Hi ji,
This is my very first topic here ji, and a first topic at India Forums after a long year. I was just going through some of my stuff, and I came across this. I know it is long ji, but I do hope I get to read your thoughts on this. Forgive me for the length ji, but I guess as a woman I took this topic a bit personally....
This is more like a discussion than a debate ji. In today's world more emphasis is made on how a person looks rather than inner beauty that seems very lost.To have a more 'plastic beautified' world there are many technological advancements. One such advancement is found in hosiptals ji. Nowadayz, along with finding out what gender a child is, abnormalities can be detected at an 'abortional' stage in pregnency. It is said to take the step as a parent to abort the child is hard, but many do take that step when they find out that the child has down syndrome, or another disability. But, is that a necessary step to take ji? To kill a life in an excuse of doing that child a 'favor' by not letting it come to the world and letting him/her suffer the pain others are capable of inflicting.
There are parents before who have raised kids with a certain disability with love and affection, and have tried to give a good upbringing. Even though that child has most likely suffered pains given by people outside, the child had his/her own family to turn to for affection. In such cases of disability, love is what makes these children bloom. So why are people taking a step as abortion for cases with an abnormal feteus? Is it that because people are too engulfed in beauty and the fact that are alwayz trying to fit in, that they think these children are a burden? This child should be killed because it will be saved from this harsh world. Are the parents too afraid of what this society might think of them, or are they really trying to do something good for that unborn? Some argue that it would take a toll on their married life, then is their marriage artifical like the beauty that's fought for? Some say that life is too harsh for a 'retarded' child, and that if given the chance they should avoid this ji. It might be that life is too hard on the people around this child that they want to take this option. If something like this does happen to a couple, it might be just there to test what kind of relationship they have, and to see if they have that love they tell others they do have.
It's you and I who can make this world very hard to live in ji. People give way too much importance as to how one looks, and being 'normal' with looks gets you a lot in this artifical world. We tend to set these fashion trends that is a must to follow, and people who stand out are somebody who needs to be not socialized with ji. Nowadayz, the first impression IS the last impression. There are kids who have down syndrome, and I'm pretty sure most people have seen this in their lives. But before giving out 'The Judgement' of how that child should be treated, wouldn't it be better to first get to know that child? If people can give 'normal' people that chance of interaction, then why can't this person be given a chance ji?
A child who has medical disabilities is treated sometimes with a lot of pity, and sometimes very horribly. But why do we tend to only express only those kind of emotions? As a child we all at one point watch those cartoons where everyone is shown equal ji, but the minute the many of us grow up and are spattered into the world we forget all that and start showing differination amongst children. I'm not saying all do that, but sadly there is a large number of people who tend to. People let themselves get carried away with this artificial beauty that they start doing anything which will give them the satisfaction of feeling that beauty. Peer pressure is bad, but come on, you've been given a brain to think from ji. Why should the 'give respect take respect' be different for people that are not 'normal'? Aur waise bhi, if someone is rude to the child, then it just shows what kind of up bringing that person has allowed on themselves.
A child is God's gift, and noone has the right to insult His gift like that. In His eyes na all are equal ji. Nowadayz, I saw on a news channel that women try to stay 'slim' during their pregnency period. Trying to stay 'slim' has a bad impact on the baby, and what disability he/she didn't have at the start will have after this treatment. Then who will the parent blame? How will they justify that aborting is the best way to go because he/she won't need to suffer in this world. Then why should, a small being who had no control over this, be punished and given the sentence of death?
God forbid that any child should have any disability, but if it does happen then one should accept it as a positive aspect rather than negitive. Because any child, 'normal' or 'abnormal', is greatly affected by a parent's attitude. Like Aksha said, define normal and abnormal. People define normal as an artifical prospect that this society admires. If one has an individual thinking process they are referred to as abnormal. I've been told on several occasions to act 'normal'. That hurts a lot. If that can hurt 'normal' people without disablilities, how much will it hurt that child ji? Ab it's not that child's fault that he/she is what they are.
Noone is perfect in this world ji. You just can't see that in the majority. But in those who you can see it in are referred to as 'abnormal'. A physical beauty that happens to be today's big thing makes a person very shallow. These kind of people get too engrossed in this that they forget a lot of things that can bring them the happiness they are in search for. Children with some disabilities can see that happiness, and feel content with life. While 'normal' people seem so discontent with their lives. It's 'normal' people who have discontent and dissatisfaction from the world ji, not 'abnormal' people. So why would you want to kill that fetues who later on becomes someone who is content with this world, and can find beauty in many things?
My simple question is, do you think it is right to abort an abnormal feteus? Ji, if it is a 'deadly abnormality' then this thought should be considered, but what if it isn't 'deadly'? Just think if someone very close to you had some abnormailty, and with the possiblity of abortion there is now in this matter, would you still justify saying that the feteus should be aborted?
Take care,
Simran
Again, sorry for the length ji....
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