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Aanandaa IF-Sizzlerz
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Posted: 14 January 2008 at 8:57pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by mermaid_QT

cheating online, offline is just a dirty hobby that many seem to suffer from! Ouch

we all "see" cheaters.. and "we" don't know they're cheating =)) LOL some of them are cheating on their spouses with partners less than half their age Ouch Confused
S C U M


But why do we have to call 'them' names???Isn't it completely their business, unless we are getting affected by it...Confused..Why can't we just ignore and move on???Why get flustered with such people who we anyway don't approve of ???Smile
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Posted: 14 January 2008 at 9:02pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by raksha.l

Originally posted by mermaid_QT

cheating online, offline is just a dirty hobby that many seem to suffer from! Ouch

we all "see" cheaters.. and "we" don't know they're cheating =)) LOL some of them are cheating on their spouses with partners less than half their age Ouch Confused
S C U M


But why do we have to call 'them' names???Isn't it completely their business, unless we are getting affected by it...Confused..Why can't we just ignore and move on???Why get flustered with such people who we anyway don't approve of ???Smile


yepp, it is their business..   unlike nonvegetarianism / religionalism which seems to be everybody's business Wink
one more- most / many supporting cheating and being gracious and non-judgemental will have a collection of words for ppl who don't marry and seek a LIVE-IN Wink.. 
Live in is also people's business but judgements are passed, rn't they?  simple reason-  things that bother one doesn't bother the other and things that mattter to some don;t matter to others. 
since the poster ased for our views on cheating, I expressed mine..
SCUM BAGS!!  feel sorry for the children they're raising Confused.. hopefully, their e-lovers don't send lovey dovey e-messages to their children too Ouch


Edited by mermaid_QT - 14 January 2008 at 9:06pm
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Posted: 14 January 2008 at 9:14pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by mermaid_QT

Originally posted by raksha.l

Originally posted by mermaid_QT

cheating online, offline is just a dirty hobby that many seem to suffer from! Ouch

we all "see" cheaters.. and "we" don't know they're cheating =)) LOL some of them are cheating on their spouses with partners less than half their age Ouch Confused
S C U M


But why do we have to call 'them' names???Isn't it completely their business, unless we are getting affected by it...Confused..Why can't we just ignore and move on???Why get flustered with such people who we anyway don't approve of ???Smile


yepp, it is their business..   unlike nonvegetarianism / religionalism which seems to be everybody's business Wink
one more- most / many supporting cheating and being gracious and non-judgemental will have a collection of words for ppl who don't marry and seek a LIVE-IN Wink.. 
Live in is also people's business but judgements are passed, rn't they?  simple reason-  things that bother one doesn't bother the other and things that mattter to some don;t matter to others. 
since the poster ased for our views on cheating, I expressed mine..
SCUM BAGS!!  feel sorry for the children they're raising Confused.. hopefully, their e-lovers don't send lovey dovey e-messages to their children too Ouch


Sure feel free to say whatever you feel like...It was a very friendly suggestion from my end...You seem to have taken offense to it...

As far as 'live-in', ' non-vegetarianism' and 'regionalism' are concerned, we shall discuss them when we get there...

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Posted: 14 January 2008 at 11:23pm | IP Logged
The internet has changed society a lot. Virtual communities have changed the concept of social networking. People make friends online, network with people of similar interest and even find romantic interests online. With the advent of games like Second Life people are almost living two lives the real one and the virtual one. Online communities are a source of escapism, being the personality you cannot be, doing things you would not do in real life, letting go of your alter ego. Many different factors trigger different behaviors online.

The question of cheating definitely arises. However, I think there is a much bigger ethical debate that transcends out of this. There are a lot of lines and boundaries that are blurred.

There are several arguments on both sides of the coin. In fact different people draw lines at different places, it is more like a kaleidoscope of perceptions.

On one hand online relationships are just what the name states online. They are not real. A lot of people dismiss online relationships. When it comes to games like Second Life. It's just a game. How can you take it seriously. If you run over cops in GTA, its just a game. So then why cant you do other things in a game that you will not do in real life.

