Should such marraiges be acceptable by society and family?
I don't think society should have any say in who gets married with who. Family, on the other hand, has full rights to talk about this. Some parents are just stubborn and don't want their children to get married to their own choice becuase of ego and status problems.
But, there are times when parents have genuine concerns. In India, joint family custom is still prevalent. I see people saying that discriminating based on caste is cheap and not okay. But if their daughter is to be living in that house with 15 odd people who have totally different customs and traditions, wouldn't (and shouldn't) the parents be concerned about their daughter's well-being? It would definitely be hard on the girl's part to adjust herself to an environment that she has not experienced for past 20+ years of her life. Things might turn out to be perfectly fine for the couple but that does not belittle the parents.
In cases like this where a girl runs away and lives in the guy's parents' house, IMO parents have full right to be a little khafa at their children but most understanding parents give up their views once they see their kids happy. And the ones who are not understanding remain that way and should not matter.
God Forbid such marraige doesn't work out, girl/boy returns home, should he/she be accepted by the family?
If the marriage did not work out due to the couple themselves and not any other reasons, then ideally I don't think the parents should accept them. After all, they tried their best to make them see sense and they still did not, then why should they go back to their parents?
But in a more realistic world, parents do accept their children letting bygones be bygones. There are some who turn their faces away from their children for life and stay that way. I don't agree with that extremist behavior.
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