Discussion Thread #1 - Page 5

@ Heema

ITA with you. There are shades of intrigue, and overall the plot is not without possibilities, but right now it is really anorexic, and needs to move on beyond pitting women against each other. We get it that it is very difficult to be the "chodi hui aurat" even in today's india, without the CVs trying to push it down our throats with a stick in each episode. Also, can we have a break from the "sacrificial bakra"🤢 act for which telly serials are famous??

Originally posted by: aimf

@ Heema

ITA with you. There are shades of intrigue, and overall the plot is not without possibilities, but right now it is really anorexic, and needs to move on beyond pitting women against each other. We get it that it is very difficult to be the "chodi hui aurat" even in today's india, without the CVs trying to push it down our throats with a stick in each episode. Also, can we have a break from the "sacrificial bakra"🤢 act for which telly serials are famous??

PS 

Edited by Heema22 - 9 years ago

@Heema

I am enjoying your thoughts on the episodes. Re: your post script, I think this is exactly where the possibilities for the serial lie. I think if the CVs are insightful about it, they can choose to probe into the internalized oppression of women in India and actually make a decent statement out of this.

The MIL is trying to overcompensate having been abandoned by her own husband by being in denial and projecting her intense discomfort towards other women in her own situation. In her bid to gain respectability and live in her society, she has ignored introspecting upon her own situation with self-compassion and non judgement. Subconsciously tormented by the ghouls of self-criticism and non acceptance of her own condition, Ambika, the MIL has developed 2 coping mechanisms:

1. being in control of everything and everyone all the time; and,
2. projecting her subconscious self-loath on other women, especially her daughters in law.

Therefore, the MIL cannot stand the elder daughter in law, whose vulnerable condition is a painful reminder of her own condition, and her inability to forgive herself for having been left by her husband in a helpless situation. Ambika cannot stand the youngest daughter in law as her very person who has openly flouted her obsession for control.

In other words, Ambika's treatment of Vedika, the elder daughter in law exemplifies # 2, and  her interactions with Sweety, the youngest one, illustrates # 1.

It will be interesting to see what will happen when Devyani enters the household as the middle daughter in law. Will she be an effective mediator of the treatment doled out to the elder and the younger DILs? Will her presence lead to the healing of old wounds of her MIL, Ambika, or will she first 
serve to air out more coping mechanisms? Only time will tell.

On an unrelated note, can they please speed things up?? Is repeatedly zeroing in on every face and turning it into sepia toned stills set to loud music the only way to show shock?? 😆

Originally posted by: aimf

@Heema

I am enjoying your thoughts on the episodes. Re: your post script, I think this is exactly where the possibilities for the serial lie. I think if the CVs are insightful about it, they can choose to probe into the internalized oppression of women in India and actually make a decent statement out of this.

The MIL is trying to overcompensate having been abandoned by her own husband by being in denial and projecting her intense discomfort towards other women in her own situation. In her bid to gain respectability and live in her society, she has ignored introspecting upon her own situation with self-compassion and non judgement. Subconsciously tormented by the ghouls of self-criticism and non acceptance of her own condition, Ambika, the MIL has developed 2 coping mechanisms:

1. being in control of everything and everyone all the time; and,
2. projecting her subconscious self-loath on other women, especially her daughters in law.

Therefore, the MIL cannot stand the elder daughter in law, whose vulnerable condition is a painful reminder of her own condition, and her inability to forgive herself for having been left by her husband in a helpless situation. Ambika cannot stand the youngest daughter in law as her very person who has openly flouted her obsession for control.

In other words, Ambika's treatment of Vedika, the elder daughter in law exemplifies # 2, and  her interactions with Sweety, the youngest one, illustrates # 1.

It will be interesting to see what will happen when Devyani enters the household as the middle daughter in law. Will she be an effective mediator of the treatment doled out to the elder and the younger DILs? Will her presence lead to the healing of old wounds of her MIL, Ambika, or will she first 
serve to air out more coping mechanisms? Only time will tell.

On an unrelated note, can they please speed things up?? Is repeatedly zeroing in on every face and turning it into sepia toned stills set to loud music the only way to show shock?? 😆

Edited by Heema22 - 9 years ago

@ Heema

Let us see how the plot unfolds. Right now there are no answers to the following questions:

1. What kind of a family conveniently keeps a filled kerosene ka dabba on a shelf in their bedroom?
2. Okay, let us let go of the first point. Who in their right minds wishes to immolate themselves
just because the engagement with a perfect stranger that they had not even met does not take place?
3. Why is there so much loud BG music, annoying and downing out the dialogues?
4. I can understand how Anoushka came under Chachi's vile influence and started to doubt her sister. But why/when did Anoushka get so silly and mentally unstable as to lose her sense of reason.
5. Why is Devyani a self-sacrificing queen? If that is how her character was to be drawn, then why were we shown a taste of the modern, educated, self-respecting and intelligent Devyani? Where did the CVs hide her and why?

@ rani

Please do join in the discussion when you can.

I'm  behind on the show a little so will join in once I catch up.

I did speak to Nivedita.  She said thanks for the support 😊

Btw did this is happen already?

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=swWScFX8l4U[/YOUTUBE]
Edited by rani2007 - 9 years ago

@rani

Originally posted by: aimf

@ Heema

Let us see how the plot unfolds. Right now there are no answers to the following questions:

1. What kind of a family conveniently keeps a filled kerosene ka dabba on a shelf in their bedroom?
2. Okay, let us let go of the first point. Who in their right minds wishes to immolate themselves
just because the engagement with a perfect stranger that they had not even met does not take place?
3. Why is there so much loud BG music, annoying and downing out the dialogues?
4. I can understand how Anoushka came under Chachi's vile influence and started to doubt her sister. But why/when did Anoushka get so silly and mentally unstable as to lose her sense of reason.
5. Why is Devyani a self-sacrificing queen? If that is how her character was to be drawn, then why were we shown a taste of the modern, educated, self-respecting and intelligent Devyani? Where did the CVs hide her and why?

@ rani

Please do join in the discussion when you can.