Slapping Women - Page 7

my take on the parents thing

when parents slap their children its usually for big mistakes to make them understand something for future, they have an authority over children and its ok for them to slap as long as its for the right reasons mostly so thye never go/do wrong in life.

i dont think a husband should have that authority to slap nor a wife.    

 

 

my take on the parents thingwhen parents slap their children its usually for big mistakes to make them understand something for future, they have an authority over children and its ok for them to slap as long as its for the right reasons mostly so thye never go/do wrong in life.

Madam, you are so categorically and tragically incorrect, it's not funny!!! I don't doubt that most parents think that subjecting a child to a thrashing (of whatever magnitude) is an effective way to teach them to distinguish right from wrong (which has a whole bunch of cultural nuances that are being ignored) .. but the kind 'folk psychology' that you expound has not - to my knowledge - been validated.  If it has, please point me to studies conducted in a scientifically rigorous manner that demonstrate a positive correlation between spanking and good behavior .. and also show the reverse to be true!! 

You then go to make an even more offensive (yes, to my ears) statement about parents having the authority to discipline children in this manner .. implying that they are 'property' .. not to mention suggesting that parents know everything there is to know about right and wrong .. I guess all moral philosophers can now stop studying the subject .. they only have to go consult with a handful of parents and everything will be crystal clear ..

Okay so it seems we're more or less on the same page when it comes to his character and the impulsive slapping incident. Now that I went back and read the entire thread, I think some people were just shocked/horrified that a male protagonist would slap women because the general opinion that male leads are supposed to be ideal (pseudo-flaws aside). Like you said, many are painting his character to be either black or white when he falls within shades of grey.

 

@green: It's funny/weird you pointed that out. I read an article a couple of days ago on how many regard gender dynamics as black and white when in today's world, they aren't quite so neatly divided. It cited research which claimed that in 24-25% of violent American marriages, the woman is the agressor/sole abuser and they don't just strike in self-defense. I think it has to do with the traditional outlook on women who had been abused. It is sort of the 'norm' to judge men who hurt women harshly but many times, the opposite occurs and some react as though it is simply unthinkable for a "chic to beat up a dude".

 

@blue: Going to have to agree to disagree here. I don't think she was deliberatly trying to push his buttons or looking for a fight. To me, her initial remarks about Abhay seemed more glib than anything else. It didn't seem like she put much forethought into it (hence, not provocation in my book because I primarily associate provocation with intent - of course, I don't expect everyone to suscribe to my definition of it) which I would argue is part of her character as evinced by her incredibly rash decision to get married to Abhay and her unsubstantiated, if a tad puerile, statements about how she loves Abhay now and so on.