Posted:
15 years ago
Hi All:
First of all, let me take this opportunity to say that 'My' post was not aimed to putting down any of the moderators. I like all of them. Pachu, Mamta, Guli, Sangs, my apologies, if I caused any heartache for you. It was not meant to hurt your feelings, and I went back and looked at my post. Every thing I said was said in general and not meant toward you in any way. I don't have any grouse against any of you in any way, I want to reiterate that. You guys are doing an exemplary job and I only had suggestions for complimenting the good work that you are all ready doing it.
Secondly, I would like to say, the only reason I replied was because 'My' personal feeling was about censoring sensible posts, not all posts.
There was a recent post of mine, which I felt on hindsight was slightly vulgar in it's content. I agreed with the moderator and did not contest when the content was edited.
As far as instigatory or sarcastic comments go, they are done in retaliation, I felt myself retaliating when certain uncalled for actions/posts were posted, and as an individual I knew that my remarks to a certain individual were sarcastic and inflammatory.
We are not perfect people, we do wrong things...being a mother of two, 'because I told you so' never worked with my kids, some people require reasoning, some people require shouting at, some people are just plain incorrigible and nothing works for them except for their own medicine or raising their warning levels.
People in general are all biased one way or the other. Whether they are for JW or Bani or Pronita or AD or Meera, Ekta, BT, ZT, the writers (especially) - Being a 'fan' of their fellow actor/actress/production house/mentor is not a crime. For myself, I have bashed all of them for their artistic talents and their roles, not as individuals.
As far as GK goes, Meera goes, Jai goes, AD goes, or even Pia goes, I do feel that members have a right to state what they like...and shouldn't be driven to shame by fellow members.
Jaz and Guli: I think you guys should be able express your like for Meera and Jai without being shamed into hiding it.
At the same time, if some one bashes your favorite actor/actress don't take it personally. I have seen the wars escalating because of pro/anti JW/AD groups. Now the same people who are telling people to chill are the ones who took this war to a completely different level, where the personal attacking started. 'Hypocrisy?'
Sure...😕 😕 😕 I know the same people who are asking for moderation here, are the people who let their members go amok elsewhere.
I just came out of a business seminar.
The CEO of Jet Airways was talking about 'Confusion', 'Chaos' and 'competition'...it's how you cope with all of them. You can be reactive or you can be pro-active. By shutting down opinions, we are being reactive not by pro-active.
The moderators are not paid individuals, they are good people, who have been our friends and fellow readers. We applaud them for being there, they have been here for a while and I for one have a lot of admiration, because they don't have an easy job. It requires a discerning eye and a keen sense of perception when something does turn into trouble.
Common sense in moderation is good. But unreasonable boundaries are not necessary. Some people are recommending that rules should be arbitrary...I guess that works well in China or Cuba...Not in democracies...not in India, Canada, UK or US. Trigger happy moderation is bad but not reacting to this thread where people are criticizing an individual is worse.
I genuinely feel sorry for posting my opinion on the thread, because some members were unreasonably rude to Guli... 😭
I just want to let every one know, it's not OK to be rude to Guli...
Edited by Sheena_Row - 15 years ago
