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anshurg5

@anshurg5

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Posted: 8 years ago

Ppl who themselves got the bebefit of education , a secure enviornment , wordly exposure may look down towards the ppl who are living a marginalized life in the shadow of many kind of fears without any kind of financial security, without any hope of getting justice from law enforcing authorities, without any efforts to win their trust by any social worker.

It is easy to be judgemental without having experienced their life.

If instead of doing lip service ppl have spared time to really know their real condition and put some efforts to rectify it , their story could have been different.

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afi88

@afi88

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Posted: 8 years ago

It's been 11 years

So I wonder did Anandi search for her daughter like a mad woman the first few years and then at some point decided to hand the search over to the police?

If so.. Why?

Could it be because of Shivam

He is her child too.. and devoting her entire being to search for her missing child and neglecting the one she still had to care for and raise would've have been unfair to Shivam.

The assumption isn't a far fetched one

It happens more often then not

When a family is struck by this kind of tragedy one or both parents get so consumed with grieve they start devoting all their time and energy into finding their missing child and forget about the child(ren) they still have. Or they get so depressed they withdraw from the world or become alcoholics, drug addicts? So one incident didn't only take away their sibling but also made them orphans.

Even if this is the case still it would've been good to see her going to the police station at least once a month to inquire about the case so far.. And or seeing her devote atleast one day every 2 months to finding her daughter herself.

instead we're left to either assume the worst or the best

And I so dislike assuming things

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Awfulggt

@Awfulggt

Goldie

Posted: 8 years ago

Personally I never seriously wondered how well anandi searched for her daughter in the past time which the directors left us to imagine. But one incident showed how she totally gave up on her daughter. The incident was anandi-nandini's first meet at midnight at some lonely place. Wrote quite a few posts in detail regarding this.

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aparnauma

@aparnauma

IF-Stunnerz

+ 4

Posted: 8 years ago

People are not looking down because Mangala is from the marginlaised sections of the scoiety.They look down because OF HER APPROACH TO LIFE.

Approach to life doesn't depend on education level of awareness or socio - economic status.

If education economic independence are key to a better life all educated people should have come up as winners in life.We wouldn't be hearing about how educated and employed women put up with debaucherous abusive husbands putting up with abusive relationships where they get no respect and get only humiliation.

Today's episode clearly said about her.She only has been concerned about herself and Nimboli till now.

All her actions and behaviour have been decided by her need to keep her sole posession close to herself.

She wanted to call Anandi when Urmi was being abused she didn't because of her fear of seperation from Nimboli

She wanted to call Jagya when she heard that he has been arrested but did not call

Only today after hearing Akheraj and his bunch of creepy friends did she realise what will happen if he gets power in his hands.Now she admitted to herself that she has been selfish.

Finally when she swung to action it is too late. She didn't get to speak to Jagya.

Sitting there until it is too late to do anything.Why? She just was only concerned about her own self and her own needs.

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This is what likes of Mangala do - keep blaming the circumstances and never blame themselves. They are the ones who go to vote and they vote for who ever promises to take care of their petty needs and why blame politicians? When people are like this?

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So Mangala finally admitted to her selfishness with regard to her need for Nimboli.

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Too bad Nandini's mother did not think the way Mangala thinks. Let the world go to hell. As long as me and my children are safe nothing else matters.

In the end what society needs is fools like Anandi and Kishore who rush to help others and stand for others.

If at all our society is still stading it is because of those few people like Anandi and Kishore exist in real world too. They stand up for what they believe is right.

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aparnauma

@aparnauma

IF-Stunnerz

+ 4

Posted: 8 years ago

The night Anandi met that little girl while she is coming back from another lead which led her no where close to her daughter. It has been eleven years. She is coming back after another disappointing day in her search for her daughter.

How does a mother who has been searching for her daughter for eleven years feel after another disappointment?

There was a phone call between Anandi and Dsa too before she met that girl in the forest.That conversation between Dsa and Anandi said that this is not the first time Anandi running to that place from when she heard something that it could lead to her daughter.Anandi was dejected and Dsa was consoling her.

So how will she get a clue that the girl she met is her daughter?

