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Miss.Colorfull

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Posted: 05 June 2008 at 11:31pm | IP Logged
u should tell the girl everything on her face like u are not gonna be friends with her cuz she thinks u are silly n stuff but u are not so u have to prove her wrong n then she will know that u are a nice girl not childish or silly.if u said that then other pepole will know her reality too. i know it will hurt inside but when u will take it all out u will feel relieved. u can get gud n true friends in life.

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This is coming from a person that avoid confrontation at all costs because I really hate to hurt people's feeling. Even when they deserve it. You should tell her flat out that you heard her talking about you when she thought you could not hear. See what she says.

It really sounds to that she is no true friend. She is just using you. When she needs a shoulder to cry on, you're the one, but when she wants to hang out and have a good time, there's always someone else. I think that you should not waste your kindness and friendship on someone who has no value for it. It is hard to let go of a best friend though. I personally know it is, but sometimes it is a whole lot better for you. You should not be mean to her though because it is not mature, but you need to be firm and voice your opinion. Have another friend go with you as support if you do not want to confront her by yourself.

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Posted: 07 June 2008 at 10:38pm | IP Logged
Firstly, no ur not stupid! Its completely normal to feel like that. Secondly, She is not being a friend at all. She talked behind your back and friends dont do that. I think you should tell her that you overheard her say those things about you and that you are hurt by them. Wait for her response and flow with that. If your friendship ends up breaking (god forbid) then she isnt worth you trying.

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Posted: 09 June 2008 at 9:08am | IP Logged

Originally posted by shivani33

u should tell the girl everything on her face like u are not gonna be friends with her cuz she thinks u are silly n stuff but u are not so u have to prove her wrong n then she will know that u are a nice girl not childish or silly.if u said that then other pepole will know her reality too. i know it will hurt inside but when u will take it all out u will feel relieved. u can get gud n true friends in life.

Well...i dunno...i tried i just cant!!!

But i gave her the msg indirectly.

n i suppsoe she got it tho...can see positive changesBig smile

but am kinda feelign bad....but m feelign guilty now.

Maybe u shud have left her as she is.

u think she felt bad?i mean i ditn say it on ehr face, ir soemthing

buyt while havin a group conversation..just mention tht it hurts wen someone uses u like

a tissue....n i think maybe she went thru the same thing..

DUNNo

anyways thanx a lt for showign such consideration n replying!

thanxna lottt

 

 

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Posted: 09 June 2008 at 9:14am | IP Logged

Originally posted by tulipbaby53

This is coming from a person that avoid confrontation at all costs because I really hate to hurt people's feeling. Even when they deserve it. You should tell her flat out that you heard her talking about you when she thought you could not hear. See what she says.

I cant. trust me. Cryeating worms is much easier

It really sounds to that she is no true friend. She is just using you. When she needs a shoulder to cry on, you're the one, but when she wants to hang out and have a good time, there's always someone else. I think that you should not waste your kindness and friendship on someone who has no value for it. It is hard to let go of a best friend though. I personally know it is, but sometimes it is a whole lot better for you. You should not be mean to her though because it is not mature, but you need to be firm and voice your opinion. Have another friend go with you as support if you do not want to confront her by yourself.I have mny toehr very good friends, but i reallyu considered her as my good friend too.

I gave her the message idnriectly.

i think she got it.

i think ill have to really wait to rely on her for soem time now..i noe its difficult

But coem on Zoya u've got to do it..

Thanxma lottttttt for ur advice

really apreciate it

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Posted: 09 June 2008 at 1:09pm | IP Logged
see try to tell her indirctlly fiirstly.......if u feel she understood what u want to tell her then tell her directllyyyy Smile

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Posted: 09 June 2008 at 3:26pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by zoya24

Originally posted by meteora_smt

You know hun, when I read this, I got such a sense of "Deja-vu" because this was exactly how my life was before.

But before I try to give you advice, I want to understand your feelings. You'll help with me that, right? And I don't think you're too stupid, so too bad you'll have to answer me!Smile

First of all, what hurts you the most? Do you feel hurt because your supposed BESTFRIEND told her cousin she found you a nobody? Or because a person you always helped out, were always nice to, always treated them respectfully ended up using you as a piece of tissue (as you say)?

I know both these things might've hurted you. But I want to know what part hurts you the most.

What seriosuly hurt me was. I considered her as a true friend.

I was there with her when she had a very abd time in 9th std....

I always confided in her all my secrets. And maybe i expected her

to be there for me like i was there for her......

In fact i dnt even mind tht she likes tht guy...n even if i liked him n she liked him...id rather not speak to him....

cause i seriously liked herrrr!!!!!

i feel useless and dumped.....

Anyways thanx a lotttttt .......u guys give great advice

..Hug

i hope m strng nuff to follow it...

 

@Meteora: I completely agree! I went through this whole fiasco too! I was completely used and I didn't even realise it till a year later!

I felt veryy used at that moment in time, wherever she used to go, she used to tell her parents that I was going(and I agreed back in the days) too and thats why they would let her go! And when I used to go with her, all she ever used to do was talk and make out with her boyfriendDeadand i was just there staring at the wallsOuchlol she would tell me that other friends were gonna be there too, but then she would say 'oh i contacted them, but they could not make it' or some stupid excuse! and this year in german classes I found out that she bitched about me!:O

I hope your scenario turns out like mine. Cos now, although no-one says it to her face, they all HATE her! She is a playa, its hard to say when she is being genuine and when she isn'tConfusedindirectly we all sort of let her know about her attitude and stuff! Maybe you should try doing the same, just ignore her a little but dont make it too obviousWinklike something which you are good at and she isn't, then you should choose her to be your partner!Tongueand maybe she might get the hint or she might just say something like 'im gonna look silly in front of you' then say, well thats exactly how u made me feel!

dunno if this will help you, but hope it does! just remember, what goes around comes around!

Yeahh babyy karmaa!Tongue

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Posted: 10 June 2008 at 6:32pm | IP Logged

Originally posted by zoya24

@cutiex0 u went thru ll this b4. right?

heheh yep i haveLOL

lols and no need to feel guilty,

yu did the right thing,

if yu hadnt talked to her, then yu would have been feeling even worse right now,

and yu said that yu see postive changess? well thats good, cuz that means that yur friend is feelin guilty now

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