kokila is also at fault

of why gopi n aham have this distance she is also to be blamed for these dooriyan.

i love kokilas character regarding truth n discipline n how to do things properly n not half hearted.

I was watching old episodes  when gopi first got married, Remember when rashi tricked Gopi into letting her wear the necklace that  kokila had given to Gopi, Rashi was jealous  as gopi has a big heart she told rashi to wear it.   as it was showing of the face rasam kokila was furious then told gopi she would have to wear all the gold.  That evening Gopi went into the room with black tea Aham got annoyed with gopi as the gold was distracting him, kokila comes in n starts to say to gopi that you were told to wear it etc some nonsense  aham said to gopi i dont want you answering my mother back  kokila was happy.

Then came Gopi singing in mandir  gopi forgot to put tika on forehead kokila went ballastic on her, hetal gets sindoor n tells aham to put it on gopis forehead, kokila did nt want that n she said aham didnt have time for her nonsence he is busy everyone was disappointed with her aham walk off in a puff.
The best part of the singing Gopi said my name is Gopi n you are god Aham whose eyes were closed before that opened them at that point.

No matter what Aham says to Gopi for her he is god


there are many more incidence  long list, as much as kinjal rashi n urmilla have done their part in separating goham so has kokila the others were for wicked evil reasons, but for kokila it was  because she did not want Aham in love with a girl who could take him away from her.. she is fierce, strong willed adamant but at the end of the day she is still afraid.

When  aham asked her to tell gopi to leave she was defeated until nani came.   Nani telling kokila that its time to let aham let go of her pallu which i agree how long will she breastfeed him 😆 if gopi leaves after nani leaves she is not coming back n only then kokila will realise her mistakes, on the other hand it should have given hetal enough time to see rashi for who she really is .
Edited by fanbidaai - 13 years ago

Gosh Suk so many points, ok i'll start with Kokila first...I actually hated her to begin with, all the talk about choosing a bahu that she can wrap around her index finger, then when Gopi was taking pointers from Baa on how to get close to Aham, Kokila overhearing that conversation and saying this girl wants to take my place in Aham's heart..............she was extremely insecure, they is a clip of GoHam moments when Gopi, Kokila and Aham are in the bedroom packing for Aham when his going on a business trip, Aham cannot open his cuflink Gopi was in-front of Kokila and was walking towards Aham to help him, Kokila overtook the bahu and went to do it for Aham, and Aham said to Kokila what would i do without you Mom..............i was so disgusted with her at that point........then she gave Gopi a demeaning stare and walked out of the room (putting Gopi in a lowly rank in Aham's affections), when she left the room her other Kadgri walked in Kinjal, talked really rudely  to Gopi, Aham turned from the mirror and told Kinjal off, is that the way we were taught to behave apologise to her,  Kinjal did and Gopi said it was ok.

Kokila is a power hungry dictator and control freak. Period! It was Ahem, kinjal, kokila, urmila n Rashi together who destroyed Gopi's happiness.. Frm the list, as per me kokila is the main culprit.. She do not care whether Ahem loves gopi or not, all she want is Ahem and gopi listening to her and people praising "her" on her choice of vau for Ahem.. How selfish! I hate her..

nafisa n jake they all destroyed Gopis happiness, kokila should never have married aham that i agree.  Once Gopi  realises all this  she will also be very unhappy about kokila as well.  the respect she has for her now will all be destroyed

Ok Friends ...a very detailed analysis......just want to add a few things......Even now when Kokila says...my Vau all the times.....am still not convienced tat she really respects Gopi for wat she does......we won't know when Kokila  would do a U -Turn blaming all her unhappiness on Gopi..especially if Gopi didn't get the sandook.Ahem is an obeident son...he wouldn't have sent Gopi out if Kokila said ..tat Gopi would like to stay in her sasural.....these Modi's are abunch of complicated people. 
😉 hope the peace prevail😉
Edited by simran15 - 13 years ago

Wow!

 

I'm in love with the way all of you (fanbidaai, Nafisa and Jake) have voiced out your points in details. That's great!

 

I agree with Nafisa.

great discussion guys...apt points nicely summarised...isnt this the reason why we call modi mansion as MAD MANSION...a family full of mad people who make u go mad along with them...

I think initially, Kokila saw the fault in her own marriage. She is always overpowering Paraag. She didn't want a daughter in law that would overpower Ahem. She wanted her son to be the one in control of the relationship.
So she wanted a bahu that would never say anything, never talk back. Always take care of her and Ahem.

Initially, I too was disgusted with her antics.
Before the marriage could even happen, she would shout at Gopi, just for her own satisfaction that Gopi really will never say anything in return.

Remember the day Raashi forces Gopi to come into Modi Bhavan with sheera? Kokila shouts at Gopi. Gopi is about to say Raashi's name, but Raashi stops her, and Kokila sees this. But she, to exert her power, shouts at her.
Same with the mehendi ceremony, when Panna makes Gopi talk on the phone with Ahem. Kokila realizes that it was Panna's fault, but scolds, just because she can.

Don't get me started on the jewellery incident. I remeber Kokila trying to get Ahem worked up about Gopi. She even said things like Gopi was trying to tell on Kokila to Ahem so that she could drive a wedge between mother and son. And when Gopi tried to speak, Ahem just told her to be quiet.

But now, I really think Kokila has changed. She went from always accusing and scolding Gopi to always taking her side. She always defends Gopi now.
Remeber on Teej? When she found Gopi, passed out on the floor. She was so worried for her, she fed her with her own hands. She even tried to defend Gopi to Ahem, but it was him that didn't listen.
Or when Gopi told Kokila that she was leaving, you could tell that she wanted to stop Gopi. She was so conflicted.
I think Kokila truly loves and respects Gopi now

I don't think she sees the error in her ways just yet. But she is trying to bring Ahem and Gopi closer.

What Im scared of is, say when Ahem does fall for Gopi, and starts giving more attention to her than Kokila, then how will she react?

Yuks

Wow  thx for the heads-up.

yes i agree it is kokila's fault its because of her gopi is suffering.