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Posted: 01 December 2007 at 3:10pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by kabhi_21

Yes but when persoality changes afterwards.... you can analyse the reasons behind it..... noone is perfect and person evolves throughout life..... however when you love someone and know the person so well..... you can analyse changes in the person and may be some characteristic going against what you want (like smoking or drinking) you can know how to bring the person back...... because you know the person so wellSmile but whatever things are present when you meet the person and come to know and love the person are not easy to change.... because the person contends you loved me for what i am and what happened nowSmile

 And they are right in saying that. My point is when you think you love someone warts and all , it is easy to overlook certain aspects of the person which may begin to bother you as the dopamine levels receed and your personality changes or resembles to what you actually prefer in the first place.

 Love or arranged , I think the more alike you are the happier you will be because self deception is not involved. we are also happier with partners who share some traits, and are different in many others as complementarity generates happiness.

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Posted: 01 December 2007 at 3:15pm | IP Logged

 

Have you seen a married couple who has been married for 2 or more years?

 Can you tell if they had love or arranged marriage? You see it doesn't matter,  love or arranged , the couples will look and behave the same in most cases. Smile

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Posted: 01 December 2007 at 9:57pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by lighthouse

 

Have you seen a married couple who has been married for 2 or more years?

 Can you tell if they had love or arranged marriage? You see it doesn't matter,  love or arranged , the couples will look and behave the same in most cases. Smile


I agree with you! I have friends who have been married that long and can't make out the differenceSmile
nitasuni Senior Member
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Posted: 02 December 2007 at 6:21am | IP Logged
Originally posted by mermaid_QT

Originally posted by Believe

Originally posted by mermaid_QT

Originally posted by springs

Hmmm...tough question! It depends on the individuals in question. Marriage is about love, understanding, and compromise. I have seen both kinds of marriages work and fail...


Clap
agreed..

i always side love marriage although i have nothing against others's arranged marriages Embarrassed .. 
marriages may fail, but love never does, so whether arranged / love and whether marriage / not,
don't miss out on love itself.. so that's what i promote.. Wink

 marriages may fail bt not love??? how? EmbarrassedIf love there how the marriage failsEmbarrassed


marriage involves external factors.. love involves only 2 individuals in love. asat.

Wel come back QT,  missed you a lot, I agree with you  in bold, love never fail.



Edited by nitasuni - 02 December 2007 at 6:23am
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 9:47am | IP Logged

Originally posted by mermaid_QT

Originally posted by springs

Hmmm...tough question! It depends on the individuals in question. Marriage is about love, understanding, and compromise. I have seen both kinds of marriages work and fail...


Clap
agreed..

i always side love marriage although i have nothing against others's arranged marriages Embarrassed .. 
marriages may fail, but love never does,
so whether arranged / love and whether marriage / not,
don't miss out on love itself.. so that's what i promote.. Wink

 Great answers by Dewey and QT Patootie.Clap

 

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Posted: 20 December 2007 at 8:13pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by lighthouse

 

Have you seen a married couple who has been married for 2 or more years?

 Can you tell if they had love or arranged marriage? You see it doesn't matter,  love or arranged , the couples will look and behave the same in most cases. Smile

Very easy, if after 2 years they havn't started fighting thats a arranged marraige, still figuring it out LOLLOL

No, seeing the stressLOL or asking few question one can easily make out. Ask them what is the date they first met and when is thier monthly anniversary... arranged marraige duo will looseLOLLOL Yes there are exception always...LOL

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Posted: 21 December 2007 at 8:36am | IP Logged
Originally posted by raj5000

Originally posted by lighthouse

 

Have you seen a married couple who has been married for 2 or more years?

 Can you tell if they had love or arranged marriage? You see it doesn't matter,  love or arranged , the couples will look and behave the same in most cases. Smile

Very easy, if after 2 years they havn't started fighting thats a arranged marraige, still figuring it out LOLLOL

No, seeing the stressLOL or asking few question one can easily make out. Ask them what is the date they first met and when is thier monthly anniversary... arranged marraige duo will looseLOLLOL Yes there are exception always...LOL

But if you don't ask them those questions, all couples look the same Smile

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Posted: 21 December 2007 at 3:09pm | IP Logged
How about Neither. Just find & stay in love Embarrassed Big smile Marriage at times ruins everything Embarrassed

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