Discussion: Your opinion on Net Romance

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I am of the opinion that "cyber romance" in its classical sense is a foolhardy thing to do unless and until one is ready for a committed relationship or marriage. I think it's infinitely better to consider a new person in your life a FRIEND, rather than a life partner, until such time as you've observed them in group situations for a while. I think it's far safer to conduct a social life with a group of friends instead of being paired as couple straight away.

One thing that is common in 95% Cyber Romance is that it starts with Cyber Friendship. I have witnessed cases where just after 5-10 sessions of good chat people tend to think him/her as a good friend of yours. I request especially to gals, please dont misunderstand it. Dont be too fast; give such relationship a decent probation period and take it as a good acquaintance, then friendship and if you 200% sure of what you are getting yourself into then take the next step.... 😳

It's even easier to cultivate the "romance" mindset on the cyberspace than in real world as its fast, safer, convenient and for some its cheaper as you dont have to buy real greeting cards (you can make her/him happy with free online egreetings too) 😆 . Secondly, the "romance" mindset is as pervasively encouraged by the media and society at large as, say "A man and a woman can't really be JUST FRIENDS" - Ek ladka aur ek ladki kabhi SIRF dost nahin ho sakte (remember the famous Maine Pyar Kiya dialogue)-- 😉 So the sense of "LOVE" sets in verrrrry fast.

I've heard from more than one person that they like Cyber romance because you get to know someone "from the outside in" so that physical appearances don't matter. Well, perhaps that's true, but in my experience, you also achieve too much emotional intimacy in too short a time when interacting online without meeting in person right away. That means that if you meet and there's no chemistry, you've given a big chunk of your innermost self to a stranger. And if you meet and there's even a little chemistry, many people will feel an obligation to move forward with the relationship despite any misgivings. And such relationship begun out of obligation is no bargain in my opinion.

I dont know how much I have made sense but then I think many people don't want to hear about the drawbacks to Cyber Romance because they don't want to face the risks they are taking by opening themselves up to strangers.

Dont be disappointed.. Cyberspace is not full of Bad people there are good one's too..  its just that you have to chose the right one.. 😳

Originally posted by: Angeleyes 2

love comes in all forms, shapes and size but personally I don't believe in net dating but I do think u can fall in love without seeing the person. sometimes u can just feel that they are close to u but yet far even though u have never seen them before. They are alot of frauds on the net today and u shouldn't trust anyone to do such thing unless u have met the person from a friend or family.

YES, one may seek someone. Yet one should take it slow, esp net romance since many things not known. I agree ucan luv someone without seeing them. Yet u should takke it slow. Take it as u would when u go thru matrimonials.

If its a serious relation involve others, let them know too, take as u would a matrimonal match.

on other side:

One has tobecareful many weird people out there and say things. never meet the person alone since u not know who and how they are. Jusybeacuse u have talked etc..if meeting personbe careful..do not disclose too much..etc..

not sure abt this. i take both sides ---- u get wonderful life partners through net  and sometimes u misunderstand. most of my classmates who r boys tells me ' i love u'. that doesn't mean that they all love  me in other meaning. they r just telling me as friends.

u should know the person very well before deciding whether he is the person with whom u can live ur rest of ur life. its better to be friends first than lovers. u can surely fall in luv with a person who u haven't seen. for luving a person u needn't see the person.

i have got a person who mails me and tells me he has seen me in the college and he wants t o be my friend. i thought it was a joke.  i have seen him in my college but i don't know who it is.    he knows what i do and everything abt me.its been 5 or 6 months he is mailing me now, but he never told me who he is and i told him i won't mail him until he tells me who he is. he is gonna say to me very soon. by just mails we became very good friends now as i am sure he would tell me and he has promised me that too. i am not in luv 😆 😆 . but some people think this is really foolish. u would be thinking that i am wasting my time. but its a very good feeling i get. he is a gr8 friend.  i don't even trust my friends as i trust him😆. they all r big liars in a way.😆

i don't know his name but i know many other things abt him which i think is enough for me for a "friend".he has a gf😳. only if u r put into my shoes and if u received those mails that he has written, u would know how much u can trust him and why do i 'waste' my time on mailing him.  here its just FRIENDS.

 but people do take things wrong. i read what vijay bhatter wrote. i agree with him. i am a girl and i know how some girls take things. they just take things wrong! if a boys says i love u , he means i love u for wat u have done as a """friend""" or i luv u like my life. there r many meanings !

Originally posted by: ~2pac_fan###~

very nice topic !
i found this on web india news few days ago....

Two Indian girls arrested at LoC
Jammu | May 14, 2006 6:15:16 PM IST

Two lovelorn Indian girls who tried to cross the line of control (LoC) in Jammu and Kashmir to meet their Pakistani boyfriends were arrested by the army and later let off.

Asha Patel of Mumbai and Asha Sharma of Haldwani in Nanital, Uttar Pradesh, were arrested at Chakan da Bagh - the last Indian point on the LoC in Poonch - on Rawlakote road when they tried to cross over to the Pakistani side where their boyfriends waited for them Saturday.

Army officials said that Patel, 24, and Sharma, 22, got acquainted with Khalid Mumtaz and his brother, who live in Lahore, via the Internet.

Patel claimed they had even "solemnised their marriage" through the Internet. After the Internet chatting, she said, they spoke regularly on phone and had decided to marry.

The couples had first tried the legal route to happily-ever-after, but the denial of visas by the Pakistan embassy disappointed them. Next, they thought, they could try to travel across to the other side as a historic bus service had been started between the two countries.

After a stay at a local hotel - Anand Hotel - in Poonch, Patel and Sharma took an auto-rickshaw to the LoC.

Last year, Patel and Khalid had decided to meet at the Wagah border in Amritsar, Punjab, Patel told her interrogators.

The girls had reached the Wagah border and the Border Security Force (BSF) and the Pakistan Rangers allowed them to meet each other after repeated requests, a statement the army and police are trying to verify.

Last month the two decided on the Internet to meet again and Khalid suggested that Patel and Sharma cross over through Chakan Da Bagh.

Police official S.D. Singh Jamwal told reporters that after verifying their antecedents and cross-checking with their families, the police and the army had decided to let the girls off.

(IANS)

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nice article. thanx.  the first thing that comes to the mind to u people: THEY R MAD.

but if u were them, u would be just thinking how much u luv them and somehow u want to meet them. when u r in luv,  u don't bother abt any other thing but urself. love is indeed blind. love just happeneds and u can't help urself from happening it.