Why dadisa is so worried? - Page 5

I stressed on rebellion because it was used as a sort of justification in that context , so my question is can we justify that ? Realism...we're going off at a tangent here...we are not debating as to what portrays realism here..rather we are questioning his ethics. Lets not get into what 'people' (read: people with traditional mindset) blame Jagya for...that's going off at a tangent yet again. Here I'm not criticising him because of the fact that he outgrew his childbride...which is ofcourse as you said a very real human thing...but so is corruption (which Jagya has previously indulged in), murder, terrorist activity, rape...all these portray realism too no?...today if a guy is portrayed as a rapist, we cannot possibly defend him using realism , or the sorry state of his own mental condition or say a troubled past...Because if we bring that into the picture we can also get 100000000 other radically different instances..Edited by Theepetronauss - 9 years ago

His rebellion is not cited as any justification neither is there any question of going off tangent .

Nobody here is painting Jagya black and Anandi white rather we are painting his way of dealing with THAT particular situation as black . See the difference ? If we are talking about the two different characters, then even I find Anandi unrealistic at times and not to forget a doormat but then she didn't shut off her moral conscience and crush another person deliberately the way Jagya did. Jagya is sure an interesting , true to life character just like how Gauri is, both were equally at fault but BV conviniently painted Gauri in a shade darker , as the 'doosri aurat' who brainwashed innocent Jagya and trapped him whereas in reality it was the other way around. Jagya's sins/mistakes outnumber that of Gauri's ANYDAY. So BV is hypocritical here too isn't it ?Edited by Theepetronauss - 9 years ago

yes i see the difference and my point is , there is no correct way to rebel . No format . That yeah , he can rebel , but he must not do this etc . He should do this . No . When elders do some abuse , effects cannot be controlled . Effects r also not the same with victims . So Anandi cannot be 'good ' and Jagya can't be 'bad' . And the elders who did this can't be grief stricken and holy . They patted the clay . Neither can he be bad for outgrowing Anandi [ how dare he !!!!!!!!!] coz she is the more endearing victim due to her docility . He is simply Jagya .

Time and again I have stressed on the exact same thing - " he cannot be bad for outgrowing Anandi" We already get it and agree with it. But was his WAY or METHOD of doing it morally right ? Simple question. I'm not asking whether it is realistic nor discussing about the fundamentals of rebellion. Leaving Anandi was not a sin but the way he treated her, was it ethically correct ?

Jagya anandi never meant to be together, they were together coz of child marriage. What they had was teenage crush and both were very well aware of it. Jagya went out of it when he found gauri, anandi went out of it when she found shiv. jagya insulted anandi after he found gauri and anandi insulted jagya after she found shiv. Jagya had the guilt of rejecting anandi(could not have SR with gauri for a long time), anandi had the guilt of rejecting jagya(could not have SR with shiv). 

Nobody is finding fault with him for rebelling against child marriage.Nobody finds fault with him if he wanted out of a marriage that was foisted on him when he did not even know the meaning of it.Even if he did not consider Anandi as his wife he could have told her that he wanted out of this child marriage because his interests and thoughts on life have changed.He owed that to her as a friend who has been with him through thick and thin and this decision of his affects her too.

Didn't he owe an explanation to her? Had he told his reasons for wanting out she would have fought for his rights to move out of the marriage.She would have supported his decision to move out. But no he did not tell her that because he didn't have guts to tell her the truth instead he just belittled her for years before he finally let her know that he fell in love with someone else and not for once did he spare a thought for her or her future. Edited by aparnauma - 9 years ago

Originally posted by: aparnauma

I don't understand why Dsa is worried about Gauri's actions and this is the same lady who forced Anandi to pretend as Jagya's wife during the JAMNESIA drama and believed that Anandi could be given to either Shiv or Jagya according to her own wish and will.

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She is worried about Gauri's tamasha?

<div>How did she forget all the tamasha that her ladesar did when he left Gauri and decided that he wanted Anandi back?

Trying to defend DS here : 😆

Her fears do make sense. she probably had more confidenceon anandi than she has on J now. She knows fully well about him , doesn't she? what if he starts feeling for gauri eventually and thinks of jumping back. Jumping from relation to relation is not new to him, right? When it was anandi,Ds knew that she will remain committed to one person (at that time it was Shiv). After all DS knew how anandi put up with her abusers because she was committed in first marriage. this is why DS is not okay now and okay then .


Edited by The_Alchemist. - 9 years ago

Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

When I saw J doing teej with Ganga today it looked so wrong, insincere and like a jokebecause you've already seen him do it with two other girls and I remember his teej with Gauri as well. Teej has absolutely no meaning when played with in this way.

Agree , it looked like a joke. I hope I'll come out of it if hecontinues to stay in one relationship, at least for 10 years continuously without going for anymore saccha pyaars and sindoor brand marriages. 😳

Can anybody tell me which three times Gauri rejected J? The apology letter time, they did not show Gauri and recently she said she did not received any letter - it is not clear whether it was the same Gauri. When she rejected to come to see J (when Lal Singh called) - J does not know this - can we call this as rejection? I cannot understand what is referred to as third time - perhaps when J slapped her and said he is going and she said something? If both were rejecting each-other in anger at that time, can we say Gauri rejected J?