UNDERSTANDING..

Dear Friends,

You may Love me or Hate me. You may go to the extent of bashing me or praising me,you may even call me names, but believe me your hatred is not upsetting,it actually doesn't disturb my equilibrium.

And it's not the first time, so am pretty much used to it..but just this time hear me, it's  a humble request..and just so that you know am not here to DEFEND' anyone,or be anyone's blind follower or fan..

Because what am gonna tell you is on a much more personal scale, and it's just an effort to make you understand that when you're trying to change someone for better, only love and support can do that..and I say this from personal experience.So please bear with me...and I hope that you wo't retaliate in a harsh manner because it's just my opinion..

Harshad Arora and Preetika Rao mean more to me, than I can express, because what I feel for them is more like the feelings I have for my brother and sister..it's probably because I can relate to their nature..

And once again I say am not here to defend anyone or prove anyone wrong or right...

All of us are saying that it's because of Vivek Madaan and Gunjan Vijaya,that Harshad is nearing his doom,that what he did was gross and it's hard for you to believe that he could stop so low...and you all are hating him for humiliating Pree,but for once did you think,what could've cause dthis change in him..and its not just the company of a few.

In our lives, we reach a point, if not all, but atleast most of us, reach a point when we feel that what we consciously are doing is right ,and a mistake becomes a habit..a time when we refuse to the entreaties of our wellwishers..

It happened in the case of two people..the first one being my own brother, who of course is younger than Harshad,but then he elder to me by 7 years..

Just a year back, he (my brother) came out of what I call the worst phase of his life..which would've otherwise drawn him towards his doomsday.

During that phase it was hard for us to even believe that he was the same person, quiet, introvert, humble and one who could differentiate between right and wrong..

It was hard for me to look at him fall into the abyss of darkness,and its not that he stopped loving his family..but his friends' became more important, what they thought and said became his thoughts too..

But he slowly came out of that phase, and it's not  he was not ashamed of himself afterwards..he was,he repented,but then the incidents turned him into a more matured person..a better human being,and my uncle and aunt got back their son, me my brotherand he was at peace with his conscience..

It's not our rebukes, but love and support which got him back from the clutches of soemthign which can be regarded as one of the steps towards self -annihilation..

   Let me tell you about someone else..if you've watched the Harry Potter series and followed the career of the actors who played the characters you'll know that it's not really hard to lose yourself in the  maze stardom

I'm talking about Daniel Radcliffe who portrayed Harry Potter. He inculcated  a very bad drinking habit ..and he did it consciously..and if you go back to read his confessions,you'll know that it was at a point when he came and realized that his habits were straining his relationship with his family and friends,and since then he's been a teetotal..am not saying this to bore you out but to convey,that he was able to come out of it because he had the support of his family and friends..

You have no idea the miracles love, support and a few kinds words can make...

You have repeatedly said that you love Harshad Arora, was that love not enough to give him that ebenfit of doubt..yes I know what he has not done anything noble, and I do not support his actions,but have you ever considered that maybe it was because of lapse of judgement..did you not think twice before saying something as strong as hate'..

And guys is a proven fact that girls mature faster than boys,that they are more capable of handling such situations..for example Pree and Nam..

I DID NOT SUPPORT when pree was bashed,ruthlessly,by her fandom and people which had infiltrated from outside,and I dn not support the bashing of Harshad either..and I do this not because of my blind' love..because for me love can never be blind,it instead helps us understand a person better..its a promise to help that person,through thick and thin..

I am against bashing, you may not support a person's actions,that's valid,but that doesn't mean you'll insult a person, because hatred is a emotions which eats away all the memories which you had until then , treasured with so much love..

The account which mutilated Pree's picture in the most vulgar way possible was not just immoral and uncouth but also  a punishable offence,and even after that Pree kept quiet and this quality is admirable, and I know that Harshad should have kept quiet to, but then you can't expect the same thing from two different indivduals..

