Posted: 28 April 2016 at 7:08pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by rose2015
At this time Naksh is not marriage material as he is very immature, is very short tempered, and has a lot of growing up to do. Everything he has is because of his parents. Everything was handed to him. He never had to work hard for anything. They should have focused on him growing up, becoming mature, and becoming responsible. Show that he a responsible man who is ready for marriage and all the challenges that come with it. He doesn't understand diplomacy and relationships rather he adds fuel to a fire instead of water to calm it down.
Tara is still a kid trying to transition to being a responsible woman by getting married. She is not emotionally grown (that comes with experience and age) She is sheltered to some extent and the negativity she has seen from Bhua dadi scares her. She has worries about married life and if she will be able to live up to the expectations her inlaws family and Naksh may have of her. She sees Akshara as this perfect person as that is how she has been presented so naturally she feels she will always be compared and will always be reminded of her shortcomings when she is trying to transition to this new role and learn. She has come from a home where there are no other woman to guide her.
Think of this drama from a girls perspective and you may understand. If you had been in Tara's shoes and you were constantly feeling that you are not good enough for someone's son and constantly reminded of your shortcomings (bhua dadi) how would you feel. You would feel you have no chance in succeeding. At the end of the day it is the girl who has to make the most adjustments and compromise. They have shown that when a boy makes a mistake it is overlooked but when a girl makes a mistake it is unforgivable. A boys family has no right to criticize or put down a girls family. They are not above anyone and should not think that way. See how hurt Naitik was when something bad was said about Naira. (it was true) He was defensive and not able to accept it. How can you expect Tara's brothers not to get angry when their sister is being attacked by lightning and thunderstorms. No one is understanding the pain that has collected in Tara's heart. She is leaving her family to join Naksh's family. She needs to feel welcomed and supported. She did not go through with the prenup. She was looking for ways to protect herself. This prenup and brainwashing was Preeti's doing. Tell me which woman was there to guide Tara and calm her nerves about marriage and life after that.
I think it was good she ran away. How can a girl watch her father's pain while he bows down while Naksh and his family badmouth his daughters character. They totally trashed her. (Bhua dadi) The sad part was no one defended and protected her when Bhua dadi said all those nasty things because everyone is afraid of her and in their minds they know she is wrong.
I don't like it when they show a boy saying, "don't you dare say anything about my family" but his family has the right to butcher her character and bad mouth her family. What hypocrites. That is what is wrong with our society. I think for Tara she needs time away to think about what she wants in life. She needs time to think about her goals and what matters to her. She has that right and no one should rush her into marriage. She needs her own identity not go from being a daughter to a wife. She was not being true to herself and for this reason her heart felt this is not right and she was unhappy. Too much was said about her and her family. How can that be forgiven. Instead they are saying only she is wrong and she needs to apologize. Didn't Naitik and Akshara knowingly hide this prenup news from the family. Shouldn't have they confronted Naksh and cleared everything before the marriage instead of hiding all this. Look at the result of what happened. When things are bad is when you see a persons true colors. Today Tara saw the true colors of Naksh. He is not the right person for her. Let her grow up and have a mind of her own. Let her have the opportunity to mature and have the knowledge to make right decisions for herself. She deserves better. Give her time to develop her self esteem and confidence. Naksh also needs to grow up because if this is how he behaves with any girl no one is going to tolerate it. Sanjana would have never tolerated all the crap Tara dealt with. These tv shows always show heartache for girls and their parents. Why? Parents wants their daughter to be loved unconditionally like they have been raised. If a boys family wants a cook and cleaning lady they can hire a servant. Why find a girl to get married and ruin her life. You make her a servant and taunt her all day long.
In this day and age educated your daughters and make them independent before you force them into marriage. Naksh was probably her first experience of love and it is a rollercoaster of emotions that she was not prepared for. When she is more matured she can get a much better husband than Naksh.
Sorry for the long post. I was really frustrated watching this episode.
I have been very harsh on Tara and her character. But I can't believe I have been converted and now is disgusted with Naksh. Ok Tara has made her mistakes but can we just discuss what Naksh didn't do. How despicable was his behavior, when he first threw the prenup papers on Tara ok I get it he is pissed off as he thought his love betrayed him so some yelling warranted, but after that when he was continuing to humiliate her especially infront of everyone not cool bro just not cool. Ok Tara made a mistake but isn't love supposed to forgive, his behaviour only reaffirmed her attitude that she had a right to fear him and he was going to turn his back on her eventually. She made very valid points about Bua Dadi not one person considered that Bua Dadi's cruel attitude messed with Tara head and made Tara insecure. I know many are not happy with Tara attitude towards Sanjana, but lets assess the origin of her unhappiness, she is constantly told she is not good enough to marry Naksh, then pops up this happy go lucky girl who the whole family loves, openly embraces your future husband and admits how much they love each other as cough friends cough, it is bound to make any normal girl scared and insecure especially when your finance is a fool like Naksh. Lets compare this to what happened when her coach was celebrating with her, or what if Tara had a guy friend who was hugging her openly in front of her inlaws and telling her how much he loves her, I am sure Naksh would be very understanding of their 'FRIENDSHIP'. Karishma attitude before marriage was way worst but no one treated her the way Tara was treated. Tara was not right but Naksh was way wrong who doesn't know ABCD of standing by your lady love. Tara was right to walk away after all these curses she has no hope to believe that this fool can make her happy.
I have to add Naitik and Akshara attitude have not helped either. They never put their foot down in regards to Bua Dadi and let that mean woman abuse that poor girl. Look at the bias Naksh can't hear a word against Naira, what if Naira was getting married and there was a character like Bua Dadi in her in laws and she constantly abused Naira with words wouldn't they stand up for their daughter. A more recent example was what happened with Ananya, Akshara can stand up for what is right when it is her own family and she can give large bashans but Tara is not her family so she expects Tara to deal with all the false sorries how many sorries would be enough to make up for constant put downs especially when the damage is done.
Edited by loveanime - 28 April 2016 at 10:29pm