What is emotional affair?
An emotional affair can also be referred to as an affair of the heart. It is a phenomenon that is not limited to married couples, affecting people in serious relationships of every type. An emotional affair may begin innocently as a friendship with a person outside the relationship. Over time, the partner becomes infatuated, obsessed in some cases, with this friend - and eventually tries to become friendlier, spending more time with him or her at the cost of the relationship that person is already in.
Signs You've Crossed the Line:
According to Saltz, these seven red flags suggest you may have entered into an emotional affair:
1.You spend a lot of emotional energy on the person. "You end up sharing stuff that you don't even share with your partner -- hopes and dreams, things that would actually connect you to your partner."
2.You dress up for that person.
3.You make a point to find ways to spend time together, and that time becomes very important to you.
4.You'd feel guilty if your partner saw you together; you are doing things and saying things that you would never do or say in front of your spouse.
5.You share your feelings of marital dissatisfaction.
6.You're keeping secret the amount of time you're spending with the person (including emailing, calling, texting).
7.You start to feel dependent on the emotional high that comes with the relationship.
Ishita had already completed all the seven steps.
End result of emotional affair
Emotional affair is one kind of cheating and it ends in divorce for married couple.
Advice for people having emotional affair
These affairs can be hard to stop, Saltz says. But to give your marriage a chance, "you just have to end it. I don't think there's a halfway. It's too slippery a slope." If it's someone you can't avoid, have a direct conversation. Tell them, "I need to not do this," Saltz says.If you want to save your marriage, the earlier you deal with problems, the better, Saltz says. "And the earlier you cut off something that leads in the direction of betrayal, the better."
So the friendship Ishita and Mani are currently having is not a healthy one. It is clearly an emotional affair whether she understands it or not. If she wants to save her marriage she better checks what she really wants from her marriage.
Sources:
1. http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/emotional-cheating-guilty?page=2
2. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_affair
Edited (I add this part to let you know my POV about how their OTT friendship is turned into an emotional affair)
Ishita wakes up picking his calls, she goes to sleep finishing his calls,
she messes up making family breakfast while talking to him, She shares husband-wife private information with him, she
ignores her husband for him, she bitches about her husband to him, she
constantly compares her husband with him, she can't function her daily
works without him, she needs him for prying, she lies to her husband
for meeting him ..phew There is nothing healthy in their relationship, totally overboard. She's mentally and physically handicapped without him nowadays, she can't do a single major work without him.
As
it says, it starts with an innocent friendship but with time it blows
out of proportion. Same thing is happening for Mani-Ishita. It's
becoming an obsession for both of them. Just in last episode, they met
for nothing, they met just for hatching a plot that they would be
meeting Sarika next. And, for that she ditched her entire day work and
lied to everyone. Their every now and then phone conversation and text
messages are enough to indicate there is something odd in their
relationship.
As far as, she's
giving a crap about her husband position and all that...she is yet to
realize how emotionally she's getting attached to Mani. She needs to
realize it before it's too late. Being oblivious to emotions is Ishita's specialty. 😆 I hope Toshiji/ Mrs.Iyer / Bala soon knocks some senses into her mind.
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