Should homosexual parents be allowed to adopt? - Page 2

Originally posted by: angelic_devil

if they r not married then only one person should be given the custody of the child. it is the right of every child to get a mother and a father. but what can be done if their real parents have abandoned them. i think the main need of every child is true love of parents, hetro or homo.

i dont think that the child will nurture homo behaviour in the child as he/she will meet other people in the world in school etc. and surely their parents wouuld not want to force their child to be homo.

What if the homosexual parents turned out to be molesters? There have been cases where this has happened. And aren't homosexual activists putting their personal desires above the rights of child to have a chance at a good family life with a mother and a father?
Edited by Phoenix_3 - 14 years ago

Originally posted by: Phoenix_3

I'm not sure if it's a psychological issue, but it sure is against nature.  And of course, measures would be taken and their background record should also be checked before adopting.

Originally posted by: Phoenix_3

What if the homosexual parents turned out to be molesters? There have been cases where this has happened. And aren't homosexual activists putting their personal desires above the rights of child to have a chance at a good family life with a mother and a father?

No. There are hardly any orphans in this world. Besides there are literally thousands of heterosexual couples who do not care if they have a child of their own as long as they can adopt a sweet little unfortunate child.

Just because some orphan will get a family and home is not a good enough reason to let homosexuals adopt. And if we do all the children will be gay and there will be no children left.

What will we do then? 😲

Originally posted by: Phoenix_3

What if the homosexual parents turned out to be molesters? There have been cases where this has happened. And aren't homosexual activists putting their personal desires above the rights of child to have a chance at a good family life with a mother and a father?

Excellent point. We have to think about child molesters too. There are absolutely no cases at all where the birth parents sexually abused their child. It is only done by homosexuals and priests who happen to be homosexuals.

Originally posted by: Phoenix_3

But what if the child doesn't know much about homosexuality? Wouldn't he or she expect to have a woman for a mother and a man for a father? If s/he is adopted by a gay family, wouldn't it affect his/her upbringing?

To some extent. A child does not need to 'know' about homosexuality, in order to cope up with homosexual parents, in the same way a child does not need to 'know' about heterosexuality, in order to cope up with heterosexual parents. A child expects what he/she is shown and said to expect. Since society had molded our thinking into the 'mother/father' structure of family, a child may feel uncomfortable with having parents of the same gender, due to societal pressure, but not out of any personal issue. As far as "affecting his/her upbringing" is concerned, I feel a child would grow into a much more healthy and happy individual by being raised up by two loving and caring homosexual parents, than two quarrelsome, indifferent heterosexual ones. A child needs love and support to grow more than people of two different genders.

Agreed that the role model for a child is a male/female parents, since they each have different and contrasting characteristics the child needs. However, in this world, there aren't enough heterosexual couples to adopt all the infant children there are. Over millions of children are being suffered for a lack of family. While I agree that a mother/father is the best family structure for a child, it's better to have some form of family, than none at all.
Edited by PhoeniXof_Hades - 14 years ago

Originally posted by: Phoenix_3

But what if the gay couple are not married?

Does being 'married' have anything to do with the ability or capability to raise up a child properly? Besides, the same could be said for heterosexual couples in the west who decides to take children without getting married. Personally, I would give way more importance to the spiritual union between two people, than just a legal one or a contract. Marriage, as religions describe it, is actually an union or commitment between two human beings. The legal union came later as society evolved, and realized a legal backing is necessary.

Originally posted by: Phoenix_3

And wouldn't homosexual environment model homosexual behavior in the child?

Not according to APA:

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Can lesbians and gay men be good parents?

Many lesbians and gay men are parents; others wish to be parents. In the 2000 U.S. Census, 33% of female same-sex couple households and 22% of male same-sex couple households reported at least one child under the age of 18 living in the home. Although comparable data are not available, many single lesbians and gay men are also parents, and many same-sex couples are part-time parents to children whose primary residence is elsewhere.

As the social visibility and legal status of lesbian and gay parents have increased, some people have raised concerns about the well-being of children in these families. Most of these questions are based on negative stereotypes about lesbians and gay men. The majority of research on this topic asks whether children raised by lesbian and gay parents are at a disadvantage when compared to children raised by heterosexual parents. The most common questions and answers to them are these:

1. Do children of lesbian and gay parents have more problems with sexual identity than do children of heterosexual parents? For instance, do these children develop problems in gender identity and/or in gender role behavior? The answer from research is clear: sexual and gender identities (including gender identity, gender-role behavior, and sexual orientation) develop in much the same way among children of lesbian mothers as they do among children of heterosexual parents. Few studies are available regarding children of gay fathers.

