Are parents responsible ??? - Page 2

Originally posted by: raunaq

parents are partly to be blamed on how the kids are brought up. there are kids who go around bad mouthing, troubling other kids on streets while parents stand on the other end and watch them instead of upbraiding them right on spot and showing them whats right and whats not..

 

So you say! spare the rod spoil the child!! But is this possible when one enters into teen age! Don't parents have some limits!!!

 

Originally posted by: raunaq

if parents like getting good praises they should also be ready to be get all the criticisms. its goes both hand in hand. they are ones who usually train kids and instill values in them.

Agree😊

Edited by mythili_Kiran - 16 years ago

Originally posted by: mythili_Kiran

To what extent can parenting control the behaviour,thoughts of the children.......

Also would like to ask...

IF parent(s) success or failures, insecurities or confidence affect child upbringing?

@Swata01
Also would like to ask...

IF parent(s) success or failures, insecurities or confidence affect child upbringing?



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To some extent it affect the child. If the parent is confident and secure that means the parent is successful inlife and can effectively guide the child.

But there are a lot of examples sround us showing children of insecure parents become great success in life.
Edited by nitasuni - 16 years ago

There is a big catch-22 in the responsibility of parents for their children's wrong doing.

To a certain extent parents are definitely responsible for their children's actions. Parents are responsible to raise children and instill good values in them. Children are reflective of their parents and reflect what their parents have intentionally or unintentionally instilled into them.

At the same time free will and personal thought apply. Once a child is in their teens they have reached the age where they experience the world on their own terms. They are at a stage where they question, challenge and rebel. While a parent can discipline to a certain extent, they are unable to control every action of their child.

Parenting requires a fine balance which is very difficult to achieve. You cannot let go because there have to be certain ground rules. You cannot be too strict either or push limits. You have to be willing to defend your discipline to your child's challenging mind.

As a teacher in my school once gave an analogy. It is like the guitar strings, if you have them too loose there will be no tunes, if you pull it tight then they break. Once you tune it correctly it is all upto the instrument to play right.

[sorry for doubble post

Edited by nitasuni - 16 years ago

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

There is a big catch-22 in the responsibility of parents for their children's wrong doing.

To a certain extent parents are definitely responsible for their children's actions. Parents are responsible to raise children and instill good values in them. Children are reflective of their parents and reflect what their parents have intentionally or unintentionally instilled into them.

At the same time free will and personal thought apply. Once a child is in their teens they have reached the age where they experience the world on their own terms. They are at a stage where they question, challenge and rebel. While a parent can discipline to a certain extent, they are unable to control every action of their child.

Parenting requires a fine balance which is very difficult to achieve. You cannot let go because there have to be certain ground rules. You cannot be too strict either or push limits. You have to be willing to defend your discipline to your child's challenging mind.

As a teacher in my school once gave an analogy. It is like the guitar strings, if you have them too loose there will be no tunes, if you pull it tight then they break. Once you tune it correctly it is all upto the instrument to play right.

Well said. Especially the bold font.

Edited by nitasuni - 16 years ago