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Suraj - Shutting the door of his love for Sandhya or PTSD ???

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Posted: 23 December 2014 at 4:22pm | IP Logged
I watched today's episode - I can not somehow convince myself that Suraj is going through PTSD
but we all know how our good old CVs will think so have to wait and see what they have in mind

but here is what I thought:

Suraj trying so hard to convince everyone including himself that it is over between him and Sandhya

he hears her voice on the radio - u can tell he is affected by that

he tries to call her but stops - he has FB during HJ, Sandhya finally made Suraj and Bhabo get into the plane, Suraj begging her to come in but Sandhya refused him saying she still has to finish her duty

so why that FB?  What went on in his mind after they came back after HJ, he was in the hospital, thinking and going thru all the incidents - probably analyzed the situation - if Sandhya was not married, RK would not have hurt her or the family the way he did

RK told that his main revenge is against Sandhya which means killing her beloved Suraj, he will get his revenge against her

so is this what going on in Suraj to protect Sandhya from all these attachments so she can fulfill her duty according to her rules not on others 

I hope CVs will show something towards this not PTSD - that should not be shown the way they are showing

pls pls CVs do not butcher Suraj character - please tell us the reason behind his behavior

tomorrows pre-cap is kind of misleading - they r showing him telling her that he can not live without her but there is more to that sentence which is going to break Sandhya's heart



Edited by GovindaGovinda - 23 December 2014 at 5:03pm

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Posted: 23 December 2014 at 4:57pm | IP Logged
Nice post GG Thumbs Up
It seriously makes lot of sense. I wish cvs show something akin to your view. I too don't want to see PTSD kind of thing and no character butchering of SurYa please Disapprove

 Revealing reason for Suraj's behavior is indirectly proportional to TRPS Cry

I would love to see SurYa solving their problem themselves than some middle person Ouch 

Precap I agree Suraj surely gonna break Sandy's heart with his words Broken HeartCry

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Posted: 23 December 2014 at 5:51pm | IP Logged
Govinda, Other than PTSD ..All the reasons would not justify what ever he is doing.
Bhabo is going through a different kind of mental issue , Suraj too should be shown suffering from PTSD..
during SV2 suraj saw the divorce papers and  started behaving badly with Sandhya, that did make sense because there was a communication gap between the two ,Moreover Suraj always thought she is going through alot while living in the rathi house, so sending her away is a good option.
Such reason now, would not at all look sensible to me. 
Now they are in love, can understand each other ..so why does he have to take the route of hiding things from her , or even try and sacrifice especially when Bhabo too is trying to convince Suraj to bring Sandhya back.





Edited by Sonali_11 - 23 December 2014 at 5:52pm

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Signs and symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

The symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can arise suddenly, gradually, or come and go over time. Sometimes symptoms appear seemingly out of the blue. At other times, they are triggered by something that reminds you of the original traumatic event, such as a noise, an image, certain words, or a smell. 
While everyone experiences PTSD differently, there are three main types of symptoms:

  1. Re-experiencing the traumatic event
  2. Avoiding reminders of the trauma
  3. Increased anxiety and emotional arousal

Symptoms of PTSD: Re-experiencing the traumatic event

  • Intrusive, upsetting memories of the event
  • Flashbacks (acting or feeling like the event is happening again)
  • Nightmares (either of the event or of other frightening things)
  • Feelings of intense distress when reminded of the trauma
  • Intense physical reactions to reminders of the event (e.g. pounding heart, rapid breathing, nausea, muscle tension, sweating)

Symptoms of PTSD: Avoidance and numbing

  • Avoiding activities, places, thoughts, or feelings that remind you of the trauma
  • Inability to remember important aspects of the trauma
  • Loss of interest in activities and life in general
  • Feeling detached from others and emotionally numb
  • Sense of a limited future (you don't expect to live a normal life span, get married, have a career)

Symptoms of PTSD: Increased anxiety and emotional arousal

  • Difficulty falling or staying asleep
  • Irritability or outbursts of anger
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Hypervigilance (on constant "red alert")
  • Feeling jumpy and easily startled

Other common symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

  • Anger and irritability
  • Guilt, shame, or self-blame
  • Substance abuse
  • Feelings of mistrust and betrayal
  • Depression and hopelessness
  • Suicidal thoughts and feelings
  • Feeling alienated and alone
  • Physical aches and pains

