Posted: 27 April 2016 at 2:36pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by foresight
simple thing with ragini is that wrong was done to her and she also did wrong. let us not mince words here.
could she/should she have still held herself together and not gone down the route of wrong despite wrong having been done to her - absolutely.
should she have gotten over her obsessions and moved on - yes - it would have been a lot healthier for her if she had
but was wrong done to her - yes it was. her doing wrong doesnt take away from that.
I have said before many times that she is 80% responsible for the wrong path that she went down. she should have held on to stronger moral compass and stayed on the right path. but equally 20% of responsibility is with the others who pushed her down the route.
Ragini has been very insecure and very people have understood or picked it up. and the truth is that she was right fully insecure. anyone in her position would be. that is not a justification for her wrong deeds because we all know there can be no justification for that, but equally her insecurity was real.
she grew up in a house where she wasnt allowed to express herself. she had to follow the dictat of the family esp her dadi who wasnt all that correct person herself. she was told that she was to be married to someone and that someone would be whole and sole, her upbringing was such that she took it for was it was. she never really had the love of shekhar despite what many say. he had himself said in some of the episodes that he would tell her to be more like swara (it is a different matter that he wasnt a good father to swara either) but he wasnt always there as a father for ragini either. dadi while taking her side and loving her, had her own agenda that were important to her. so she was at that point craving for love from anyone who would give it. her hopes now from shomi, swara and laksh given what was happening with dadi and shekhar. but shomi when she found out about laksh loving swara, instead of talking to the family pretended to faint. ragini worried about her more than her engagement, asked for it to be canceled, only to find out shomi had pretended to faint. she might not have wanted to hurt three lives, but it wasnt exactly what a mother should have done. then shomi wakes up to ragini's mistakes as a mother and only slaps her post swasan wedding to bring her to correct path. what happened to bringing the back to correct path before? netter shomi nor swara despite their caring realised that ragini loved laksh was was in pain over the quick wedding despite her pushing for it. swara loved her sister blindly - very very true --- and to the extent that it irked us. but like she was blind to ragini's faults, she was also blind to her pain over laksh. laksh the one person that she hoped was her salvation broke her heart again and again. and chose her sister. her best friend sanskar (who i like the most in the show) also gave her a nudge in the wrong direction and then realising his own mistake moved back...and asked her to...but may be not as strongly enough.
so was wrong done to her...yes...did that mean she should have done all the manipulations and hurt and games that she did - nopes.
did other characters have their own issues and pitfalls - yes. but since this post is about ragini - i am sticking to her character
about the CVs less said the better since they have messed up a lot of characters already. sanskar included.
@ bold I totally agree with this part of ur post but sorry I really don't agree with the rest of it.
Yes ragini's insecurity was real but she is never been loved by her family is nothing but ridiculous.
Shekhar loves ragini unconditionally and also dadi, even shomi for that matter. Shekhar believed in her, and was ready to leave shomi and swara for her (remember shomi is the one he loves and always craved for her), dadi trusted her and did anything and everything to support her even when she was wrong. When dadi got to know that she faked her molestation she covered it up, even swara covered it up. Dadi spoke only when all evilness of ragini was out. Shekhar too was shocked with her deeds. But both of them immediately were by her side after her second sucide drama and memory loss drama. Ragini got love and protection of her dadi, dad, shomi and swara too.
So her insecurity was not exactly love, her insecurity was lakshay, she was made to believe that a boy will come to your home look at, will fall for u, u will be married to him and have kids. Dadi and shekhar loved her so much that they protected her from the chances of being rejected.
Shomi immediately forgave her for everything she did to her and swara even before dadi and shekhar even swara for that matter forgave her immediately. Shomi slapped her after swasan forced marriage, because that was the limit, of her evilness, ragini is her daughter too and she thought that now it's time to slap to teach her a lesson, many parents resort to that level if a child falls an unimaginable low. Swara slapped her after she tried to prove her characterless because it was the third time she was breaking her trust on her.
So the most pampered, protected and loved characters in swaragini is ragini and lakshay. They are loved, protected and forgived by all, immediately without second thoughts.
So ragini's insecurity was rejection not love. Her insecurity was lakshay choosing swara over her and not lakshay's love. And this insecurity ultimately changed into an obsession.