Well thing is, different people have different values. And values are never right or wrong.
But yes, sometimes it does happen that when you need someone to be there and theyre not, coz of the reasons you said above, it does hurt, and when u invest so much into a rship, u DO expect some sort of support back in return. it's not coz ur only in it for the favours, but it is draining to put so much effort into a friendship and then when u need ur frend the most, theyre not there.
It IS only through trying times where u realise who's actually ur friend, and who isn't.
you know what u should do? give someone else a chance, choose someone else to share ur sorrows with, u never know, u may end up surprising urself as to how much someone u didnt think of may support you.
these kinda odd friendships DO exist. but now that u know that that friend doesnt share the same values as you do, i guess it will become easier coz u will not expect them to act like you would in a situation.
i'm not saying that end the friendship, coz even i have some friends like that, who will not get very involved in someone's problems...BUT since i know that, i'm still good friends with them, and we have loads of fun together, but when i am angry or sad, i will go to those who will listen and spend their time with me.
Like that friend gets annoyed at me and tells me not to interrupt my own life for the sake of helping others out...she tells me to watch out for myself first, and in a way she's right. my uni work has suffered a lot.
there is more than one way to keep a friendship. and that all comes down to the values both of u have. so, it's not who is right or who is wrong as they are complete different viewpoints.
So yeh, don't fret about it, i mean it's hard to get over, but sometimes different friendships r meant to exist at different levels. talk to someone else, take the plunge and trust someone else. you never know, they could surprise u! :D
good luck anku dear!
p.s. forgot to write: the word, 'duty' implies that someone HAS to do something, whether they like it or not. Friendship isn't a duty. :P
Edited by bewafa - 15 years ago
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