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Posted: 26 December 2014 at 9:41am | IP Logged
Originally posted by amidstthehues

Originally posted by -Crescendo-

Originally posted by amidstthehues

Originally posted by -Crescendo-

Originally posted by amidstthehues

It depends on how much friendships mean to you, where you've set the bar and what all criteria you have to call someone your friend that actually matters. Offline friendships offer you physical presence and reassurance; online ones offer you a chance at better connectivity, courtesy anonymity. Real or virtual, on the other hand, is always decided by sincerity and inputs involved. Otherwise, hanging out with people offline and sending mushy one liners or emoticons to online ones doesn't take much effort. 

Thats true..it depends on the criteria of the individual calling someone a friend.
Reassurance-This is what I was talking about...how do we get reassured by our online friends?


Not everyone online is out there to seek reassurance. And those who are, it depends on what they find reassuring. It could be instant replies for some and not even Skype for few others. Everything about it is subjective.The surest way to see if people are trustworthy, is to trust them and see. And it again is subjective whether the risk is worth it. There ain't no user guidelines.  

Ok I get your point.Approve
If I may ask what do u prefer more?Real or Virtual friends?


Neither. LOL 

Whaat..seriously?
You don't like friends in you life.This sounds bit like me 1-2 years ago.

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Posted: 26 December 2014 at 10:51am | IP Logged
The world is jam-packed with people who could hurt you. But the world isn't that generous when it comes to finding people you can be yourself with and stuff. It doesn't matter where we find such people, they are our friends and so they will be with us and sometimes they will let us down too, but mostly, they'd be our friends. Online friendship is real life friendship plus, the fear of judgment is even lesser. The downside is, your bestie on IF could be a middle-aged divorcee who stalks young girls in his free time. But didn't I just mention, this way or that, the world is jam-packed with people who could hurt you? Approve

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Posted: 27 December 2014 at 8:52am | IP Logged
Originally posted by -Crescendo-

Originally posted by anael24

i was always fanatic of a show and in april i started chatting with an indian girl on a forum..as a western girl i found it normal to befriend her more and so with much difficulties(indians arent easy to persuade LOL ) i added her on facebook...at first it was a bit cold then i asked her for a pic as usually most indian girls have celebrities profile pics... we just went with the flow of events and we found many similarities bw us...i even sent her a video of me and it just came out as a revelation to us that we were destined to meet...we chat everyday...fight...share our issues and lament on our siblings and i really feel like i have been blessed to have a friend like her...every sorrow and happiness is share and we have started making videos for each other...even if we havent met yet i feel like ive been knowing her for years and we are so much attached that we are even best friends!
its hard for me to tolerate the distance separating us and i feel so lucky to have got such a friend like her...actually ive never been comfortable with anyone else even my mates in class...so yes i believe in online/virtual friendship...ofc it cant occur with all..

Thats nice to know :)
I guess it was more of your effort and persuasion that led to the strong bond of friendship.
actually i was always a big introvert and here the fact of having a friend not judging your physical appearance or your doings played a part...i rather felt as if i was more confident with an outsider than the friends i have known for years!

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Posted: 28 December 2014 at 10:37am | IP Logged
Originally posted by epiphany.

The world is jam-packed with people who could hurt you. But the world isn't that generous when it comes to finding people you can be yourself with and stuff. It doesn't matter where we find such people, they are our friends and so they will be with us and sometimes they will let us down too, but mostly, they'd be our friends. Online friendship is real life friendship plus, the fear of judgment is even lesser. The downside is, your bestie on IF could be a middle-aged divorcee who stalks young girls in his free time. But didn't I just mention, this way or that, the world is jam-packed with people who could hurt you? Approve

Hmm..so u mean to see that its all about finding pleasures and joy for oneself irrespective of the medium and I can add that the chances of longevity of this kind is undefined to be called friendship or not (that's again relative and depends upon the person perceiving it).

So I guess this becomes a kind of combined answer of you and amidstthehues to the question I put.LOL

Thanks for participating and answering,guys.Smile
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Posted: 28 December 2014 at 10:49am | IP Logged
Originally posted by anael24

Originally posted by -Crescendo-

Originally posted by anael24

i was always fanatic of a show and in april i started chatting with an indian girl on a forum..as a western girl i found it normal to befriend her more and so with much difficulties(indians arent easy to persuade LOL ) i added her on facebook...at first it was a bit cold then i asked her for a pic as usually most indian girls have celebrities profile pics... we just went with the flow of events and we found many similarities bw us...i even sent her a video of me and it just came out as a revelation to us that we were destined to meet...we chat everyday...fight...share our issues and lament on our siblings and i really feel like i have been blessed to have a friend like her...every sorrow and happiness is share and we have started making videos for each other...even if we havent met yet i feel like ive been knowing her for years and we are so much attached that we are even best friends!
its hard for me to tolerate the distance separating us and i feel so lucky to have got such a friend like her...actually ive never been comfortable with anyone else even my mates in class...so yes i believe in online/virtual friendship...ofc it cant occur with all..

Thats nice to know :)
I guess it was more of your effort and persuasion that led to the strong bond of friendship.
actually i was always a big introvert and here the fact of having a friend not judging your physical appearance or your doings played a part...i rather felt as if i was more confident with an outsider than the friends i have known for years!

Thats so cool and encouraging to know.
Thanks for sharing ur experience.Smile
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Posted: 29 December 2014 at 10:54pm | IP Logged
The person on the other side of the screen is not electronic data. It is a real person with feelings and emotions. As such online friendship is no different than real world friendship. Instead of meeting and interacting in college, office or a bar, you meet and interact on a forum. You form bonds based on things you have in common. Some people are acquaintances. Some people are friends. And a rare few become BFFs. 
In the teens you have the high school like behavior of bitching, backstabbing, turn-coating, ganging up, switching parties and all that kind of drama. Sometimes you have that with the immature adults too. Exactly like how it plays out in real life. 

One big difference online is anonymity, something you don't get in real life. It is a double edged sword. It allows you to be cautious, take things slow and avoid revealing more about yourself until you have built rapport. At the same time it also allows people to be reckless and fickle, engaging in behavior they normally wouldn't in real life. It also inhibits the other side from showing their true self sooner too. 

Another difference is proximity. You could make a friend abroad or in another city whom you may never see or visit. That happens in real life too. People travel for work and studies so much. Sometimes people don't see their own family for ages. 

Online friendship can be for real and supercede real world friendship depending on the people involved. 

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Posted: 30 December 2014 at 10:03am | IP Logged
The online friendship is not real, cause friendship occurs when people share their lives with each other, build intimacy, trust is established, which can not occur through online. I mean  how much do you really trust people online, how well do you really know them...

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Posted: 31 December 2014 at 12:48pm | IP Logged
It depends on how much you trust one for that IF friend to reciprocate.

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