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Posted: 22 November 2007 at 10:05am | IP Logged
Originally posted by raj5000

If you or based on experience of close friend/family who had love marraige whats your take -  would you preach love marriage or arranged marriages?


Any type of marriage which has love even after marriage is bestLOLLOLLOL...we cannot stop people from loving,ditching,eloping and marrying or getting married to the folks parents see...MARRIAGE is a thing in which each case has different results and in which we SHOULD NOT ADVISE AND TAKE ADVICELOL
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Posted: 23 November 2007 at 7:42am | IP Logged
Originally posted by raj5000

Love VS Arranged marraiges

I know we had debates on this topic, but here want bring some reality check, undestand not always applicable but experience counts

If you or based on experience of close friend/family who had love marraige whats your take -  would you preach love marriage or arranged marriages?

Either , depend alot upon folks themselves.

But I would suggest now .. especially with changing attitude of society in general better know something about your future spouse. Don't think you would change them ..no one changes dramatically so if you feel there is some big mismatch don't go for it even if it is arrange with full support of family cause eventually it is you and your spouse who matter most and no one can solve problems on your behalf.

 

 

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Posted: 24 November 2007 at 2:45pm | IP Logged
i agree with the ppl who sed marry the person who luvs u.. that rlli matters more than u luving them.. but uhm.. i think fallin in luv after marriage wud work too... liek in vivahh..lolllll
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Posted: 25 November 2007 at 3:49pm | IP Logged
Arranged marriage.
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Posted: 28 November 2007 at 4:55pm | IP Logged
Thanks for sharing responses folks!!

yeah right it seems right love is key factor before or after, but after marraige love doesn't work then choices of backing out with societal pressure have limitations.

If arranged marraige doesn't work atleast someone else can be blamed LOL LOL atleast with love if decision is made in educative/planned manner then one can owe full responsibility...yes yes if thing don't right...less possibility but who cares loved or arranged if on roll LOL
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 2:52pm | IP Logged

Originally posted by Believe

If it Love or Arrange marriage, Dont marry the person who YOU love.........Marry the person Who loves you.... Embarrassed

Hmm..... good philosophy!!  I never thought that way.....LOL

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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 2:59pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by raj5000

Love VS Arranged marraiges

I know we had debates on this topic, but here want bring some reality check, undestand not always applicable but experience counts

If you or based on experience of close friend/family who had love marraige whats your take -  would you preach love marriage or arranged marriages?

 

Raj.......... if I take my bhai and think of love marriage........ I would say it Rocks!!LOL   If I think of mom and dad who had arranged marriage........ I would say that Rocked!!LOL    

However, if I think of some friends who had love marriage but things soured I donot know the answer.Ouch   I am getting bit disillusioned about this whole love marriage stuff.  

So........... I cannot honestly answer the question.  I think it depends on the couples.Big smile

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Posted: 30 November 2007 at 2:23am | IP Logged
Originally posted by raj5000

Love VS Arranged marraiges

I know we had debates on this topic, but here want bring some reality check, undestand not always applicable but experience counts

If you or based on experience of close friend/family who had love marraige whats your take -  would you preach love marriage or arranged marriages?

If at all it is possible and I get my soulmate that i think I can spend whole life.... I would love to engage in a life relationship with my love.... I had always advocated love marriage though I did not know where I would drop in.

I believe that few meetings alongwith parents and even outside after engagement are not enough to know the person's characteristics.... and without knowing the person you may not know if you can spend whole life with the person....

Ofcourse there is a chance in love marriage that the person turns out to be completely different from your analysis for over a year.... but the possibility is very less and you know what to expect from this person in your life.... Most love marriages break if you try to change the otehr person's personality so as to suit with societal pressures and then its not love but its person's such behaviour that is responsible for breakage....

So I would surely love to have love marriage.... and I am sure it can be successful with me if I get my soulmate....Big smile (thts because I will see the personality that I dont need to change WinkLOL).... Most important is looks shall not be criteria for love.... in love marriage..... because looks are not going to last till lifeBig smile

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