Posted: 28 June 2014 at 10:06am | IP Logged
Originally posted by deepkriti
Originally posted by .PheonixFire.
My way of thinking is different from the girl in the story though. It could be circumstance or attitude towards life and everything you get in life. I believe in fighting no matter if alone. I don't believe in accepting everything that comes your way being positive till its too late. I never give anyone any right to destroy or influence my life no matter who that person is to me. We are in 21st century. Girls are not weak. we are stronger than any man on the earth. We need to realize it. Society never bothers about anyone then why bother about it.
I don't believe in survival. I believe in living and living with my pride, my dignity and dreams. The story was good. But somehow I felt the girl was weak. She was not a survivor for me. She should have fought with her father. If he was so adamant on not supporting her she should have left her house and should have tried to pursue her studies. So, called sacrifices can never give anyone happiness. In this story too she accepted what her father decided for her. But after whatever happened with her, will her father ever be happy? I don't think so. No parents want that for their kids.
Being divorcee is not the best thing. But giving up and waiting for death is worse than being dead already. She gave so much importance to her circumstances. I don't think there was any fight back from her side. She should have continued her studied after coming back. She should have tried to make a worthy life for her. That should have been a fight back for me. That's what a warrior do. Warriors don't stay and wait for death after defeat. They fight and fight harder after every defeat. That's what makes them unique... a warrior.
Don't mind just my thoughts. I don't tolerate things, that's why I can't take such stuff. Don't mind me saying this but this is warrior series. So, post some stories based on girls who actually fought back and got successful in life. Stories which can inspire everyone. Stories which shows strength and courage of girls. Survival is not important. Survival is the thing that even animals know how to do. We are humans and we require more than survival. Warriors don't just fight for survival they fight to win.
The story was good but I would have appreciated a better one.
P.S- Sorry if I come across harsh. I don't have any hard feelings for anyone. This is just my view.
honestly I don't take any critic word of my reader as harsh until certainly out of limit. I can completly understand your opinion.infact to some extent I agree to it. But certainly u r forgetting one very big thing that every coin has two sides.u might not consider her a warrior but I do. Obvio thats why
I so wanted to write this stry asap. Every girl is not that bold enough. She was timid becoz her env made her that way. Her father was strict and conservative. She could have fight but then comes a big big fact. He is her father and she really loves him. May be if she could have fought, he might have understood but if she didnt there was a fear that she might lose him, her entire family and I knw why it feels like. Next when she was told to quit studies, most middle class girls cant even argue on that topic. The point was yet again the same. She could have gone against. May be she should have. But those boundations become so natural that she font even think of escaping out of them. Just think if from the age of 5 you are taught to remain mum, silent and meek, woulnt it become ur absolute self. The girls from conservative family are well trained to do that. I am not supporting what she does,becoz in no case keeping mum and handeling torture can be correct. But on the other hand, you cant ignore what made her do that. I m only saying to understand her position. Middle class girls from a conservative family know where the ground lies. Thats where mentality comes and thats where u me and every other girl differs. Its not personal behavior. Its the kind of upbringing. And infact believe me the kind of upbringing that she had, I m sure that calling her mom to take her back home would have taken ample of courage. Her step would not only have taken her but her whole family under the eyes of society. But still she sidelined that society factor and took a step ahead. There are many girls who actually bear it all without a word just because of that society factor. But she did come out and thats why she is a warrior for me.
p.s. I am just keeping my point as you kept yours. No hard feelings dear. There are millions of people on this people and you cant expect every two to have same thinking
I don't think to fight you need to be bold. To fight you need courage and courage comes from within it has nothing to with upbringings. How anyone treats you mostly based on how you want yourself to be treated. About strict parents, I have very strict parents and they are somewhat conservative too like any other family. You said that the girl didn't want to loose her father. I am sure no one can please anyone if they are not happy themselves. What do you think after she came back her father was happy? I don't think so.
I don't think there is any fight which can make you loose your parents. They can get angry but once they see you successful, happy they forgive you. Because at the end of the day every parent want his child to be happy. Can you imagine the guilt her father would have faced? May be no. May be he will spend his entire life in regret which will kill him everyday. Can this girl who loves her father a lot justify this?
Upbrining plays its role in your nature, your approch towards things and you view... everything. Even if I agree that the girl was not able to protest and got married. I want to ask you why didn't you write something like she continued her studies after divorce and became something. It would have been more proper ending. I don't think the series is to show how worse is the condition of women in society. We all know that already. But from what I think this series is to motivate. To show how one insident or bad past can't beat a brave soul. There was hopelessness in that girl at the end. Which I can't digest the most. To sum it all I think it would have been more inspirational.
I sure you are aware that there are many real life stories where girls and women who were not even literate fought back what naught and became source of inspiration for many. So, I don't think just upbringing and circumstances can hold who you are.
I believe that if my life is to ruin I will take full credit of it rather than anyone else taking pleasure or being guilty for it. Life is too short to live for everyone. You have to live for yourself than only you can selflessly think about everyone.
The story was still quite realistic but end was not good to be honest.