I feel guilty when I am not there for Palak when she needs me

Confesses Shweta Tiwari who is seen as mother of two teenagers in Parvarish but in real life is a working, single parent to her only daughter Palak.

Wednesday, May 08, 2013 | 6:29:04 PM IST (+05:30 GMT)   |  Copyright: India-forums/TellyBuzz  |  Comments 58 Comments  |  15647 Views

Spending time with my daughter Palak My daughter, Palak is very tomboyish and when I return home after the shoot she is in dirty hair and dirty clothes with a simple rubber band to tie her hair. At times, I get irritated that she doesn't maintain herself but then I don't go after her since I am not at home all day and I get only 2-3 ours with her and if I trouble her then she will run away from me so even as I am talking to her I get her to wear good, fresh clothes, apply cream, comb her hair. I think it is very important for mothers to stay at home with kids especially daughters because they don't know how to take care of themselves otherwise.  I think I am a very careless mom because I shoot for almost 16 hours a day and reach home at odd times. If it is a regular 9 am to 10 pm shift I reach home by 10 pm and she sleeps by 10:30 11 pm and if I reach late at 2-3 am she has already slept but then I wake up with her early morning to get her ready for school since that is the only time I get to meet her.

Even though I am out of the house, I track her every move Palak is in school from 7 am to 5 pm after which she plays for 2 hours in the society, has dinner and sleeps so she doesn't go anywhere else alone. And when she goes to her friend's apartment even within the society she needs to call me and tell me she has reached there or else I get scared. Whenever she gets into a lift, she has strict instructions to call and tell me and then when she comes out she has to call me again or else I feel what if she gets into the lift and then disappears mid-way then, how do I find out where she is in amongst all those apartments if she goes missing? She calls me when she reaches office and if I don't get a call from home then I call from my side and I also have the school bus attendant Surekha's number with whom I am in touch with continuously to know whether she sat in the bus and got off from the bus so I know constantly what is happening to my daughter.

I feel guilty for not being there for her I have lots of guilt feelings especially when she gets hurt or wants me, needs me to be with her and I cannot reach there at that time. I cannot go to her school when they call me because I am a single parent and working too, so I tell my mom or brother to go, However, Palak doesn't crib much but I know somewhere that she wants me to be there for her. When there is Open house, PTA meetings at her school I feel terrible at those times thinking why am I working, why am I doing this? But then since you are so busy in work that you cannot do anything about it. I don't miss Palak on the sets while shooting but I feel that when she is free she should come and visit the sets because she enjoys being with the kids on the sets. So when I'm shooting she sometimes visits me on the sets and she gets along very well with my on-screen daughter Aashika Bhatia (Ginnie in Parvarish Kuchh Khattee Kuchh Meethi) and they all play together.

I am strict and punish her too Palak had a mobile but it has been banned because she was chatting too much on the BBM and ignoring her homework in the process. I caught her once when she told me that she had stomachache but sent her friend a message saying that she is not coming to school as she had not done her homework. When I saw that message I punished her for lying to me and banned her mobile. Now she keeps on asking me when about getting the mobile back and I have told her that she will get it only when she turns 18 and stops lying.

On pressurizing Palak I believe that she should do what she likes to do otherwise she will not be able to do it at all. It is no use forcing kids into doing anything. My mom never forced me and so I too will not force my daughter. At present, every morning she gets up and wants to be something different everyday someday she wants to be a pilot, dancer, teacher, swimmer, etc. So till now she is not able to decide what she wants to be!

Every minute, everything about my daughter is very special to me In fact, whenever there is a special day whether it is Mother's day or my birthday she writes a long two page letter to me and I wait for that letter where she says a lot about herself which she normally doesn't tell me.

Seema Khot Mattoo

 

 

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  • Posted on: 13 May 2013 at 9:04amGauahargeous_N

    Thanks for tagging Shweta I-F!! love all the mother's day articles with her... hope to see lots more interviews with ST from now on!

    good luck to Shweta for JDJ 6!

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  • Posted on: 10 May 2013 at 10:47pm100prabh

    Shweta is the best!! she is great person.. very hardworking and a wonderful mother too!! hats off to this amazing woman!! wishing her all the best for JDJ6 and all her future projects! LOVE YOU ST! Happy Mother's Day to the most iconic mom on TV!!

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  • Posted on: 09 May 2013 at 10:23amBubblyR

    Love You Shweta.

    Keep rocking :)

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  • Posted on: 09 May 2013 at 4:52amSamraat_92

    Shweta tiwari is simply a wonderfull mother.. this article was indeed refreshing..!!!

    Shweta all da best 4 Jhalak.. I'm sure u r simply gonna rock da stage.. i cant wait 4 ur amazing performances nd also cant wait to see u with Madhuri Dixit..Heart Both da Divas will be on 1 stage. Hayeee..Heart

    P.S: Thankzz I-F 4 finally Tagging Shweta nd Parvarish here :)

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  • Posted on: 09 May 2013 at 4:50amZari_Khan

    one of the best articles ive read on IF till date.. love SW. despite being a single parent she cares for her daughter very well. i wish she gets more time to spend with her daughter tho because childhood only comes once, and parents shouldnt always be running after money at the cost of their kids..!!

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  • Posted on: 09 May 2013 at 3:02amsamicute

    shweta tiwari u r amazing actor n mom love u dear

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  • Posted on: 09 May 2013 at 12:54amBubblyR

    What a cute article. ST, hats off to u. Perfect in all aspects of life.

    Keep Rocking. God Bless.

    PS: Thanks IF for tagging the required :)

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  • Posted on: 09 May 2013 at 12:42am100prabh

    Shweta is a great person, an amazing human being and a wonderful mother!!! This was a great article... Very refreshing and really very honestly answered!!!
    I wish ST all the very best for JDJ6 and her other future projects... Love U Shweta... U truly are an inspiration to all of us!!!
    And thanks IF for tagging Shweta and Parvarrish!!!!

    Edited on:09 May 2013 at 12:45am

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  • Posted on: 09 May 2013 at 12:40amZari_Khan

    Shweta is the best!! so hardworking and a great mom too! wishing her all the best for JDJ6 and all her future projects! LOVE YOU ST! Happy Mother's Day to the most iconic mom on TV!!

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  • Posted on: 09 May 2013 at 12:39amshyams

    Her daughter look so much like her. DD and ST are going to rock this season of JDJ ...

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