Posted: 14 January 2015 at 2:54pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by D3viL
you aren't doing his wife any favours that is nonsense no matter how many times you try to justify it.
her husband has been sympathetic to her right from the start, you want to know why? Because he married her and some magical godly bond happened, if she meant nothing to him then he wouldn't be in this pickle he is, he would have walked away regardless of the mess. But you walked back in and confused him.
this guy is useless, he was going to stay married to her had he not found out his parents let his brother have his wishes? It was only after his brother got his way that he started to vent and get upset. Prior to that he was happy playing his wife and playing you.
you are a home wrecker and you can paint yourself whatever victimish colour you would like but any woman ...regardless of her age that talks to a married man in the fashion that you have is a home wrecker. You didn't do the wife a favour, you are not a good person or a fairy god-mother whatever you think you are! you perhaps are an niave idiot for falling in NEED ( not love ) of a stupid man child.
The way you keep justifying this makes me wonder what kind of person you are? And I am siding with his mother, your standards are poor and I wouldn't want a person like that in the family. Improve your morals .. good things will start happening.
I understand your view, but your misunderstanding it
1. After he went to india...a week latter his family showed him a girl at his cousin's marriage..he called me straight up that his family is going to get him married...the next day i called him and we both spoke to his mother, sister, and brother-in law...we tried explaining but his mom just did not agree..i begged his mom to think about it...she said no ..there is no way because the caste is different..i told her am i not a human...she said she doesnt care...but she is not getting her son married in another caste...
2. after that day i told him to come back, and he was ready to come back he spoke to his friend for the tickets,but his mom took his passport and phone away...and said if he didnt marry she will kill herself
3. he told me after that he has to get married and once he come back to the usa we will find a solution as there is nothing we can do now
4. he always kept a pic of me in his wallet and after few weeks his wife saw the pic but she didnt ask him...she asked his cousin and his cousin told her everything about us. the wife kept it to herself that she knows about me
5. when he came to the usa after 2 month (i did not talk to him when he was in india as i told him i dont want to cheat his wife and we are done)...when he came back he called me and told me that he wants me to stay with him
6. I told him to leave his wife and he said ok he will but his sister found out that he was about to leave her as he did not apply for her in the usa...she threaten him that it would be shamful, what will people say etc...out respect...everyone will die cuz of this..etc...so he told me he can not leave her...but we will still be friends
7. we talked as friends after that for about 2 months just messaging hi hru..no calling...just on facebook ...but i wnted to move on and i did not want to hurt him..so i lied to him saying that i am getting married soon and we should stop talking...and the next day (maybe god's way) his family told him about his bros marriage to his gf...and he was completely shattered...he wanted to leave everything...even me...jsut everything
8. he has a gun and he was about to shoot himself when the guy who works with him called me and told me...i called him up and stopped him and told him that i will be with him ...
9. after tht he told his wife everything and the wife told him that she already knows...and she feels bad of what his parents did but she can not leave now as there will be too many problems.. after that he told his mom and she too said that he has to stay and she can not do anything...
10. till the day he got married...he has not touched his wife ... so he is not playing with is wife and she knows that he tis talking with me but she does not say anything...she ask him do you still talk to her and he tells her yes...after that she doesnt ask him anything...when he asked her why do you like me...she told him cuz you are always honest and tells the truth...
I am also a woman and in understand her pain too but i also know the guy who i love i know him for almost 4 years and i know if i leave him and go from his life..he will eventually go in to depression or end up killing him seldf...bcuz in the beginning i did leave him for 8 months and we tried twice to end his life...he is not emotionally stable ...and i know that...i dont want someone to suffer cuz of me..i love that guy and if he is going to suffer cuz of me then my love is useless.
and i have had lost all hopes of me being with him when he got married...but i still had that hope that one day we will be together...even right now i try to talk my self into thinking that he is married and nothing can happen but i dont know there is one ray of hope which keeps us from being separated.
and i am not saying i am doing his wife a favor...but i think everyone deserve a partner who love them understands them and i know my bf is not right for her...there is someone waiting for her better than him ...
and i believe getting labeled as "married" does not mean that the person is your soul mate...people marry divorce and then they find their soul mate...some people marry 3 4 times and still cant find their soul mate...you only get one life and if you are not satisfied in this life you take your pain to your next life... and as far as my morals ... i dont have to show what my morals are as only god has the right to judge me...