Posted: 30 April 2016 at 12:51pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by foresight
Originally posted by Apudeep
First of all Ragini was never deprived of love from her father or her dadi. One who is deprived of is Swara, she was raised by her mother and dida. Lakshya is the first to fall in love with Swara. She really tried to get rid of him, but she is not able to control her attraction ,and eventually fell in love with him. Swara did one fault and that is not talking about her undeniable attraction for Lucky to Ragini . Ragini became obsessive knowing that her half sister had fallen in love with her would be hubby.
I don't know about anyone else but if I would be in her place, I'll never allow me to be a murderer myself.That too for a guy like Lucky, who cheated her. I Should never push my sister for someone who is not faithful to me.
I don't agree with the statement that swara was deprived of any love. true that she didnt have a father figure in her life and her picture perfect family, but the love that she had was far more unconditional. Dida was the best role model there could have been and for all shomi's faults as a mother in pushing her own love story through, she did love swara a lot. in fact, swara had the love of shomi, dida,. then laksh fell in love with her and then sanskar. laksh's love may have been immature but it didnt have any ill intent with it.
shekhar and dadi's love for ragini on the other hand was conditional. it was conditional on her following their rules and ways.
please don't misunderstand what i am trying to say here. there is no question that ragini did some very very very wrong things. ones that needed proper punishment. i also wont go into the details of the dragging of negative track that CVs did nor the fast tracking of the redemption that they did. she should have been slowly redeemed given her crimes.
my only contention with comments here is the view that she was loved and pampered.
for me pampering is when you love someone so much ...unconditionally that you ignore their mistakes and even apologies to the victim for it, instead of reprimanding the perpetrator. it is where you have highlighted the right values and all, but when they don't follow it, you become sad, but don't shout at them. the person who was really pampered was laksh. but ragini didnt fall in that category.
think back to every time she was caught. shekhar, dadi practically washed their hands off her (in fact dadi even forgot her own crimes and threw them on ragini's head). no one in mm was in a mood to forgive. she had taunts coming her way...and rightfully so.
after the fake memory loss, AP may have ignored things but others were very pissed off with her. during malkin track no one was interesting in looking the other way (which would have happened if she was pampered) ...and justifiably so. of course dadi was with her since she was the one instigating ragini in the whole mess when shekhar and ragini were ready to get laksh out of jail.
unlike AP where she tried to inculcate some right values into laksh, dadi was always interested in pushing ragini in the wrong direction...feeding her with wrong info because of her hatred for shomi and swara. shekhar was the worst kind of father. he never paid much attention to his daughter or to how his mother was raising her. who was there to give her that genuine love??? shomi cared for her alright...she was a loving person...but that is diff from loving someone. she too did not see the pain in ragini with all the rejections. any mother in the engagement scenario would have slapped laksh and gone and told shekhar, ragini and dadi the truth and said i will not let my daughter's life be ruined by such a man. she is not going to marry him. no need for faking fainting and then not even being willing to reveal it until dadi caught her for it.
swara did love ragini in her own way...as did ragini...but again both sisters didnt love each other so much that they would put the other one in front of their love for a third person - laksh.
the only person who had somewhat show ragini love without some mal intent funnily is AP. which is a bit tragic. but no one else loved her the way you and i would be in a healthy family. swara was more blind to her faults and stuck to her own picture of perfect family forgiving everyone who was part of that picture on numerous occasions. i wish i could call it love. but it really isn't anything healthy
i did not see all the epis in the beginning so i have a question for those who did. in the beginning did everyone think of swara as illegitimate child? i thought everyone thought she was the child of shomi with her ex-husband and then when shekhar-shomi truth was revealed it came out. i might be wrong in this one ...hence asking if anyone knows.
i agree that if you and i were in ragini's place we wouldnt have turned murderers. we would have moved on from a person like laksh. equally i would like to think that if you and i were in swara's place, we would have let go of laksh and choosen our sister. and probably not gotten engaged to him. but then again this is fiction and TV world. nothing here is all that real. if it were, many of the characters would have been in jail (incl ragini) and many of them would have been dead given their injuries. not to mention there would have been a lot more fights in the family seeing that the younger bahu is taking decisions publicly for the eldest one. that if it happened in real life, would cause a mahabharat in the family.
@ bold how come you say she is not pampered didn't dadi support her with false molestation case just after giving her one slap and little bit scolding
shekar and dadi again forgive ragini after her truth revelation after ragini done her fake memory loss
okay i can leave it for health issue they did it
why no question asked when her truth came out once again and during malkin track
specialy shekar who knew she was wrong
whereas lakshya love for swara was conditional that she had to prove herself right in front of him everytime
and atleast lakshya had to go to jail for his crimes even if it is for a short time
@ italic it is not always easy to read a person mind
and when relation is so new how is it possible
if u have seen episode swara was in no mood to accept lakshya at first
it was only ragini who convince her that she had move on and somewhat influence swara to accept lakshya
but i am not saying whole blame of swara acceptance of lakshya love should lie with ragini becoz she was an adult but we cannot blame her for not caring for ragini
swara's love for ragini was selfless to an extent that it irritate me
may what be the reason be it wanting perfect family or any other
Edited by sia08 - 30 April 2016 at 12:54pm