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Posted: 14 July 2007 at 3:50am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Maya_M

Parents are the first ones to instill good values in children. But there is only so much a parent can do. For most of the actions as an adult I think children should take responsibility, good or bad.

The truth is when child does something good parents get praise and when he does bad he is blamed. LOLLOL

Yes!Its trueSmile!!!

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Posted: 14 July 2007 at 3:54am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Indian_girl_18

Funny. I wrote my second eassy in my college english class on a similar topic.

Parents are the ones that bring us to this world. They put good values in us.   They are our bridge to soical communication.

But i disagree that the parents are to be blamed for the stupid things that kids do. Kids start to do most of the "stupid" things once they are in their teenage years. Well, other than parents, there are other sources that pressure kids into doing things that aren't soically excepted. But Its the child that, in my point of view, that is responsible for what he or she does.

For example, smoking. Some people might say that when parents smoke, then the kid ends up smoking too. Is it really true. Well, there are kids in this world, whose parents smoke and they don't cause they now the conquences. On the other hand, there are kids who smoke and there parents never smoke. You can relate this to other things that kids do such as drink alcohol.

Is it really parents fault that they can't go to school with there kids to see what they acutally do in school. There is alot of external pressure on kids, such as their friends. When our friends do things, we tend to follow them and do it. But a child should be smart enough to now what is right and what is wrong.

Most kids take the wrong step cause they choose to, not cause their parents influenced them to. And studies have showed that kids in there teenages years (in which they are most likly to make a mistake) spend most of there time outside of their homes.

So in my point of view, Parents are never to be blamed for what kids do. The kids are to be blamed for the steps that they took.

enjoy the essay. LOL

Nice points Indian GirlClap

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Posted: 14 July 2007 at 3:58am | IP Logged

Originally posted by raunaq

parents are partly to be blamed on how the kids are brought up. there are kids who go around bad mouthing, troubling other kids on streets while parents stand on the other end and watch them instead of upbraiding them right on spot and showing them whats right and whats not..
 

So you say! spare the rod spoil the child!! But is this possible when one enters into teen age! Don't parents have some limits!!!

 

Originally posted by raunaq

if parents like getting good praises they should also be ready to be get all the criticisms. its goes both hand in hand. they are ones who usually train kids and instill values in them.

AgreeSmile



Edited by mythili_Kiran - 14 July 2007 at 4:03am
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Posted: 20 September 2007 at 5:30am | IP Logged
Originally posted by mythili_Kiran

To what extent can parenting control the behaviour,thoughts of the children.......

Also would like to ask...

IF parent(s) success or failures, insecurities or confidence affect child upbringing?

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Posted: 20 September 2007 at 6:58am | IP Logged
@Swata01
Also would like to ask...

IF parent(s) success or failures, insecurities or confidence affect child upbringing?



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To some extent it affect the child. If the parent is confident and secure that means the parent is successful inlife and can effectively guide the child.

But there are a lot of examples sround us showing children of insecure parents become great success in life.


Edited by nitasuni - 20 September 2007 at 6:58am
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Posted: 21 September 2007 at 9:45pm | IP Logged
There is a big catch-22 in the responsibility of parents for their children's wrong doing.

To a certain extent parents are definitely responsible for their children's actions. Parents are responsible to raise children and instill good values in them. Children are reflective of their parents and reflect what their parents have intentionally or unintentionally instilled into them.

At the same time free will and personal thought apply. Once a child is in their teens they have reached the age where they experience the world on their own terms. They are at a stage where they question, challenge and rebel. While a parent can discipline to a certain extent, they are unable to control every action of their child.

Parenting requires a fine balance which is very difficult to achieve. You cannot let go because there have to be certain ground rules. You cannot be too strict either or push limits. You have to be willing to defend your discipline to your child's challenging mind.

As a teacher in my school once gave an analogy. It is like the guitar strings, if you have them too loose there will be no tunes, if you pull it tight then they break. Once you tune it correctly it is all upto the instrument to play right.
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Posted: 22 September 2007 at 5:14am | IP Logged

[sorry for doubble post



Edited by nitasuni - 22 September 2007 at 5:22am
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Posted: 22 September 2007 at 5:18am | IP Logged

Originally posted by return_to_hades

There is a big catch-22 in the responsibility of parents for their children's wrong doing.

To a certain extent parents are definitely responsible for their children's actions. Parents are responsible to raise children and instill good values in them. Children are reflective of their parents and reflect what their parents have intentionally or unintentionally instilled into them.

At the same time free will and personal thought apply. Once a child is in their teens they have reached the age where they experience the world on their own terms. They are at a stage where they question, challenge and rebel. While a parent can discipline to a certain extent, they are unable to control every action of their child.

Parenting requires a fine balance which is very difficult to achieve. You cannot let go because there have to be certain ground rules. You cannot be too strict either or push limits. You have to be willing to defend your discipline to your child's challenging mind.

As a teacher in my school once gave an analogy. It is like the guitar strings, if you have them too loose there will be no tunes, if you pull it tight then they break. Once you tune it correctly it is all upto the instrument to play right.

Well said. Especially the bold font.



Edited by nitasuni - 22 September 2007 at 5:18am

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