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Posted: 01 October 2007 at 1:50pm | IP Logged

 

 

Kidyaan!

i hope everyone is enjoying the forum!

time for our DOTW

 

The discussion of the week is.....

Why are punjabi parents and brothers or guys couzins so over protective over thier daughter/ sister/ cousins??

Some questions you may anmser!

1.  Do you fell over protected?

2.  Do you think it is fair?

3.  Do you think it is a sign of love?

4.  What is the biggest reason for this?

 

have fun!!!!!!

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1.  Do you feel over protected?

I have never felt overprotectedUnhappy mostly coz i'm the tomboy in my family and i'm the one who used to and still protects all my cousins and siblingsEmbarrassed hai rabba i sooooooooooo want someone to be over-protective of meBlushing

2.  Do you think it is fair?

I think it's allright as long as it's done within the limitsBig smile Now we all may have different perspective on what is the limit so i'll leave that upto you guysTongue but once the person being protected starts to feel suffocated then that's the high time the "protector" should loosen up their grip a bitTongue

3.  Do you think it is a sign of love?

Yes it certainly is sign of love BUT it is also a sign of insecurityEmbarrassed sometimes our punjabi bros get a bit TOO insecure about their sisters so i guess that's the reason why they start feeling over-protective of their sis'sTongue

4.  What is the biggest reason for this?

As i stated above insecurity is the biggest reason in my opinion as to why our parents and bros are so over-protective of usEmbarrassed but sometimes it is also a matter of prideConfused In most of punjabi families girls are looked upon as the pride of every household and our bros don't wanna share that with anyone neither they can bear to see anyone looking at their pride's in a dis-honest wayEmbarrassed Also, I think this over-protectiveness kinda runs throughout our Punjabi communitySilly

 

Good discussion manaiClap



Edited by JK_5 - 01 October 2007 at 3:06pm
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Great topic Manai! Big smile

1.  Do you feel over protected?

Not really.. i mean maybe my parents do protect me a bit, but not too much.. in the sense of brothers etc though, naa.. since i dont have any brothers! and all my cousin bros are in India.. but when im there, they definitely are protective! hehe its cute tho LOL

2.  Do you think it is fair?

Fair in wat sense? Ermm i think its alright for them to be protective uptil a certain extent.. if they start restricting u too much and coming in the way of ur freedom, then its a bit much.. and if they discriminate against u in the sense they wont let u do things they do themselves, then thats horrible! i would hate that!

3.  Do you think it is a sign of love?

Yeh definitely is love that causes em to be a bit overprotective.. and maybe they're just scared as well? they dont want us to get overexposed to anything.. but in the process they limit us from doing things which is not the way to go.

4.  What is the biggest reason for this?


Love.. and insecurity, as JK said.. they just dont want us to be exposed to things they think could influence us in a bad way or just let us be too "free" and cause us to drift off in the wrong direction and down the wrong path.. but thats not the case! By being overprotective, u just cause a girl to wanna  rebel even more.. and being protective is fine, but being overprotective can really affect the sister/daughter, coz she may feel left out from things, or neglected or just think its not fair! hehe.. and so will jus go against everything they've been taught by parents etc.. trust me ive seen it happen too many times to know.

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Posted: 02 October 2007 at 7:00am | IP Logged
1. Do you fell over protected?
Yes sometimes but I think that they are fulfilling their duties. The whole over protection thing happens when the girls are in high school. Cause that is the time for girls to look at other girls and make mistakes because of jealously or peer pressure.

2. Do you think it is fair?
Yes, if they did not protect us, we can end up making the wrong decisions.

3. Do you think it is a sign of love?
Yes. This is what I have always told my friends, who get really tried of the whole protection thing. Whatever parents do, do it cause they love us.

4. What is the biggest reason for this?
Reputation. As we all know, parents reputation is put in the hands of a girl. Its our duty to protect their reputation. If a girl takes a wrong step, this will lower the parents reputation in the indian society.


Edited by Indian_girl_18 - 02 October 2007 at 7:02am
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wow you girls answerwed very nicely i have too many couzons to protect me and a bro but i love them and its okie and cool that they protet me!
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Posted: 02 October 2007 at 3:56pm | IP Logged

Originally posted by ~*manai*~

wow you girls answerwed very nicely i have too many couzons to protect me and a bro but i love them and its okie and cool that they protet me!

You're sooooooooooo lucky dudeEmbarrassed my bros are too white-wash too be like dat and same thing with my coz brosAngry most of them are either white-wash or black-washOuch i soooooooooo desp. want someone to be overprotective of meCry lolz i'm probably the first one and the ONLY one to say thisLOL

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Posted: 02 October 2007 at 9:49pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by JK_5

You're sooooooooooo lucky dudeEmbarrassed my bros are too white-wash too be like dat and same thing with my coz brosAngry most of them are either white-wash or black-washOuch i soooooooooo desp. want someone to be overprotective of meCry lolz i'm probably the first one and the ONLY one to say thisLOL

LOL na ur not the only one.. i kinda want someone to be all protective of me tooo Big smile hehe coz i have no brothers either, and my cousins dont live anywhere near me.. and my dadz more like a friend Big smile not that im complaining
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great discussion topicClap
 

1.  Do you fell over protected?

I don't feel over protected but i feel protected. I know that if i was in trouble my brother and/or cousins will b there 2 help. So when im out with them i feel protected but they don't over do it, i go uni and tht and bro doesn't ask me all sorts of questions like where i was, who i was with...or if im on msn/yahoo he doesn't bug me about who im chatting to so he's pretty cool

2.  Do you think it is fair?

Yeah of course it is, every brother has the right to protect his sister but every brother does it a different way. I have a brother who is protective over me and my sisters and i think its perfectly fair....i think girls would b more protected if they had a brother rather than if they didn't....but that doesn't go to say that if a girl doesn't have a brother she can't cope....some girls can cope on their own but having a male protect u is an advantage

3.  Do you think it is a sign of love?

Definately, at the end of the day all they want is for their sister to b happy and 2 come home safe....if it means protecting them at any cost then so be it. If they don't protect us then who will

4.  What is the biggest reason for this?

I guess they just want the daughters/sisters to b safe and not get influenced by others or taken advantage of. So if they r there then at leats the sister knows that she's looked after.

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