So guys just don't bash him..don't create  a rift in the fandom,because united we stand divided we fall..don't believe rumors from any dubious sources...it's an earnest request..please don't jump into conclusions, and most importantly,please don't misunderstand anyone..because one moment of misunderstanding can create differences which can even destroy relationships...I do not support if someone does  something grave ..I wouldn't have supported if I knew that he was a bad guy..but just for once,even if you have loved him for a day,please spare a monet to understand him,that what you see is not always what is happening..

More over, there's something else I'd like to say, some of you may even hate me more than you already do, but just so that you know, you'll always be dear to me..because when I say I love you,I really mean it, and am sorry, for stating something which differs from your opinion, but dear ,I don't say things to impress someone ,I say to express..and before I sign off, a good person may not necessarily be a good company..and its  aperson's personal choice and since you are concerned about the person in question, I would like to request that just eb there for Harshad..he'll come around ,I know that for sure.

With Love,

Anwesha

(@anwesha_india)

P.S. Am sorry for taking your precious time..but I wish that you'd understand me..

Originally posted by: lovesucks_78

harshad is seriously behaving like he had a heartbreak or breakup

Originally posted by: ramita94

I completely understand and respect your P.O.V and I want to give him the benefit of doubt, but his words and actions have so much hurt. Because there are fans that if Pree did the same would be angry and upset with her. We can never imagine that she would do such a thing, and the same thing for Harshad.

His life, his choices, he can do whatever he wants by some actions of his even if they are the same as his 'friends' I would never imagine that he would do. By doing that he is showing his hate towards 'someone' for what reason?

Girls do mature faster than boys I can vouch for that, but this can't be used as a cover up for him. Hes talking about maturity well where is his maturity? I dislike when people preach but cannot practise that.

Your story is just like me. Except my brother is still on the same wrong path. My father's passing knocked some sense into him made him responsible get a job. But it couldn't change his behaviour, increase maturity levels and make him know wrong and right. Even after having an accident he's still friends with someone that didn't even call the ambulance. 

Some people end up on the wrong path, with wrong people and come out of it, but that's not true for everyone. 

Coming back to Harshad I did tweet to him my dissapointments, but did u see what happened? More people are doing the same, yes he is getting tagged and bashed. But I doubt's he's reading and listening to people's pleas. Nothing seems to affect him now and I don't know whether he will get out of this sankat ka asar and realise his mistakes or will he continue his downfall and fued with fans. 

Originally posted by: ramita94

I completely understand and respect your P.O.V and I want to give him the benefit of doubt, but his words and actions have so much hurt. Because there are fans that if Pree did the same would be angry and upset with her. We can never imagine that she would do such a thing, and the same thing for Harshad.

His life, his choices, he can do whatever he wants by some actions of his even if they are the same as his 'friends' I would never imagine that he would do. By doing that he is showing his hate towards 'someone' for what reason?

Girls do mature faster than boys I can vouch for that, but this can't be used as a cover up for him. Hes talking about maturity well where is his maturity? I dislike when people preach but cannot practise that.

Your story is just like me. Except my brother is still on the same wrong path. My father's passing knocked some sense into him made him responsible get a job. But it couldn't change his behaviour, increase maturity levels and make him know wrong and right. Even after having an accident he's still friends with someone that didn't even call the ambulance. 

Some people end up on the wrong path, with wrong people and come out of it, but that's not true for everyone. 

Coming back to Harshad I did tweet to him my dissapointments, but did u see what happened? More people are doing the same, yes he is getting tagged and bashed. But I doubt's he's reading and listening to people's pleas. Nothing seems to affect him now and I don't know whether he will get out of this sankat ka asar and realise his mistakes or will he continue his downfall and fued with fans. 

Originally posted by: Shanaya__

I agree with whatever you said. I can't deny the fact that when he tagged everyone from the team except Pree it irked me. But my point is that fans have taken this way to far. He is a publi figure and all but dont you think we have taken this way to far. I mean just take in the dissapointment, you may express it in a dignified manner, but there was no necessity of bashing him :( Instead of simply expressing their disappointment, fans went on about his ego and what not.