Originally posted by _charu_
True..He goes out of the way to praise naira ..Why can't he stop gushing about her in front of everyone ? What is the need ? If after so much they are not able to see the goodness in her , may be they will never do it ..How much can you pressurize someone to think like you think ? May be they don't feel for naira as he does , big deal..This is the truth with 90% of the bahus..He can support her with all his might but why do naira jaap 247 when he can clearly see dadi gets super irritated ..Any mother does , they are not able to share their position /love with another girl ..How many mils feel happy when their bahu is praised over them ? Truth is for everyone to see , there no need to prove it and reiterate again and again the same thing that he is very lucky ..HE is making things difficult for naira.
Dadi is what she is ..Either just move out , woh bhi nai karna ! No! Naira wants to change everyone like her ..Make plans and make them realize their mistake and live like a happy family ..Why should we or any one get emotional over kaira ? This is what they have chosen ...Naira apologizing from dadi was a hilarious moment , everyone was expecting the opposite ..
Everyone wants a pota /poti...Stealing shankh was wrong , accepted ..Kartik not having a baby because of this old age thinking is ridiculous ...As a parent everyone takes a stand for their children , how else will the change come ? By not bringing them in this world ? ...Naitik out of nowhere creating a drama.is so stupid ..
I would say that if karthik can see that his dadi is being completely unreasonable in her views or treatment towards his wife, then he is bound to raise his voice. I never once felt that he was rude and manner-less towards his dadi, but don't we all at some point argue with our elders without being too ill-mannered when we feel that our elders are pushing their views on us without taking our feelings into account?
Yes it is true that no mother likes being praised over their DIL in real life by their son, but then serials are a complete and utter over-exaggeration of real life problems. In reality mother-in-laws don't show such a level of insecurity and rudeness towards their daughter-in-law the way dadi does.
We can't forget that whenever karthik does take a decision for himself or his wife, as he has a right to do, dadi, being old-fashioned as she is, automatically assumes that karthik doesn't have a brain of his own to make decisions himself, and she accuses naira of brainwashing him into following her will. That none of the decisions he makes are of his own free will, but all put in his head by naira. Dadi did the same when karthik decided to leave the house to live separately from the family after having a fight with manish right after kaira marriage.
Naira was blamed for this by dadi and the family too, as they all, especially dadi all assumed naira demanded for them to live separately from the family. According to dadi, a girl who does her husband's bidding is a good wife, yet when it was karthik's decision to live apart from his family with naira, and naira, out of respect for karthik's emotions, as karthik was in a fragile state of mind at that time due to the argument with manish over his mother's suicide, agreed to move out with him, dadi accused her of being a bad wife, DIL etc, solely because she and the rest of them didn't benefit from karthik's this decision.
If he makes a decision they don't agree with, dadi instantly concludes it was naira's idea, and karthik is just following naira's orders. She is so unreasonable, that I can't blame karthik at all.
So yeah, they already tried moving out, but the family/ dadi were all blaming naira rather than accepting that a couple don't need to live with their family after marriage.
I agree though that naira needs to stop acting mahaan and giving so much respect to dadi when she insults her or accuses her unnecessarily, but then again, if she stands up for herself, she will still get the same accusations against her of being ill-mannered, does whatever she wants etc. So how can you win when you are a married son or the daughter-in-law of such a family where the matriarch of the family is so typically patriarchal, conservative and seems to lack respect for women herself? There's no one way to deal with people like dadi who want the house to run exactly to their liking, who wants the women of her family to have no careers, aspirations or rights to demand something from their husband, and only really shows true love and affection towards the males of the family?
I know that everybody is saying that karthik needs to create a balance between his wife and family, but it is easily said than done, because then the question is how, when the family consists of people like dadi, manish and surekha, who although good at heart, are temperamental, egotistic, vain, overtly-conservative and controlling? (all three of them are a mix of all of these, except surekha, who isn't in the least bit controlling considering she acts like such a chamchi towards dadi to have any control).
Edited by sammy17 - 6 years ago