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cool_pooja

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Posted: 11 May 2008 at 6:06am | IP Logged

In pakistan, it is allowed to do 2, 3 marriages without divorcing ur 1st, 2nd wives.. However u need to have the agreement of ur 1st wife ofcourse dat she is willing 2 live wid dat.. But nowdays, especially in the rural scene, it is very common to see that a man has like 2-3 wives and he keeps one in the village, one in the city and ofcourse he doesnt pay any attention 2 his wife in the village and all.. And since these village women are very poor they can not object, divorce or even leave thier husbands since the education level in women in pakistan is hardly 5%.. Especially in old ages, it is common to see well-off families man marrying again, a new young but poor girl..

What do u feel abt dis?? Is dis fair?? Shudnt the govt take sum action abt dis??

*Im not talking abt western countries, just pakistan and some of the eastern countries*

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Posted: 11 May 2008 at 7:15am | IP Logged
Originally posted by cool_pooja

In pakistan, it is allowed to do 2, 3 marriages without divorcing ur 1st, 2nd wives.. However u need to have the agreement of ur 1st wife ofcourse dat she is willing 2 live wid dat.. But nowdays, especially in the rural scene, it is very common to see that a man has like 2-3 wives and he keeps one in the village, one in the city and ofcourse he doesnt pay any attention 2 his wife in the village and all.. And since these village women are very poor they can not object, divorce or even leave thier husbands since the education level in women in pakistan is hardly 5%.. Especially in old ages, it is common to see well-off families man marrying again, a new young but poor girl..

What do u feel abt dis?? Is dis fair?? Shudnt the govt take sum action abt dis??

*Im not talking abt western countries, just pakistan and some of the eastern countries*

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Posted: 11 May 2008 at 8:40am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Believe

Originally posted by cool_pooja

In pakistan, it is allowed to do 2, 3 marriages without divorcing ur 1st, 2nd wives.. However u need to have the agreement of ur 1st wife ofcourse dat she is willing 2 live wid dat.. But nowdays, especially in the rural scene, it is very common to see that a man has like 2-3 wives and he keeps one in the village, one in the city and ofcourse he doesnt pay any attention 2 his wife in the village and all.. And since these village women are very poor they can not object, divorce or even leave thier husbands since the education level in women in pakistan is hardly 5%.. Especially in old ages, it is common to see well-off families man marrying again, a new young but poor girl..

What do u feel abt dis?? Is dis fair?? Shudnt the govt take sum action abt dis??

*Im not talking abt western countries, just pakistan and some of the eastern countries*

Kitne aache systemsBig smileWink

If you have money n ability to handle tuff situations....anyone can marry three or four....Wink



Common, thr is something called ethics Ouch

I would say, make all those men stand together and shoot them out... They dont deserve to stay in this world Angry If thr is such a system, then all women together should stand together and revolt against it.. Just an initiative is required.. Why dont the educative community educate the uneducated community and make them self protective.. All you need is a spark, fire wl be caught automatically...

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Posted: 11 May 2008 at 8:59am | IP Logged
well i dont really know what happens in india, pakistan or bangladesh ( i am guessing in most of these countries this happens) as i live in the united kingdom but i have heard a lot about these kind of issues and i personally totally disagree with this kind of stuff ...i mean muslim people should look at why we are allowed to get married that many times ...it is not just for fun ... i think the government should take some serious action about these kind of things that happen Dead it is just not right.

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Posted: 11 May 2008 at 9:01am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Anuradha

Originally posted by Believe

Originally posted by cool_pooja

In pakistan, it is allowed to do 2, 3 marriages without divorcing ur 1st, 2nd wives.. However u need to have the agreement of ur 1st wife ofcourse dat she is willing 2 live wid dat.. But nowdays, especially in the rural scene, it is very common to see that a man has like 2-3 wives and he keeps one in the village, one in the city and ofcourse he doesnt pay any attention 2 his wife in the village and all.. And since these village women are very poor they can not object, divorce or even leave thier husbands since the education level in women in pakistan is hardly 5%.. Especially in old ages, it is common to see well-off families man marrying again, a new young but poor girl..

What do u feel abt dis?? Is dis fair?? Shudnt the govt take sum action abt dis??