People tend to draw the line when it comes to relationships. Online relationships sometimes do turn real. There are many people who meet online, flirt, engage in cyber sex and eventually marry. The lines between reality and virtuality are blurred. If someone crosses the line online then it is like crossing a line in life too.

Then again where is the line drawn. What constitutes cheating. Is it sex? Are people who enter erotic chat rooms, talk dirty on IM, engage in cyber sex cheating? Is it the emotions? What about online relationships that are platonic and friendly in nature but people find so many thoughts and emotions in common, that they feel they are in love? Or is cheating both? But then again that is just some person online, just a screen name, the relationship is not real? Would masturbating to po*n be cheating? Would fantasizing about celebrities or heroes out of romance novels be cheating?

In my personal opinion it is really impossible to draw a line and define cheating. A person should have a consciousness and question their own actions. What boundaries do they want to set for themselves, what boundary would they expect of their spouse. Would they be embarassed if someone found out. Are they afraid to get caught. If it is cheating, stop and be honest. If you are falling in love with another person - time has come to make honest decisions and choices. What goes on behind closed doors or behind the screen is the other persons prerogative. What effects the relationship of a couple is for the couple to define. Personally, I would be ok with flirting but would draw the line at sex and/or intense emotional attachments.

The virtual world has so many other issues. Suicidal teens. Virtual harassment. People losing real life social skills for online communities. Sexual predators etc.
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Posted: 15 January 2008 at 12:30am | IP Logged
2 things that make "cheating online" a gray area:

1) Identites are hidden: you pretend to be someone else...take on another name, maybe another personality so you might feel that this isnt really me who is cheating...its just a time pass/ game/ pretence...

2) chances of getting caught are low: unless partner really suspects something is wrong and spies on the cheating person...he infact can be doing it at work place/ cyber cafe without anyone actually having an inkling of what he/ she is upto


So it is all about setting boundaries for self like return_to_ hades says...

how far would you go...and how far would you tolerate if you were the wronged party!
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Posted: 15 January 2008 at 1:13am | IP Logged
Actuly how someone feel they are cheated!!?? We cant clap with one hand.... Embarrassed 90% peeps want something from online virtual friends, So if anyone have online virtual friends just do normal chat n other things...why expecting the unexpected?! Embarrassed Wink

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Posted: 15 January 2008 at 5:03am | IP Logged

Originally posted by mermaid_QT

Originally posted by raksha.l

Originally posted by mermaid_QT

cheating online, offline is just a dirty hobby that many seem to suffer from! Ouch

we all "see" cheaters.. and "we" don't know they're cheating =)) LOL some of them are cheating on their spouses with partners less than half their age Ouch Confused
S C U M


But why do we have to call 'them' names???Isn't it completely their business, unless we are getting affected by it...Confused..Why can't we just ignore and move on???Why get flustered with such people who we anyway don't approve of ???Smile


yepp, it is their business..   unlike nonvegetarianism / religionalism which seems to be everybody's business Wink
one more- most / many supporting cheating and being gracious and non-judgemental will have a collection of words for ppl who don't marry and seek a LIVE-IN Wink.. 
Live in is also people's business but judgements are passed, rn't they?  simple reason-  things that bother one doesn't bother the other and things that mattter to some don;t matter to others. 
since the poster ased for our views on cheating, I expressed mine..
SCUM BAGS!!  feel sorry for the children they're raising Confused.. hopefully, their e-lovers don't send lovey dovey e-messages to their children too Ouch

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Posted: 15 January 2008 at 10:04am | IP Logged

cheating bad. jua khelna bad. daaru peena bad. maar peet karna bad. gali bakna bad. gulcharrey udana bad. ankh maarna bad. ankhiyan ladana bad. kabab khana bad. cigarette peena bad. tambakoo chabana bad. thook phekna bad. satta baazi karna bad. chaal baazi karna bad. pocket maarna bad. gilli danda khelna bad. rangeen raatein katna bad. rang raliyan karna bad. ched kad karna bad. badmashiyan karna bad. all bad. aur inse bhee bad bad. getting caught. very bad. Tongue Wink LOL



Edited by chatbuster - 15 January 2008 at 10:26am

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