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Nivi... My mom dies the dialling number thing even if she has the numbers fed in her phone 😕

Originally posted by: Ashu25

II ka mujhe samajh nahi aata bhai

She talks rubbish when he is around. And when he finds out she picks up a fight. 

When she has to share,  she doesnt.

Very rarely ghuma phirake baat bolti hai. 

However insecure she is.. Its now a family and I think she must have shared this with RB... Irrespective of the judgements of the Bhallas. 

Originally posted by: samsi74

Swathi you and I posted at the same time. No I don't think wives hide things this much from their husbands. I certainly don't. Specially things he'll get to know later. If I did something like this I can't even imagine my husband's reaction!! Apart from being dishonest, it's not prudent either. You loose your husband's respect. If she can hide it permanently then she can(hide it) to save face but otherwise being upfront is the best strategy, I'm my opinion.

Swa

EVERY PERSON is different, I DEFINITELY did not share any uncomfortable happenings at my parents house with my husband the first 2 or 3 years... I started to as my parents aged and I aged also. May not be how a soap bahu behaves but thats the truth

I didnt want him to know about certain things I AM SURE he hid some things too... ITS OK
It doesnt matter to me. We both are allowed to maintain privacy about things we think are appropriate

100% transparency shaayad hi kisi Desi shaadi mein hoga (I know the moment I s ay that someone will disagree which is fine)

WHY will II share? Her nephew is accused of stealing, I dont see it as a big "husband wife have no understanding" its too sad etc

Its not... she is violating her Akka's privacy by saying it to hubby.
I dont care about it but some of my cousins married out of caste I never told my MIL about it until she passed away. I didnt want her to judge my family "ONGA AATHLA IPDI PANRA" (IN YOUR HOUSE) they marry like that... a distant niece "ran away" (odi poyitta🤣) and eloped... I didnt tell my husband or in laws
Just didnt...

It works for me

My husband is non political and non gossipy but not so much😉 about people in my in laws' I didnt want unnecessary questioning "What will happen now?"

"Edo IVA poi kanna todachu vidra madiri" (like they are going to wipe away tears)😡
Edited by Nisha0604 - 8 years ago

The reasons I can think of for II's behaviour are

Originally posted by: samsi74

The reasons I can think of for II's behaviour are

1.She is a newlywed

2. Very insecure about her husband's affection

3. Insecure about her finances

3. Very proud

4. Very competitive

5. Want to save face regarding her family

Well said... and then add the following

6. She doesnt NEED to just because he is her hubby
7. some things can be shared with best friends or siblings alone
8. Just like parents are not told certain things husbands can be too. Its not a life and death matter and he is no way connected to Shravu's act (she just discovered he stole Nandu's)

Shaadi mein HONESTY se zyaada TACTFULNESS chahiye

TOO much Mother Teresa like behavior can get u divorced. Jinko kehna hai kaho. I am not stopping you... but too much honesty causes tremendous hurt and heart burn and grudges

My mother in law was not going to this distant cousin's house and eat the food made by that dude... WHY shud she know the cousin married out of caste

"If I had told her I would have justified it in a filmy way "Oh She LOVES him blah blah blah"

My mother in law will sternly scold me and bad mouth all and sundry and say "Kids dont have any respect for parents feelings, tomorrow will u let your sons do that?"

"I would be like "I will try to follow culture as best as I can"

"That means u dont care for our culture"

TEVAYA? Zaroorat hai kya? Sar par kulhari?

Not to me... Jisko mahaan ban na hai ban jao🤣

And then when my Amma calls she will put a whole new spin on it or say "PAAAVAM I feel terrible for the girl's parents what a tragedy"

The girl is my Mom's neice, my Mom will feel murderous

Kyon? Itna tamasha😆

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

Well said... and then add the following

6. She doesnt NEED to just because he is her hubby
7. some things can be shared with best friends or siblings alone
8. Just like parents are not told certain things husbands can be too. Its not a life and death matter and he is no way connected to Shravu's act (she just discovered he stole Nandu's)

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

Well said... and then add the following

6. She doesnt NEED to just because he is her hubby
7. some things can be shared with best friends or siblings alone
8. Just like parents are not told certain things husbands can be too. Its not a life and death matter and he is no way connected to Shravu's act (she just discovered he stole Nandu's)

I went back to reading my BUTTER parts... 

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

Well said... and then add the following

6. She doesnt NEED to just because he is her hubby
7. some things can be shared with best friends or siblings alone
8. Just like parents are not told certain things husbands can be too. Its not a life and death matter and he is no way connected to Shravu's act (she just discovered he stole Nandu's)