Originally posted by: abhijit shukla
In final analysis, it is upto the two spouses as to how much they wish to make it work.
The reason it is more fragile today is that it no longers is the symbol of ultimate fulfilment for the woman.
100 years ago - a woman had to hold onto the marraige, no matter how badly she was treated. Now she can look forward to a career if the marraige breaks apart. So now walking away from the marraige is a viable option for both the spouses.
It used to be that a lot of things held the marraige togather: society, extended family, financial dependance, love, children.
Now only the last two are possible glues for the marraige. If there is no love and if there are no children...the first three factors are not there to hold the marraige togather. And some times even children are not enough to endure the bitterness of a sore marrage. There is a prevailing theory that children are better off in a happily broken than unhappily togather family.
This from a happily married person who understands the above implications.
👏have to agree with you all the way.....additionally there is the ego factor too(side effect of financial independence) . people find compromise harder these days and thier expectations from thier lives and spouses are much higher. few years back ...guys were happy with thier wives as long as they excelled in household maintainence. these days wives are supposed to not only be good at household activities but also be capable of earning money, looking good, talking fluently in english........the list goes on. similarily as long as a guy could support his family financially, his wife was normally happy with him....these days wives want a good looking husband who is romantic, shares household and parenting duties, earns well and treats them as equal and.......so on.
all this puts a lot of pressure on a relationship that most people " take for granted" and hence there is increase in divorces. also indiscriminate westernisation and use of sensational media(tv shows, lives of rich and famous, movies) seem to further rip the fabric of marraige apart. if you check out the recent hits...they justify infidelity(kank ) , kids outside wedlock (salaam namaste)and remarraiges(ekta shows).
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