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Ek Gharelu Kahani! AK ff! Epilogue pg 196

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Posted: 05 September 2007 at 1:06pm | IP Logged

Hi! Everyone!!!

This is the preview of my next ff....let me know how you feel.....I'm still working on 'STARTING part'....may be by Monday I get to shape it Smile

Until Twenty -Twenty Five years ago, there was a big tradition and practice of marrying cousins. 

Sisters and Brothers are used to consider it as their luck, 'sowbhagya', auspicious having closed matches for their daughter and son.

Looking outside matches without first considering the cousin is considered as 'inauspicious, insult.'

But present generation hold a belief of having a great risk of birth defects or genetic diseases in marrying cousins.

Besides all these pros and cons, even now many families treat it as auspicious and first consider such matches before going for outside relations.

These relations are quite common in south Indian families, Marathi families, and Muslim communities.

The south indian families even consider marrying 'mamas', mother's brothers when they are in eligible criteria like age, physic, educational qualifications, and financial matters.

The difference among these relations in South Hindu families and Muslim families is the matches are taken into consideration between bua and mama children in Hindu communities while Muslims marry any kind first cousins.(Thanks for clarification by SujalkiDeewani and muniza)

This difference is because, I think, Hindu's go according to paternal hierarchy while Muslims go by maternal hierarchy....not sure as Muslims consider both sides equal way.

In precise, in South Hindu families poopa-poopi's and bua's children can marry their mama's children. But, Chachi-chachi, mousa-mousi children cannot marry one another. They are considered brother and sisters. 

Detailed further, it is more common and encouraging to consider mama's daughters to bua's sons than considering bua's daughters to mama's sons. Later one is treated like 'TAKING BACK THE KANYADAN.'

For instance, when bua is given to her sasural by mama-maayka thru 'kanyadan'; marrying her daughter to mama's son is like taking back 'kanyadan' from bua's sasural.  
These relations will be considered only when the boy and girl love each other and/or the sister-brother are fond of each other families. In these cases, the society around them don't leave a chance to taunt them in sarcasm 'they dint get any other matches in this whole world. They went for ulta rista" 

My story is mostly based on these relationships.. ….(I go with Hindu traditional marriages in cousins to cousins…first attempt)

Angad's father, Dilip  and Kripa's mother, Gayatri  are brother and sister.


Kripa being Angad's bua's daughter he considers as his right to take her for granted as wife. Kripa loves Angad too as it is her birth right and believes she was born for him only. Embarrassed


On the other hand Kripa's father, Suryaban  likes his nephew, Prithvi, his own sister's son, as he believes it's his 'sowbhagya' to have him as his son-in-law. He always fights with his wife, Gayatri 'not to go for 'ulta rista.' LOL

From both sides the relations are encouraging and strong. Let's see who gets who.


Of course, we all know where Kripa belongs to.  But let's see how it happens.



Edited by vallanki - 30 January 2008 at 9:34am

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Posted: 05 September 2007 at 1:30pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by vallanki

 

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The difference among these relations in South Hindu families and Muslim families is the matches are taken into consideration between bua and mama children in Hindu communities while Muslims marry chacha-chichi, massa-maassi side cousins.

This difference is because, I think, Hindu's go according to paternal hierarchy while Muslims go by maternal hierarchy.

 

In Muslim community coz of maternal hierarchy they marry among sisters' children and brothers' children. They also forbid the way Hindu marrying cousins'.

 

gr88 FF!!! it iz completely different!

well...don't take ma said stuff in an offending way!

buh actually its nuffin lyk u hav ritten..abt paternal n maternal in muslimz!

now dayz..cuzins neva marry eacoda...buh if v talk abt 25 yrz bak...dey sure were!

so i actually wanted to sayy....ma cuzins hav married bak in families...n its not only restricted to paternal or maternal....az u r sayin...cuz...dey hav married their 1st cuzins only!

i hope m makin ma point clear!

no offense!Embarrassed

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Posted: 05 September 2007 at 1:33pm | IP Logged
Great concept.
liked it.
i have many muslim friends...and as i heard from them about this tradition...as being Hindu from north i don't really get this concept...i found it little weird....the way u attempt to explain it really help.
looking forward to read this ff. Smile
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Posted: 05 September 2007 at 1:36pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by SujalkiDeewani

Originally posted by vallanki

 

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The difference among these relations in South Hindu families and Muslim families is the matches are taken into consideration between bua and mama children in Hindu communities while Muslims marry chacha-chichi, massa-maassi side cousins.

