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I have never had a relationship where I am so much at peace-Bipasha Basu
A candid chat with Bipasha Basu about shaadi ke side effects
Shikha Shah (TIMES LIFE; September 18, 2016)
What's the best part about being married?
The best part is that we desire each other. Karan (Singh Grover) is a very romantic and caring husband. He remembers every little detail about my diet, medicines and health check-ups. Nobody has ever looked after me the way he does. I'm blessed.
What made you believe in your relationship with him, and what do you think will make it work?
Respect, honesty and faith in each other are very important for a long-term relationship. Karan and I are brutally honest to each other. Sometimes, situations are awkward and things are inconvenient, but we are truthful. That's a pact we have kept between us. What makes a relationship work is our 'friendship'. You have to be great friends to be great companions. You have to realise that you aren't just living for yourself but for two people. It is only when you are selfless that you can have a great relationship.
The best part is that we desire each other. Karan (Singh Grover) is a very romantic and caring husband. He remembers every little detail about my diet, medicines and health check-ups. Nobody has ever looked after me the way he does. I'm blessed.
What made you believe in your relationship with him, and what do you think will make it work?
Respect, honesty and faith in each other are very important for a long-term relationship. Karan and I are brutally honest to each other. Sometimes, situations are awkward and things are inconvenient, but we are truthful. That's a pact we have kept between us. What makes a relationship work is our 'friendship'. You have to be great friends to be great companions. You have to realise that you aren't just living for yourself but for two people. It is only when you are selfless that you can have a great relationship.
Have you always believed in marriage?
Yes, I have always believed in the institution of marriage, but not to the extent that a woman is only defined by it or that marriage is her ultimate destination. I have grown up seeing a wonderful relationship between my parents, and have always aspired to have that kind of bond with my partner. Also, my sisters and I were always told by mum and dad that we were free to choose our soulmates. I fortunately chose Karan and he reinforces my belief in marriage.
Describe Karan as a partner...
With Karan, I don't need anybody around me. We never get bored even when it's just the two of us. We have the best time together. I have never had a relationship where I am so much at peace in the company of my partner. I don't need friends around me all the time to feel needed, loved. Karan respects everything about me my being, my independence, the person I am, the work I have done and, most importantly, my family. He makes an effort to understand every little thing about me. Whatever my checklist is, Karan simply ticks off all the boxes. He surprises me in little ways every day so I have definitely got more than I have ever wanted.
You've been on your own for a long time. Is sharing space difficult at times?
No. We never had to make an effort to adjust to each other. Our lives fit perfectly into each other's - like a puzzle solved. We have adapted to each other's ways of living very organically. Also, I am not someone who likes to be alone. I like people around me.
So, there have been no changes to your routine after marriage?
The only difference is that we do those things together now. We hit the gym together. I think working out together is great. I love TV shows and Karan loves films, so we watch them together. One thing that I have added to my routine is planning our meals. I am usually concerned about what he is going to eat.
Do you have a habit that Karan finds hard to deal with?
According to him, I am anal about everything. I am extremely particular when it comes to cleaning, planning and organising. He is kind of easy going. But lately he is trying to please me by being meticulous about things that bother me. As long as I am happy, he will do it. He does make fun of me later, when I am in a relaxed mood. But as long as my things are done, I don't care much.
Yes, I have always believed in the institution of marriage, but not to the extent that a woman is only defined by it or that marriage is her ultimate destination. I have grown up seeing a wonderful relationship between my parents, and have always aspired to have that kind of bond with my partner. Also, my sisters and I were always told by mum and dad that we were free to choose our soulmates. I fortunately chose Karan and he reinforces my belief in marriage.
Describe Karan as a partner...
With Karan, I don't need anybody around me. We never get bored even when it's just the two of us. We have the best time together. I have never had a relationship where I am so much at peace in the company of my partner. I don't need friends around me all the time to feel needed, loved. Karan respects everything about me my being, my independence, the person I am, the work I have done and, most importantly, my family. He makes an effort to understand every little thing about me. Whatever my checklist is, Karan simply ticks off all the boxes. He surprises me in little ways every day so I have definitely got more than I have ever wanted.
You've been on your own for a long time. Is sharing space difficult at times?
No. We never had to make an effort to adjust to each other. Our lives fit perfectly into each other's - like a puzzle solved. We have adapted to each other's ways of living very organically. Also, I am not someone who likes to be alone. I like people around me.
So, there have been no changes to your routine after marriage?
The only difference is that we do those things together now. We hit the gym together. I think working out together is great. I love TV shows and Karan loves films, so we watch them together. One thing that I have added to my routine is planning our meals. I am usually concerned about what he is going to eat.
Do you have a habit that Karan finds hard to deal with?
According to him, I am anal about everything. I am extremely particular when it comes to cleaning, planning and organising. He is kind of easy going. But lately he is trying to please me by being meticulous about things that bother me. As long as I am happy, he will do it. He does make fun of me later, when I am in a relaxed mood. But as long as my things are done, I don't care much.
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