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First up all let me tell you that I am against abortion but in certain situations may be there is a need to do that. As you have mentioned that there are certain defects not necessarily related to brain but there are so many congenital defects of which children are born. I agree that parents love their child very much and give the child the utmost care and love required, in most cases. Not all parents are similar mind you.. and that is a fact..
But for those parents who care and love their child with a certain congential defects, the world outside is absolutely cruel. Such children never realised their shortcomings when small and growing up but when the peers and people around start looking and taunt the child/teenager/adult, the child doesnt understand what hit him/her.. cos up till then there never was anything pointed to the child in that regard within the family and though there might be some things within the child which are not normal, for the child it is normal cos it never enter the child's thinking that whatever he carries is abnormal.(kinda hard to explain, hope you guys understood, what I am trying to say)
As the child grows s/he is acutely made aware of his/her shortcoming by the outside world, the so called society.. it is not easy for the child.. a child may lose his/her self confidence and feel inferior to others. The child may be intelligent but because of various remarks from the people, the child may not progress the way s/he should have in normal circumstances.
For the fortunate children with congential defects who have family support then also it is very hard because such children doesnt disclose each and every taunt to their family (even when family is caring and lovingly) and keep it inside them and suffer.... Life is not easy for such children.. even after becoming adult cos there is a baggage which that child carries for life.. Only few children with such conditions come out a winner.. but not all are fortunate in that way..
In such cases, may be abortion is justified.. I am saying this but I am still not sure.. kinda confused a lot about it.. but have seen the circumstances the parents and children with congential defects go through out their lifetime so kind of siding with a yes.. but still confused.. cos my heart say no and head says yes..
Hope you dont mind me asking one question in this thread of yours simran... My question is..
Should a child with congential defects which doesnt affect his/her thinking power should be made aware of his/her congential defects from childhood say 5 years or there after by parents???
parents should never ever mentioned to the child regarding the same and just love the child??? but sooner or later the world will?
Please answer friends.. thanks..
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Ya true....Peoples do abortion diff situation...sometime we cant blame them..but i feel its very tuff n crual dicision.
yes u can b brave and go through the 9 months knowing how ur baby is and that it doesnt have a future that u had imagined for it! it wont survive long, and the society wont accept it normal! or abort it and pray to God to give u another chance! its very difficult! aborting a child isnt being selfish - if u cant look after the baby, if ur emotionally not perfect, then its best to end it coz u wont b giving it the life it deserves!
this topic for me is difficult coz iv been through it! i was pregnant and i was so happy when i had gone to the hospital for a scan but the result wasnt what i wanted to hear- im not sure what the condition medically was called but my baby didnt have a head to cover its brain at 15 weeks - which meant most likely either it was going to be born very abnormal with a very short span life (1hr) or that i was going to miscarriage putting my life in danger. I had no choice my husband wasnt going to put my life in danger n neither were my parents - i was in a shock mode to say anything andd still today i got this fear in my heart on trying again - its something that stays with u and haunts u - it makes u think y God can give healthy children to ppl who dont deserve it.
its a very hard topic to discuss! unless u know som1 or have been through it - u cant say its right or wrong!
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