After the much awaiting days, Ratan Rajput
has finally found her match
in Delhi based Software Engineer with Adobe,Abhinav Sharma.
In a candid chat, the duo opened their heart about their journey in Swayamvar...
Abhinav, being a well settled guy with a respectable job, what was the reason that you took up Swayamvar in the first place?
Actually my mom likes Ratan and has seen her shows and even I liked her
when she appeared on talk shows and stuffs. When there was a Swayamvar
happening, it was a unique thing for me. So I wanted to know her better
How did you feel when Ratan selected you?
I felt engagedSo how was the experience in the show altogether for you Ratan?Ratan:
was a living in a different world where I was like a
princess where I got whatever I wanted and these boys did tasks for me.
It was a very special world for all of us where everything was easy and
already set. But the underlying fact is that it is a reel world and we
have to come back to the real world where we have to live together. Now
that I am committed today, whatever I do matters him, and I want him to
be there with me whenever I take a decision. Though the show is over,
our life has just begun.
Do you think the show ended unexpectedly, as you did not get married?Ratan:
means selecting your own man and it is not like you have to marry the
person on the same day. Even in Ramayan, Sita did not get married on the
same day after she selected Ram.
You have said that you would marry, so why only engagement?Ratan:
Actually I had said that I cannot assure you, I believe that whatever
happens; happens for good and it is the almighty that creates the pair.
If the two are compatible with each other and can stay together forever,
it is well and good. But if you take the case of Rakhi, I would say
that it was good that they are separated because it is always better to
part ways than to have a tussle throughout life. It's better off like that than
giving a reason to be on headlines of newspapers.
What is it about you both that you guys got attracted to each other?
I had a picture of an intelligent, caring and supportive guy who is
most importantly independent. And he resembled the picture that I had
created where height is an added advantage. He knows how to handle the
situation whenever we fight also.
She is chulbuli and she speaks her heart and she is intelligent as well.How much time did you spend together?
On screen we had met only six times. But at the same time we used to
have our food together with all the contestants after which we used to
take a walk. If they wanted to speak to me personally then we used to
talk as well. If we count the times we have met off screen also, it
would have just been some hours.
Since you have spent only little time with each other, are you now thinking about your decision?
at all, because we are comfortable with each other. But at the same
time you have to understand that we cannot be so compatible with each
other so much as the love factor has not yet begun. Like for instance,
yesterday a photographer had asked him to put his hands around my
shoulders. But then, that is not possible so easily that we get so close
to each other. Then there was a question whether he will be shifting to
Mumbai. See I want to make it clear that we are not going to have a
live in relationship.
What would you say about your decision?Ratan:
This is the first time
that I have taken a decision by going against my horoscope. He is a
Manglik, but till date there hasn't been anything that affected me badly
because of him. I am safe and sound and healthy as always.
Since you have gone against the horoscope, is your family tense?
they are actually and they had even asked me whether I have taken the
decision after thinking well. I know they are worried and it was obvious
yesterday. After all, their child is going to make her important
decision of life. Actually they all are really very simple people and
they are not so camera friendly so that they can say something. My mom
could just say that all three are good boys. But I know that deep inside
their heart they are still tensed and worried about my future.
Is it because of the reason that he is a Manglik that you both are delaying the marriage?
No, that's not the reason. Actually he is really nice and I wanted to
give myself a chance to prove myself. And after marriage we would not
like to stay in two different cities.
And Abhinav were you really confident enough to come and marry Ratan?
not at all. I was sure that I cannot just come and marry her after a
few interactions. And I am really apprehensive about the television
industry as well. So that is also another reason because of which I have
to know her well.
Reality shows have always been a platform to get into the industry. Was that option there in your mind?
television was indeed a fascination for me. But after coming here and
seeing her life I realized that its better that she only continues the
work as my work is even easier as it is intellectually stimulating.
So wasn't it for publicity?
See when it is happening on a
national television, it is obvious that you gain publicity. So if I
deny that fact, then I am lying.
Ratan: But there is a difference in
intentional publicity like how Shoaib had done. But you have never seen
Abhinav or me doing that kind of acts. That's why we are sitting
together here right now. His intentions were clear. But the decision has
been taken after a long thought process.
Abhinav, have you been in relationship already?
: No but
at the same time I have had umpteen number of crushes during my teenage
and I had told her as well. But being in a relation and having crushes
are two different things.
Ratan: He said he had countless number of crushes.
Have you seen Ratan's shows?
No, I have not seen.Ratan:
I am going to give him DVDs.
There was also the rumour that you both knew long before the show had even started?
Actually even I know that. Actually these rumours will always
happen in this show and even in the coming Swayamwars as well. Before I
started doing the show I had even heard that my boyfriend is also going
to be a part of this show. I don't know when I was hooked and unhooked
with Vikas Gupta. I had also heard that Vikas Gupta was also entering
the show. I would like to say that just because we have a good chemistry
on screen, doesn't mean that we have known each other earlier.
You can give the credit to me as well because I know how to talk well.
During the tarot card reading it was said that there was someone who was already hurt. Have you found out?
Actually I have not seen the show till now and hence I cannot say what
they have said on camera. But during interaction, none ever made me feel
like they have had a problem.
So how was their reaction when you declared your choice?
I know there will be a disappointment from their side. But I have received a positive reaction from them.
So will Abhinav be shifting to Mumbai after marriage?
I know that this industry cannot be shifted to Delhi so I will
have to come here. I will definitely look for opportunities.
Are you expecting a heroic reception back in Delhi?
I do not want that to happen in my office premises because I like to
keep the decorum as it is. But I am ready to receive it outside.
Reporter and Author: Saranya Valsarajan