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Dabulls23
IF-Stunnerz
Joined: 31 October 2005
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Haven't you all heard of "Leisure world" 
I personally would take care of parents on both side need be. Daughters or Sons all are equally responsible in taking care of parents. Those days are gone where parents did not drink "Beti ke ghar ka pani". These days daughters end up doing alot more for their parents than sons do. Not b/c Sons do not love their parents but that is how it ends up being. Just my observation 
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But for MR. DB and I we have planned to be on our own and will definitely consider "Leisure world". Kids and grand kids can come visit and go home. We can visit them too. No one feels guilty for anything and parents can feel proud that they are not burden on anyone.
It is something which requires planning and implementing 
mermaid_QT
IF-Sizzlerz
Joined: 25 September 2005
Posts: 11613
.. and to add more.. planning, implementation and this attitude of parents such as yourself! -.. 
qwertyesque
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Joined: 03 December 2006
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mittijalebi
IF-Rockerz
Joined: 08 May 2006
Posts: 5429
lighthouse
IF-Dazzler
Joined: 18 January 2006
Posts: 2842
Charity begins at home.. Cut down on volunteer work and take care of your own needy folks or family members Imo...Caring is never a zero sum game ...!!!!
...M...
IF-Sizzlerz
Joined: 20 October 2006
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mittijalebi
IF-Rockerz
Joined: 08 May 2006
Posts: 5429
This looks like a scenario where parents' responsibility and children's demands never end.
If they provided their children with good education and now children are able to take care of themselves then I think parents' responsibility is over.
Couldn't the children have found a day care or babysitter to raise their child?
but maya not every parent is comfortable with sending their kids to daycare or leaving them with a babysitter.
so then is the child responsible for taking care of them when they;re older? or should this be the duty of the sibling who's kids are being taken care of by the elder parents?
season915
Goldie
Joined: 01 May 2007
Posts: 1298
This looks like a scenario where parents' responsibility and children's demands never end.
If they provided their children with good education and now children are able to take care of themselves then I think parents' responsibility is over.
Couldn't the children have found a day care or babysitter to raise their child?
Let's say that parents have two kids and they give good education to both and now the kids are in a position to take care of themselves and their kids, it is not the parents' responsibility to go out of their way and help the kids. Ok, fair enough.
But if the reason given is what MJ said, (the bold part in MJ's quote)... then that is just wrong. To show bias amongst kids for no good reason in front of grandkids is a pathetic thing IMO. I have seen that happen and unfortunately I can relate to it. There are circumstances when one kids needs parents more than the other, and parents doing what is the need of the hour is all right, but when parents start discriminating between children for no rhyme or reason, it is wrong.
I don't think childern should keep demanding somehting or the other from parents at all times but when parents can volunteer to take care of one kid's children, why not the other's? That, in my opinion, is wrong and if parents show such attitude, I don't think they deserve all that extra care and all that. I guess better said than done. But, I have seen parents in very close relations who genuinely don't deserve old-age care, since their behavior is literally that of a 12-year old who likes one toy more than the other.
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