2. Do children raised by lesbian or gay parents have problems in personal development in areas other than sexual identity? For example, are the children of lesbian or gay parents more vulnerable to mental breakdown, do they have more behavior problems, or are they less psychologically healthy than other children? Again, studies of personality, self-concept, and behavior problems show few differences between children of lesbian mothers and children of heterosexual parents. Few studies are available regarding children of gay fathers.

3. Are children of lesbian and gay parents likely to have problems with social relationships? For example, will they be teased or otherwise mistreated by their peers? Once more, evidence indicates that children of lesbian and gay parents have normal social relationships with their peers and adults. The picture that emerges from this research shows that children of gay and lesbian parents enjoy a social life that is typical of their age group in terms of involvement with peers, parents, family members, and friends.

4. Are these children more likely to be sexually abused by a parent or by a parent's friends or acquaintances? There is no scientific support for fears about children of lesbian or gay parents being sexually abused by their parents or their parents' gay, lesbian, or bisexual friends or acquaintances.

In summary, social science has shown that the concerns often raised about children of lesbian and gay parents concerns that are generally grounded in prejudice against and stereotypes about gay people are unfounded. Overall, the research indicates that the children of lesbian and gay parents do not differ markedly from the children of heterosexual parents in their development, adjustment, or overall well-being.

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(This had been determined after over thirty years of unbiased studies and research, which is why I'm more prone to believe what the APA has to say on this matter than any other organization. As a matter of fact, APA is said to be one of the most authentic branch of psychological department/organization in the world).

Originally posted by: Phoenix_3

Also, doesn't every child have a right to a mother and a father?

Absolutely. Every human beings rights needs to be taken into account and cherished. Question is, how does one decide that the child/children will not prefer the homosexual couple (if they are being adopted in a very small age, when they are even incapable of communicating verbally)? If a child is fairly old, his/her consent and views could and should be taken into account. That, however, cannot be stated for a small child (which happens to be the case, most of the time). In the course of circumstance, it might be necessary to adopt the children/child into a loving homosexual family, rather than being kept into a horrific orphanage.

I wish to reiterate, I do agree that the role model for a child is a mother/father. Hence a heterosexual couples should get the first priority in adopting child/children, than a homosexual couple. This is not a discrimination towards homosexuality or homosexuals; this is simply the logical mean to raise up a child with the best family structure. However, as had already been said, there aren't as many as heterosexual couples to adopt all the infants there are in this world. Therefore, if a homosexual couple wishes to adopt a child, it will be for the well-being of the child, and, in the long run, for the nation.
Edited by PhoeniXof_Hades - 14 years ago

Originally posted by: Phoenix_3

What if the homosexual parents turned out to be molesters?

The same could and should be applied for heterosexuals. After all, a great amount of child molestation occurs by the heterosexual community, and specifically by one's biological parents, or close relatives.

Originally posted by: Phoenix_3

There have been cases where this has happened.

Strange as it may sound, most child molesters/pedophile comes from the heterosexual community. Of course, I am not blaming the entire group of heterosexuals for it (because, just for a few inhuman perverts, I cannot be pinpointing the entire group of heterosexuals for it), but then the same reasoning should be applied for homosexuals. A homosexual is someone who is physically, psychologically and emotionally attracted to people of its own gender, while a heterosexual is someone who is physically, psychologically and emotionally attracted to the people of its opposite gender. Pedophilia and pedophile is a wholly different subject, and has got nothing to do with either hetero or homosexuality.

To add more, pedophiles or child molesters do not care for genders. They simply look for helpless, defenseless children, who can be emotionally tortured and mutilated. They can use both male and female children gratify their selfish desires. Most children turns out to be dead after they had been molested by the pedophiles. None of the attributes fit the category of a homosexual, or even a heterosexual. Pedophilia is a different concept of its own. To prevent giving these innocent, defenseless children to these horrific molesters, the adoption laws need to be made strict. One's life history and background should be checked from top to bottom over a hundred times so that not a single information is missing.
Edited by PhoeniXof_Hades - 14 years ago

*Edited* the irrelevant part.
Edited by PhoeniXof_Hades - 14 years ago