Posted: 30 December 2014 at 12:24am | IP Logged
Originally posted by shruthiravi
@pyaribehna if you look at DABH the question you need to ask yourself is " Do I want this life" because a woman has a choice, only thing is that she should be bold enough to bear the conseqeunces of it.
Our society doesn't accept the fact that woman has a choice and even the educated lot think they don't have a choice. If they exercise the choice well society will not accept them. Sadly our telly serials also propogate the same rule especially the ones on top of TRP chart. Because they want to feed the ego of patriarachy and also ego of woman who lives on believing theortical sanskaars without even understanding the glorious past which is so much evoked beautifully in Indian mythology. Read Indian mythology and find me a woman who is a door mat. You will find none. All of them were assertive in their own way starting from Sita
Sita- She argues with Ram on her rights as a wife and make him agree to the fact that she has the right to accompany him to the forest. When Ravan takes her she is prudent enough to drop her ornaments so that Ram can trace her and also blesses the bird Jadayu who is hurt trying to save her that the bird will be alive to give information about her to Ram. She is a very brave woman who disagrees to go with Hanuman in the darkness of night telling her husband has to defeat Ravan and take her with full respect and honour. And last but not least after abandoning her when Ram asks her to come to Ayodhya she denies telling she has done her duty and asks Mother Earth to take her
Savitri- Whose intelligence defied the lord of death and saved Sathyavan's life
Panchali- Born from fire with one question in infamous hall of dice she made a king of Yudhi who otherwise would have ended up a slave to Kauravas for whole life. The way she asks question in the most vulnerable moment shows her internal strength and refusal to accept the theortical sanskaar a wife is a husband's property and she has to adhere to his decision. Whole of MB would have been different if Panchali has not raised the question did Yudhi had right to keep her as bet after he himself became the slave.
And one more thing In mythology Goddess Parvathi Lord Shiva's consort is called Sakthi. Do we know the meaning of Shakthi, Shakthi means Power. A woman is called power not for nothing and we call her abla. Shiv- Shakthi is a clear indication showing a man who respects Shakthi will be respected all along. And a woman who recognizes she is the power transforms the men associated with her in the positive way if they respect, trust and love her. Woman has transforming power that is why mother is called first teacher, wives are called Ardhanginis. When will the young girls realize this is a question in itself. For that inspiring shows has to come , the type of shows I grew up with Udaan( Old one with Kalyani Singh IPS), Chunouti etc..
Last but not least our own Rani Lakshmi Bhai. The woman who led from forefront the first war of Indian Independence. Where is her tribe, where is the fighting spirit of Indian woman which was so much there.
We celebrate Sandhya here who never once stood up for her rights and thinking she can give rights to others. She had the choice to tell her brother go to US put me in hostel but I wont get married.
She had the choice to tell Sooraj I have ambition to be a police officer and I don't think your family environment is conducive of that.
She had the choice to tell Sooraj that I cant live everytime proving to your mother I am good or bad. I cannot take this pressure cooker life anymore( In Reality if someone lives Sandhya's life they will have a nervous breakdown for sure). If you think I need to be an IPS officer find a way to stop these challenges, else I have accepted my life as house wife. Cant take insults anymore.
A woman who didn't do any of these when she has the option is talking big on sanskaars and liberation as an IPS officer. What liberation did she get. Nothing. If tomorrow Sooraj comes with some excuse I did this because I loved you and if Bhabo cries some crocodile tears telling the glory of her parivaar this woman would happily go to the family and the TRP of DABH will touch roof top with many forum members shedding tears of happiness for the love birds.
Can I tell you how much Sandy's way of being with RP has angered me ? I find her so much of a doormat so much she had to be the obedient bahu and in spite of that her wishe were not respected by Bhabho who insisted that she wanted a bahu and not an IPS officer. Several times Bhabho was the one who insisted that Sandy should get ready to leart to stitch napkins and diapers and stuff.
Sandy was adamant with Suraj that is the only thing she did to make him realize her dreams were important to her. And Suraj was the one who understood her point of view.
True mythology talks about women who were assertive.
Sita was a single mother who brought her kids up on her own.
She was the adopted child who the parents loved more than their own kid. and Rama married her did not matter she was adopted.
And till the end she kept her self respect did not matter her husband was Lord Rama.
On the other hand Rama and Lakshmana took the coward's way out. and sent her off by deceit.
She not only survived she also got her kids their rights their kingdom
And that is why Sita is an ideal woman.
Sandy poor thing could not tell her bro she could stay in the hostel. She made Suraj realize that she felt suffocated in RP. That she did.
And RP what do they think of themselves? That they are the "center of the world"? What do they mean by "badi bahu 's farz" "family is important" etc. ? They are so selfish. Not only RP produced selfish people like Mohit and Chavi they also produced people like Vikram who never respected their wives. And then they expect bahus that too only badi bahus to be serving the family
And then they throw the badi bahu out for reasons like this. If bbsa was so great why did he let Suraj bear the burden of the family from age fourteen? Why did not he bear the burden himself?
Edited by pyaaribehna - 30 December 2014 at 12:26am