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Posted: 23 December 2014 at 6:01pm | IP Logged
Sonali_11  - Not sure why and what  - but I really do not want to see PTSD - that whole thing is very serious and I can see thta CVs can not make justification to that whole issue - that is my opinion
We do not even see Suraj having any nightmares or even thoughts of HJ - Only withdrawi of himself with Sandhya - that is why I think they should not show PTSD

Bhabo - they have not really shown her having any mental issues after coming home -she had in the hospitl but not now - she is weak physically

Suraj saw Sandhya in action first hand - saw how RK tried to use Suraj to bring down Sandhya and I assume something triggered in him when Sandhya refused to come into the plane

I am not saying he is not under stress - ofcourse he is but not PTSD - that is very serious subject and I really think that CVs can not make jsutice to that - it will be too easy for them to use PTSD as an excuse for his behavior

I hope they come up with creative way to convince us

I seriously think that RK and his attitude towards Sandhya and what Sandhya had to go thru bec her family was among HJ, Suraj somehow decided to part away from her

I am not defending his actions but trying to analyze the situation if I were to be in his shoes

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Posted: 23 December 2014 at 6:06pm | IP Logged
Suraj is definitely not trying to forget Sandy .. there s something really big that s going on in his mind .. it can be either d taunts tat sandhya was facing which made him do like tis to make d family understand sandhya .. or he s having PTSD nd nt stable..

He s missing her a lot but trying to be normal ... in d new promo bb s asking sandy's help ..so definitely somethimg s wrong..

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Posted: 23 December 2014 at 6:12pm | IP Logged
Govinda, I can only see Post trauma syndrome as a justification to this behaviour
Sandhya as an IPS will have to go through several such cases like RK's so at the end of every such case would Suraj start behaving this way or sacrifice one thing or the other for her sake? How many times can someone do it ? this reason would be foolish for a couple like Surya who are so inspirational.A husband who is so loving and devoted.


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Posted: 23 December 2014 at 9:01pm | IP Logged
@Sonali_11:Not trying to prove anything here - jsut expressing my thoughts on this subject

Signs and symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

The symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can arise suddenly, gradually, or come and go over time. Sometimes symptoms appear seemingly out of the blue. At other times, they are triggered by something that reminds you of the original traumatic event, such as a noise, an image, certain words, or a smell. 
While everyone experiences PTSD differently, there are three main types of symptoms:

  1. Re-experiencing the traumatic event - Have not shown Suraj going thru this
  2. Avoiding reminders of the trauma - Avoiding only Sandhya which anyone could be in her shoe like Zakir
  3. Increased anxiety and emotional arousal - have not shown this in Suraj properly

Symptoms of PTSD: Re-experiencing the traumatic event

  • Intrusive, upsetting memories of the event - again nothing of this sort is shown
  • Flashbacks (acting or feeling like the event is happening again) same as above
  • Nightmares (either of the event or of other frightening things)
  • Feelings of intense distress when reminded of the trauma
  • Intense physical reactions to reminders of the event (e.g. pounding heart, rapid breathing, nausea, muscle tension, sweating)

Symptoms of PTSD: Avoidance and numbing

  • Avoiding activities, places, thoughts, or feelings that remind you of the trauma
  • Inability to remember important aspects of the trauma
  • Loss of interest in activities and life in general
  • Feeling detached from others and emotionally numb
  • Sense of a limited future (you don't expect to live a normal life span, get married, have a career)

Symptoms of PTSD: Increased anxiety and emotional arousal

  • Difficulty falling or staying asleep
  • Irritability or outbursts of anger
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Hypervigilance (on constant "red alert")
  • Feeling jumpy and easily startled

Other common symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

  • Anger and irritability
  • Guilt, shame, or self-blame
  • Substance abuse
  • Feelings of mistrust and betrayal
  • Depression and hopelessness
  • Suicidal thoughts and feelings
  • Feeling alienated and alone
  • Physical aches and pains
My point is if CVs want to use PTSD as an excuse, they should have shown it properly from the hospital scene - He is reacting to Bhabo's condition, not avoiding anyone or anything, he is going to work, doing his daily chores properly,  only time he is showing is with Sandhya - that too not even anger 

so that is why I think CVs are not doing justice if they want to use PTSD as an excuse

they should have done their homework properly - another disappointment just like HJ

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