How to conquer mistrust...

Aham has accused Gopi of play acting nice to everyone and this is a problem he has against her, so this is a case where a husband does not trust his wife, these type of cases, normally there is nothing the wife can do to change the husband's mind, can she? Edited by Nafisa_blossoms - 13 years ago

Interesting question.

I guess trust is gain slowly. Clearly actions speak louder than words. Right now ahem thinks she is play acting and crying on tap. Whenever there is a situation & she cries, he probably switches off thinking hear we go again. She needs to act differently to jolt him out of his usual thinking pattern. Then, he shall see her slowly for what she is and his perceptions and beliefs might change. Gopi also needs to be honest. Her problem is she is too timid (years of abuse) and too polite (fear of hurting people), so he mistakes her inconsistent actions at times, as lies and manipulative behaviour.

To rebuild trust, it usually takes longer compared to destroying trust within few seconds.

He thinks she is manipulative and playacting to care for everyone.

in my opinion nafisa if the husband is not trusting u leave him because trust play most important part between husband and wife relation. 
but here the case is different so u r right gopi needs to be stronge and bold and there is no need to cry

Originally posted by: Nafisa_blossoms

He thinks she is manipulative and playacting to care for everyone.

up to now nafisa trust has gone due to kinjals kalakari n the u r but really   how much time has aham spent with his wife non n forced into situations  because of modi pride, she has helped him with kinjal when she decided to runaway, but  that was it. after that he was cordial with her, then she left.  
Nani is forcing aham to do things with gopi, they dont have a conversation other than wheres marni,  n theres soot on your face n she telling him is too look in the mirror n admire his open jewel box.
Gopi does everything she is told by everyone including the evil trio urk, but is that enough to satisfy Aham, he needs to have a conversation other than thwo me aur.   even the makeover we know its going  to be a flop,  did he not say to gopi when he found out about gopi being illierate that all this making up do you really think it will satisfy me.   He needs to talk to her about his business she may come up with different ways of approaching the situations he might be in.  We know she is very intelligent but that needs to be put to use.   until something extreme happens he will never see the real side of Gopi
Edited by fanbidaai - 13 years ago

fanbidaai - "He needs to talk to her about his business she may come up with different ways of approaching the situations he might be in.  We know she is very intelligent but that needs to be put to use.   until something extreme happens he will never see the real side of Gopi"

Originally posted by: shobi12500

in my opinion nafisa if the husband is not trusting u leave him because trust play most important part between husband and wife relation. 
but here the case is different so u r right gopi needs to be stronge and bold and there is no need to cry

Originally posted by: hkhb17

Interesting question.

I guess trust is gain slowly. Clearly actions speak louder than words. Right now ahem thinks she is play acting and crying on tap. Whenever there is a situation & she cries, he probably switches off thinking hear we go again. She needs to act differently to jolt him out of his usual thinking pattern. Then, he shall see her slowly for what she is and his perceptions and beliefs might change. Gopi also needs to be honest. Her problem is she is too timid (years of abuse) and too polite (fear of hurting people), so he mistakes her inconsistent actions at times, as lies and manipulative behaviour.

To rebuild trust, it usually takes longer compared to destroying trust within few seconds.