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Should anandi marry once again?

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Posted: 9 years ago
This content was originally posted by: Missesha

The girl Shiv married was a powerful girl with vision and focus in life. She was someone who knew to make something out of her broken life. She was sweet, caring and family-oriented, but at the same time she had the will-power, fighting spirits and ability to control her life.  She knew what she wanted.

With only limited resources, this girl knew how to move ahead. From her first broken relationship - when she made to feel useless, she had taken every step to show her worthiness to her family and society through her education, persuasion and her never-give-up attitude.

The girl who Shiv married was a perfect life partner one would want, except that she was a broken heart and needed some soul healing. 

Shiv fell for Anandi's above characteristics slowly and steadily day by day. She was the one he was looking for and was ready to heal her soul. 

The woman who Shiv has left behind is a confused soul with no specific dreams, ambitions or choices in life. She has no vision and no mission. She is someone who jumps from one person's problems to another without any real reason. She is failing as a mother in protecting her kids. She is failing a person to control her own life and she is someone who invites problems. 

Will a man ever want to give away all that he has for a confused fragile soul like Anandi? Or will Anandi need to stand up in her own eyes first before anyone can even appreciate her?

Life is not a bed of roses, and Shivs do not always come from some corner to heal all tormented Anandis. In life one has to fight to earn or protect what is theirs. If Anandi can do that good for her, otherwise I am not sure anymore Shiv will want to heal this Anandi. 

The woman Shiv married had an identity of her own but she willingly gave up that identity and loved being his wife and taking care of his home and that was an act of love from her.
As for her hopes and aspirations - No matter what her love for her family comes first over her dreams.
She sacrificed her dreams and got married to Jagya because her parents wanted that for her
She sacrificed her independence and got married to Shiv because the family wanted it.
Post her marriage Shiv became her first priority in life and everything else came next 
Yes she was looking for a way to help out people like Chanda  Bhaili came into existence with the help of Shiv and her time and energy was divided between him his family and Bhaili
Then she wanted to adopt Amol - She divided her self between Shiv his family Amol and Bhaili

Then the biggest blow to her life  HER NO 1 priority has been taken away.

She was taking care of kids family and Bhaili and going on with her life doing what she has always been doing since marriage 

The one whom Shiv married - even her priority back then was also family and her desires dreams came second.For her Singh family came first and then  came her own desires and dreams

The one whom Shiv left behind -  her priority has always been him.Her world revolved around him that was clearly evident during the drug drama or when Palash was trying to disrupt their lives - Her world began and ended with him  Yes CVs showed her taking care of his family as an act of her love for him since it is family drama.

There are two things - she always did stand up for the people who can't stand up for themselves and always found a way to help people who are in need.She never ever thought of consequences of her standing for the weak and defenceless and she paid price for it in someway or other and now she paid the biggest price.Standing up for what she believes is what she does for herself 

Other thing - She always put the happiness and well being of her loved ones over her own interests and dreams 

They never change.

Goal driven existence - May be her goals are not tangible ones - She is doing what she wants - always be of help to someone in someway or other and her goal is to look for ways to do it.  

Educating small group of girls - turned into a school

Her desire and dedication to help her village make her better place made her Sarpanch

Wanting to help women - turned into Bhaili - I am sure it is her practical side to her beliefs and principles taht keeps Bhaili going on and not just her emotions 

There are goals and there are goals

Just getting highest possible education and reaching the heights one wants to reach need not be the only kind of goals in life 







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Posted: 9 years ago
yes she should

according to me
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Posted: 9 years ago
Who will marry anandi?

Maybe a social worker like her.
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Posted: 9 years ago
No more please its enough..
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Posted: 9 years ago
As per me, the question is if Anandi would(not should) marry again ?

Nope, Anandi will not marry again if left on her own.
If she should? Under the given circumstances No. Well, its upto CVs what they want to show. As understood so far, they have shown Anandi experiencing a full fulling married life with all her dreams coming true. so this chapter is technically over, and she is now the mother of Shiv's kids. Her focus is going to be different, bringing up Amol, Shivam and searching for Nandini. Once she finds her, I would like to see a mother-daughter bonding instead.
Unless, Shiv comes back 😊 which is next to impossible now !
Edited by tellygeek - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
Anandi will not marry again if left to her.Why would she want to? She didn't want to marry after Jagya left her now when her emotions are even more strongly invested in Shiv why would she agree to marry again and that too after she knows how difficult she found to accept Shiv as her husband?
 
Anandi was bullied and blackmailed by Dadisa to marry Shiv in the first place because Dsa felt that Anandi deserved a companion who would be with her life long.
That was the reason Dsa gave Bhago while requesting her to convince Anandi to marry Shiv.She said Anandi doesn't need a Sahara in her life because she is very well capable but needs a Saathi by her side
 
But when it came to Gehna she wanted Gehna remarry because she felt Gehna needed sahara and also a companion who is on same page as her which she didn't have in her first marriage.
 
Now does Anandi feel the need for a Sathi especially when she believes Shiv is her Sathi and is there at every step and she believes that he is standing next to her?
 
What argument will Dsa come up with to convince Anandi to marry again?She cannot come up with sahara argument with Anandi and neither she can come up with kids needing father.If Dsa could manage as a widow so can Anandi
 
Anandi even if she let go of Jagya her memories as Jagya's wife were difficult to get rid of how much more difficult will it be for Anandi to put someone else's face as husband in place of Shiv's face? She has learnt by experience that it is not easy for her or for her husband now why would she want to put someone else in trouble?
 
CVs did ensure that Anandi will never have time to think about her loneliness or her needs again.So Anandi agreeing to marry doesn't arise now or later.
 
 
Edited by aparnauma - 9 years ago