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Anuradha

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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:46am | IP Logged
Originally posted by smallwonder

Originally posted by Anuradha

 If there is a boy and a girl in a house, more importance is given to the boy of the house... Before marriage, she has to listen to what her parents say and they are the one to take decisions for her and after marriage she needs to take permissions from her In-Laws...



Wrong Embarrassed This is a misconception... I am a part of a house where we have a boy and girl, but ask me - no way the boy gets more attention... Its the other way roundWink Not that anyone is complaining, but just to remove this myth...Smile Sure, it may not be the case with everyone, but the same way, to generalise and say that girls get less importance is false...

Yes I agree its not to be generalized... In many of the cases where I have seen, the boys are given more importance.. Now the importance here can mean in different ways... Though more care is given to girls, they are mostly sidelined in the say of many decisions taken by the family...

Many parents feel its the guy who would take care of them at the later stages and their responsibility towards the girl is to ensure that she gets married in a nice family and stays happy...

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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 7:12am | IP Logged
Yes,Indeed Anu dii a great topic! Smile

I know,being the only girl child of my parents,many times people wen they hear i am the only child,they look at us sarcastically LOL Leser do they know that i am worser than boys! LOL For them they think a family needs a boy and it is a mustConfused


Sometimes my mom n dad has to givv thm straight mouth 2 mouth replies,thnk god theyy are civilized and are livin in modern world! Smile   

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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:47am | IP Logged
Anu great topic and I do agree with you all.
Yes women are not free from all.

Luckily I come from family where my dad treated me and always considered us girls always equal or better than my brothers and gave me the control of all the finances home and business. At the same time my better half too thinks that in marriage everything should be 50/50 and had made me a chief decision maker in my home. But that is not true for most women. I see many women complaining how they are treated like some ignorant uneducated pepole by their spouses and grown up children

As a society women are always considered 2nd best even in western world. Taking same amount of work and fulfilling same responsibilites they are paid much less than their male co-workers. Some ppl with same orthodox views even in western world too think that we women are not good enough to do certain things or handle certain responsibilities.

I mean why boys are sent to colleges and girls are asked to stay home and learn house work and get married. I hope this practice stop soon for the betterment of our country and society. Why kill daughters (abort) in the name of dowry?



Edited by ramas - 12 March 2008 at 8:43pm

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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 5:02pm | IP Logged
Yes I agree its not to be generalized.

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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 5:56pm | IP Logged
Oh My... i did a WHOLE presentation on just Women Abuse && Rights and it was genrealized just to relgion
: )
ahahaha
So i might end up writing an essay, but i shall not : )
ahahah you can pm for that LOL Embarrassed
Anywaysss
I agree with your statement, my aunt has like all girls, and the bibi that came to her house one time was like there SHOULD be atleast one guy in the house why didnt you just drop the girl
and my aunt was like
WTH! Angry
and i was like come on women its the 21st century get with the program : )
Besides i only want one girl child : )
it would be soo cool
we could have girls nights ( H )
ahahahahahah
anywaysss i ended up writing an essay anyways
and women ( H ) are the strongest gender, we have go through labour pain and cramps sooo BEAT THAT (H) yesh yes i know im very feminist : )

-Talzs
(sorry for the long post for those who cared to read it LOL )

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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:43pm | IP Logged

 

Women r not really free from social rules... but time has been changed now.. Women can take their decisions n family support themSmile

all rules were made in mom-grand-mom's tine... At that time hubby used to give orders to wife..n now wiffy will give orders to hubby..

sorry 2 say guyz but the truth is Hubbies r made 2 be Joru ka Gulam Wink

 

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Posted: 13 March 2008 at 3:33am | IP Logged
Hi I was browsing through IF and came across this topic and thought of sharing my views. I may or may not be a feminist, I don't know but I feel very strongly about these topics so I am responding.

First of all HAPPY WOMENS DAY. I know it was a week back but it is never to late to celebrate ourselves.

I am one of the many enthusiasts reading,collecting and pondering over women related columns, editorials and writings. I have done that for a long time but now I think it is time to seriously address the issues.

It really feels great when some psuedo laurels are showered on women but are we really appreciated? NO,these laurels are selective and for a selected few.

Instead of asking the world, why not ask ourselves for a change. Are WE implementing and practicing equal rights at our homes? Leave the under educated, illiterate lot for a while. Let us talk about ourselves, the so called concerned educated section of the society. Sit back and count the number of times we discriminated ourselves against men. Don't believe me, then, try to remember and start observing the number of times you put yourselves behind the men of your families.

It is always easier to talk about equality but the real problem is to respect and believe in it. I myself have stepped down on numerous occassions and swallowed my pride just to let my family feel good. NO, no, I don't mean equality means running down the family, or go anti-men, no! but I think we need to respect our lives,our freedom and our rights. We don't need to ask for our equality, we are EQUAL. Simplly believe that all human beings are equal and there won't be any problem
Let us start today with believing in ourselves.

Enough is talked about eve-teasing, it is horrifying, I know and every gril knows it but what are we doing. It is going on for ages then why don't we do anything? Have we ever spoken to our brothers and male friends not to get into these acts as it hurts? Hardly anyone of us. Why? because we are not supposed to talk about it. New Year's eve witnessed molestation of two women but these men got away with it. WHY? because we don't do anything about it. Alcohol was blamed. Family stood by these men. Why couldn't the women of such families feel for the women molested,why didn't they talk against the molestation. Because they are supposed to stand by their men.

Rape the most henious crime hardly punishes the rapists but blames the victim? why? because girls are not supposed to be going out or let loose . Now, how many of us have not blamed the victims.We need attitude change.

Ah! there are so many things that I want to write but I will curtail it short.

Not everything is bad but things can get better and eventually the best,not only for women but for the everyone.
WE respect ourselves and the WORLD will respect us, WE stand united, WE stand tall and the WORLD will not dare exploit us. Let us LOVE ourselves and be proud irrespective of our choices and preferences.

Lastly, if a collective effort is made we can change the world because if anyone of us feels unsafe then we all ae unsafe.


Edited by preet_ic - 13 March 2008 at 3:38am

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