This difference is because, I think, Hindu's go according to paternal hierarchy while Muslims go by maternal hierarchy.

In Muslim community coz of maternal hierarchy they marry among sisters' children and brothers' children. They also forbid the way Hindu marrying cousins'.

 

gr88 FF!!! it iz completely different!

well...don't take ma said stuff in an offending way!

buh actually its nuffin lyk u hav ritten..abt paternal n maternal in muslimz!

now dayz..cuzins neva marry eacoda...buh if v talk abt 25 yrz bak...dey sure were!

so i actually wanted to sayy....ma cuzins hav married bak in families...n its not only restricted to paternal or maternal....az u r sayin...cuz...dey hav married their 1st cuzins only!

i hope m makin ma point clear!

no offense!Embarrassed

really? ...it's new to me.. I thot they don't marry bua's, mama's kids...it's cool then...it will be more easier for me to continue writing....but in hindus they don't marry chacha, maassi kids...never...it's forbidden..

thanks for clearing it....I make a note...no offense at all..you can freely give your opinions, criticisms, it brushes writers' skills for sureEmbarrassed



Edited by vallanki - 05 September 2007 at 1:38pm
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Posted: 05 September 2007 at 2:15pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by vallanki

Originally posted by SujalkiDeewani

Originally posted by vallanki

 

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The difference among these relations in South Hindu families and Muslim families is the matches are taken into consideration between bua and mama children in Hindu communities while Muslims marry chacha-chichi, massa-maassi side cousins.

This difference is because, I think, Hindu's go according to paternal hierarchy while Muslims go by maternal hierarchy.

In Muslim community coz of maternal hierarchy they marry among sisters' children and brothers' children. They also forbid the way Hindu marrying cousins'.

 

gr88 FF!!! it iz completely different!

well...don't take ma said stuff in an offending way!

buh actually its nuffin lyk u hav ritten..abt paternal n maternal in muslimz!

now dayz..cuzins neva marry eacoda...buh if v talk abt 25 yrz bak...dey sure were!

so i actually wanted to sayy....ma cuzins hav married bak in families...n its not only restricted to paternal or maternal....az u r sayin...cuz...dey hav married their 1st cuzins only!

i hope m makin ma point clear!

no offense!Embarrassed

really? ...it's new to me.. I thot they don't marry bua's, mama's kids...it's cool then...it will be more easier for me to continue writing....but in hindus they don't marry chacha, maassi kids...never...it's forbidden..

thanks for clearing it....I make a note...no offense at all..you can freely give your opinions, criticisms, it brushes writers' skills for sureEmbarrassed

aaww!! its ok...wat i knew...i jus told u..i mean ...i hav neva heard of ny forbidden marriage in cuzins!Confused

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Posted: 05 September 2007 at 2:19pm | IP Logged

Originally posted by ridhijai

Great concept.
liked it.
i have many muslim friends...and as i heard from them about this tradition...as being Hindu from north i don't really get this concept...i found it little weird....the way u attempt to explain it really help.
looking forward to read this ff. Smile

Thanks..you are right....we feel weird when we don't know about the tradition...

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Posted: 05 September 2007 at 2:21pm | IP Logged
omggggg di u started another ff i'm soo happy LOL
amazing intro and way too diff wow ! awesome
i am always excited to read ak ff's LOL


_________
~Sana~


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Posted: 05 September 2007 at 2:49pm | IP Logged

Originally posted by iamsmart

omggggg di u started another ff i'm soo happy LOL
amazing intro and way too diff wow ! awesome
i am always excited to read ak ff's LOL
_________
~Sana~


Thanks sana! I can't stay away from AK too....tis is lil diferent by custom but love stories always lead in same directionEmbarrassed

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