What will her future be like with them??? Will they keep her happy or will she live miseribly ever after???
It would be difficult to say, some girls end up happy some face a worse fate. For drama purposes, they will show the negative side should the marriage go through. The idea of the story is to show how society really works and then open the eyes of those watching.
Cant
we fight our society against this??? Are we educated enough to leave
all this backwardness behind us and move forward???What can we do to
stop this???
The answer lies in education. Changing the social misconceptions. I see media as an important tool in this purpose. I think this issue if well handled in this serial will serve as a thinking platform to the masses. Women need to have self-respect and parents too.
I live overseas, and here the colour issue is not such a big thing. For us it is more of marrying out of our race/religion that is an issue, since I live in a multiracial country.
But within our community, yes when a mother or aunt goes around looking at potential rishtas, then the description falls , is she padhi likhi, uchi/lambhi, gori-citti etc. But I have seen vice-versa here, a very dark man marrying a very fair woman and many cases of that. Mind you the men are not filthy rich so money is not a lure. Rather it is the earning capability, social standing of the family, the nature of the man that is taken into consideration. But in the case of dark-skinned women, the criteria is different. If given a choice, a fairer woman is chosen.
So, what does a dark-skin woman do? I think she should jump on the career bandwagon and make herself successful. That is what we do overseas, I don't know about India. Here a working woman is more marketable than a stay home fair skin woman.
Should parents feel pressured in accepting any proposal and the undue demands of the boys family like Ragini's mother feels?
Ragini's mother is eager to get her daughter married and sees that unless she is married, Ragini can never be happy. A spinster can never be happy. I revolt against that thought. But unfortunately, that is the thinking of society. People are under the false impression that they can buy happiness. We need to rid ourselves of this belief first.
Should
Ragini's mother feel so insecure of Sadhna and her fair color that she
did not let Sadhna come in front of the and his family and that she and
Nani want to separate Ragini and boy Sadhna.
They show her as a desperate mother who has no faith in society. A society that judges not according to personality but on physical appearance. Rather than see her daughter a spinster, she would do anything in her power to ensure her daughter is wed. It is indeed sad. If she was a strong woman, she would learn to realize the attributes of her daughter and make her strong and independent. And the boy who choses Ragini over Sadhana is the appropriate suitor. But what to say. The family doesn't believe in woman working and building a life for themselves outside of the family. The whole mindset has to change.
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