A few days before that even Shivam got lost in the woods and sat there crying. How different was this scene from Shivam crying? Children need not come from bad homes to get lost in the woods.That little girl never told her anything she stopped crying and she wanted to go home so she dropped her and she went off.

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aparnauma

@aparnauma

IF-Stunnerz

+ 4

Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Mangala also failed many times. That is why she is still under Akheraj's dictat.

Yes, Kamli is foolish and failed. But she has no ulterior motives behind her acts like some other woman. She is friendly and sociable unlike the other who avoids socialising.

All in all I prefer a foolish Kamli to a devious, suspicious Mangala.

Failing is not a big deal.

Foolish people with their bravdo are preferable to people like Mangala who do not look beyond their selves.

Society needs more people like Kishore and Anandi.So what if they are foolish at least their concern and care for others doesn't let them think what they stand to lose by helping others.

Tomorrow if Anandi gets her daughter back it is a vindication of her own good nature.The fact that she didn;t stop to thisnk what she stands to lose or gain by helping others.

People can mock her.It doesn't matter

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libsrocks

@libsrocks

IF-Rockerz

Posted: 8 years ago

We can talk big words for Anandi but the truth is that such people do not survive for long in real world! We need to ensure safety of our life too if we want to help someone. You cannot compare every individual with Anandi's level of selflessness! Mangala is doing something which no one taught her or she never saw anyone around do it. Anandi still had some inspiration around her. Let's not forget had Mangala not been selfish, Anandi would not have anyone to look for in these 11 yrs (its a different issue that she isn't really trying to find someone)!

Your attitude towards life has lot to do with what you see around yourself! If Mangala never saw anything beyond the life at Jhalra, how can she think something else for Nimboli's future?!

Anandi has way better life than many women around her!

And if Mangala is waiting for the right time to strike even Anandi is waiting for someone to leave Nandini at her doorstep! Meanwhile she has movie plans with Anant, dinner dates with Nidhi, giving regular cup of tea to Dadisa and be a silent watcher to BH drama! We totally understand if she cannot spare few moments of her day on searching for her daughter!

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leavesandwaves

@leavesandwaves

IF-Sizzlerz

+ 3

Posted: 8 years ago

Anandi has done much more and her searching for her daughter is only part of it.

Did she ask that her daughter be dropped at her doorstep?

As for living life, it is her life. She is not harming anyone by going for a movie, having dinner dates, giving cups of tea.

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libsrocks

@libsrocks

IF-Rockerz

Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: aparnauma

Foolish people with their bravdo are preferable to people like Mangala who do not look beyond their selves.

Society needs more people like Kishore and Anandi.So what if they are foolish at least their concern and care for others doesn't let them think what they stand to lose by helping others.

Tomorrow if Anandi gets her daughter back it is a vindication of her own good nature.The fact that she didn;t stop to thisnk what she stands to lose or gain by helping others.

People can mock her.It doesn't matter

Thats the point...Anandi did not lose much!

Currently its her daughter who is losing a lot thanks to her selfless mother!

Anandi lost KB and shifted to BH! Anandi lost the comfort of city and got in Jatsar where every listens to her! Anandi lost her Bhaili and got SN!

Let's not even talk about her stress level for losing her daughter! She might be trying to look happy for Shivam but she need not stop looking for her daughter! Besides what's the point of staying in BH for so long if she could not hand over Shivam under DS's care for few hours and find her daughter?

Besides i don't think Kishore would have tried to save Nimboli at cost of his own chuld's safety! Neither would have Shiv! They both brought trouble over their own life and not their kids'!

Edited by libsrocks - 8 years ago

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libsrocks

@libsrocks

IF-Rockerz

Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves
Anandi has done much more and her searching for her daughter is only part of it.

Did she ask that her daughter be dropped at her doorstep?

As for living life, it is her life. She is not harming anyone by going for a movie, having dinner dates, giving cups of tea.

Anadi has done mich more and searcing for hef daughter is barely 10% of it! 👏

Actions speaks louder than words! Sometimes we don't move from our place to get something we want because deep inside we are expecting someone else to do the job for us!

Anandi is definitely not harming anyone but if Mangala shouldn't call herself a mother if she cannot protect Nandini then merely giving birth to her does not give Anandi the right to be called her mother! No matter how much she cries over her daughter!

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