*Im not talking abt western countries, just pakistan and some of the eastern countries*

Kitne aache systemsBig smileWink

If you have money n ability to handle tuff situations....anyone can marry three or four....Wink



Common, thr is something called ethics Ouch --Ok ethics!! LOLyou mean the Law...ya its true the law not permit to marry more than one time...Cos the law made by men..he know the difficultiesWink

I would say, make all those men stand together and shoot them out... They dont deserve to stay in this world Angry --How rude!!!EmbarrassedWinkWe poor men try to help the needy only...Big smileIf thr is such a system, --there is such a system in this world...its successfully running in Arab world...Winkthen all women together should stand together and revolt against it..lolLOLokie..Big smile.. Just an initiative is required.. Why dont the educative community educate the uneducated community and make them self protective.. All you need is a spark, fire wl be caught automatically...sure someone will Call 911....sub firemen is ready baita hey...Wink

 

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Posted: 11 May 2008 at 9:16am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Anuradha

Originally posted by Believe

Originally posted by cool_pooja

In pakistan, it is allowed to do 2, 3 marriages without divorcing ur 1st, 2nd wives.. However u need to have the agreement of ur 1st wife ofcourse dat she is willing 2 live wid dat.. But nowdays, especially in the rural scene, it is very common to see that a man has like 2-3 wives and he keeps one in the village, one in the city and ofcourse he doesnt pay any attention 2 his wife in the village and all.. And since these village women are very poor they can not object, divorce or even leave thier husbands since the education level in women in pakistan is hardly 5%.. Especially in old ages, it is common to see well-off families man marrying again, a new young but poor girl..

What do u feel abt dis?? Is dis fair?? Shudnt the govt take sum action abt dis??

*Im not talking abt western countries, just pakistan and some of the eastern countries*

Kitne aache systemsBig smileWink

If you have money n ability to handle tuff situations....anyone can marry three or four....Wink



Common, thr is something called ethics Ouch

I would say, make all those men stand together and shoot them out... They dont deserve to stay in this world Angry If thr is such a system, then all women together should stand together and revolt against it.. Just an initiative is required.. Why dont the educative community educate the uneducated community and make them self protective.. All you need is a spark, fire wl be caught automatically...

Anuradha, Islam permits up to 4 wives at a time. The permission to marry up to four woman was given at a stage when there had been heavy war casualties and there were large numbers of widows and orphans. However, there are some really stringent conditions attached to this permission including treating each wife exactly the same as the other emotionally, financially, and physically plus having the first wife's permission to marry again. If men were forced to fulfil them in the way they are supposed to be fulfilled, no man would go beyond one! Sadly, in the subcontinent religion and society are a man's domain, hence this blatant exploitation of women in the name of religion. Also, divorce is considered such a huge taboo in the subcontinent that the first wife generally gives permission instead of asking for a divorce even if she is unhappy with the arrangement. Smile



Edited by SholaJoBhadkey - 11 May 2008 at 9:22am

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Posted: 11 May 2008 at 9:38am | IP Logged
@Believe: Acha.. Tum bhi ajao yaahaan per n do the same thing if u like id soo much..LOL

@amreen1990: The thing is the govt can only look if these women stand up for themselves.. And the thing is dat even if dey do, where will they go.. They arnt educated, finally stable.. They cant do anything.. At the most dey can stop the man from marrying.. What effect will dis have?? He can still see dat women and meet her and treat her as his 2nd wife..

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Posted: 11 May 2008 at 9:41am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Anuradha

Originally posted by Believe

Originally posted by cool_pooja

In pakistan, it is allowed to do 2, 3 marriages without divorcing ur 1st, 2nd wives.. However u need to have the agreement of ur 1st wife ofcourse dat she is willing 2 live wid dat.. But nowdays, especially in the rural scene, it is very common to see that a man has like 2-3 wives and he keeps one in the village, one in the city and ofcourse he doesnt pay any attention 2 his wife in the village and all.. And since these village women are very poor they can not object, divorce or even leave thier husbands since the education level in women in pakistan is hardly 5%.. Especially in old ages, it is common to see well-off families man marrying again, a new young but poor girl..

What do u feel abt dis?? Is dis fair?? Shudnt the govt take sum action abt dis??

*Im not talking abt western countries, just pakistan and some of the eastern countries*

Kitne aache systemsBig smileWink

If you have money n ability to handle tuff situations....anyone can marry three or four....Wink



Common, thr is something called ethics Ouch

Trust me here there is nothing called ethics..LOL

I would say, make all those men stand together and shoot them out... They dont deserve to stay in this world Angry If thr is such a system, then all women together should stand together and revolt against it.. Just an initiative is required..

Even if they revolt, as i said before, what will they get?? They arnt educated, financially stable.. The men will divorce.. Where will dey go.. Or the man wunt marry again but will still see other women.. Wht wud dey do..

Why dont the educative community educate the uneducated community and make them self protective.. All you need is a spark, fire wl be caught automatically...

But the the thing is dat even if they are aware of their rights, dese poor ladies wunt do anything bec dey r not financially stable!Embarrassed They have no choices!

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