails 

 

So my question is --- Is unrequited love real? Could it be true love? Does true love exist or is it just a  myth?

okay guys, break a leg 😳 ...or break the silence .. whichever   😆 

Edited by seert - 12 years ago

Firstly thank you once again Alizeh for doing a DOTW. I hope others take up the initiative as well.
Secondly, great job once again with the idea and the presentation!
Now moving on to the topic:
Hmm ok unrequited love doesn't necessarily mean it's not genuine or not as worthy as requited love. Also one tends to go after things they want hence pursuing one's love is not any different. Nevertheless one does have to know that this is a person you're dealing with and not some sort of object. If it's obvious that the person doesn't reciprocate your feelings then let them be. Leave them alone and move on...this isn't Edison trying to invent the light bulb.

Having said all that, I don't buy into the media's definition of love, which has made the concept very glamorized and quite superficial. All that nonsense of 'all is fair in love and war' and 'love at first-sight', etc seems pretty fluffy and unrealistic to me.

Ive been realllyyy busy lately!

Really really sorry for not coming back at the previous DOTW...

i HAVE to comment at this, if im not here in 2 days, cud u Please SCRAP me, allizayy??

i dont read PMs 😳

Edited by -_AfridiMalik_- - 12 years ago

Originally posted by: -_AfridiMalik_-

Ive been realllyyy busy lately!

Really really sorry for not coming back at the previous DOTW...

i HAVE to comment at this, if im not here in 2 days, cud u Please SCRAP me, allizayy??

i dont read PMs 😳

Thanks!

EDITTED!

Ok, pehle toh, im glad to be back! 😃

now...

I believe in Love, but NOT LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT!!!

I Think its Shit! 🤔 [Sincerely no offence to people who believe in it... But here i am to explain, on how fake it is, and i'll convince u my way! 😆]

Love at frst sight CANNOT exist, one of the major reasons why im not a HUGE KAM fan! 😳

Its just LURE, ATTRACTION, LUST if u think its love at frst sight, obviously HOW can u manage 2 stay wid a person, unless u know how he/she is!

and you CANT CANT force ur love to love you as payback, BUT, i think a human can fall in LOVE wid any other human, required you really want to manage to love!

True LOVE exists! BUT, doesnt mean u have to have a boyfriend before marriage, true love is there, and religiously we knoe its true and not a myth! Prophet [S] LOVED his wives, particularly Khadija, And GOD has ORDERED us to LOVE our spouse and a wedding does not prosper without Love!

BUT! if u get attracted to a person, DOESNT mean ur so called LOVE will be reciprocated! isnt necessary, but as they say, JODIS ARE MADE IN HEAVEN, so God has probably chosen someone for each of us, but we cant say this with full confidence!

On the other hand, Love has no bounds and cant be controlled, is just Bullshit for me too!

Because, well, it doesnt happen, unless u are mentally instable!

You can CRY over it, be sad, stop loving but u cant go 2 uncontrollable heights, like agar tum meri nhi hui toh kisiki nhi hosakti types! 😆, cz THIS means ur mentally INSTABLE!

All in all, Unrequited Love COULD BE TRUE, [cant say definitely, cz i havent fallen in Love! 😆 and hopefully wont fall, before i get married :P 😆], could b true, but reciprocation to it ALWAYS isnt necessary, i sometimes feel if u dont get the Love back, means ur Love isnt true either, so go ahead, find a new partner! 🤣

True Love isnt a myth FOR SURE! 😳

There you go!

Im sure i confuzed EVERYONE reading this,... cz well, i myself know how confuzing i can be at times!!! 😃

Edited by Alizzay.. - 12 years ago

Interesting topic yet again!

Though i think im pretty late but still would like to add my two cents here.

Unrequited love is definitely real - there is no more proof of reality than unrequited love. To love someone with all your heart and not have them love you back the same way is life. And the only way that it can be "true" love is to understand that loving someone does not come with conditions. Just because you love someone does not mean that you have the right to expect them to love you the same way. That is not love because love is selfless - it only knows how to give without asking for anything in return. However, it is human nature to be selfish at times. And that is also reality. It is hard for us to love someone selflessly without asking or wanting anything in return.

But I think true love does exist, it all really depends on how you define "true love". In my opinion, true love is a love full of imperfections - and those imperfections make that love real. When love is a little selfish despite wanting to be as selfless to me as possible, I see the reality. When you love someone with all your heart, but you cannot help but feel jealous or angry that they do not love you or want you the same way - that is so much more real to me than the love that exists in fantasy. That inner struggle to love someone selflessly that goes against human nature in some ways is "true love" in my books. Not many people out there are willing to cope with that inner struggle, but those who simply try to overcome that struggle are truly lovers in my mind.