Originally posted by: greatmarathaNo relationship... which is one in every sense of the word becomes monotonous unless the people in the relationship want it to... Any relationship to survive needs constant work, almost like in a machinery, which needs oiling to keep it going for ever. So if the people in the relationship have allowed it to slide so much down that it has become monotouns do not really stand a chance of working it out again unless they pump in that much extra effort.
That effort cannot certainly be a baby as then the concentrations of the parties move away from themselves, which it should be, to the baby, which will only widen the chasm between them.
baby, in a healthy relationship, brings families closer.... In the case of relations which have become monotonous, it may just be the catalyst which would widen the gap and make it worse
very well said great maratha. however sometimes as you mentioned the couple move from me/mine issues and all thier efforts are concentrated on the baby. if the issues that were pulling them apart were petty and immature, having a baby almost always help. also baby is an affirmation of intimacy of the relationship between the couple,which normally pushes the intruding third party out of the scene. they are forced to grow up and become more responsible and look at thier lives together more as a social unit which helps. also almost invariably the couple is forced to spend more time together during the months of pregnancy, which helps them to know each other other and resolve issues between them and get attached to each other on more mental level(in case of arranged marraiges , joint families, consumate party people or people with very busy work lives)
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